from a girl he met on the internet last October, she lives in Leeds, they had planned to meet, they got on well via email and text, but i did warn him about internet dating but he wouldn't listen and told me he'd be ok, he is 22 and she's 21 anyways a few days later her came back but didn't tell us much about it, but i assumed it went well because he seemed happy, i asked if he was ok and he said he was, anyways she stopped contact with him and no more was said about it BUT today he got an email from her with 2 pictures of a little girl who is about 3 months old, she claims that this is his daughter, i am as shocked as he is, just wondered why she never told him that she was expecting, she wants him to go see her, i told him to call her first, what do you think he should do? he's a good lad, if he knew she was pregnant he would have supported her 100%, should he go see her? i think he should, but they need to talk first... am i right for encouraging him or should i leave him to it?
2006-10-23 10:38:31 · 10 answers · asked by ketchanski 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sorry, HE is my son, i forgot to add that, lol, heres one confused mum, lol,
2006-10-23 10:40:02 · update #1
she has his hair colour, strawberry blonde and blue eyes, she looks pretty much like him, comparing pics i dont know why this girl didnt tell my son, but i know they slept together while he visited her, maybe it was a moment of madness, i really have no clue, but they did, i wish she'd have told him, he would have helped her, i think i will just leave them to it, it's between him and her, but i did suggest a DNA test just to make sure, i am not a bad minded person but it's in his best interest, he also has a 2 year old son to his ex and akes good care of him, and both kids look very much alike
2006-10-23 10:56:44 · update #2
ok more details...he went to see her on 18th October 2005, and the baby was born on 1st july 2006
2006-10-23 10:59:04 · update #3
oh definitely leave your son to sort this out, he will tell you in good time whats going to happen, just be there for them, this may be your 2nd grandchild, so be patient and just see what happens, and definitely get a DNA test just for peace of mind, she may have had her reasons for not telling you son she was pregnant, she may have been scared of rejection, so she's kept it to herself, your son sounds like a good man as you mentioned he takes care of his son also, just give him time to absorb, after all it has come as a shock to him, he needs thinking time, he will find out sooner or later, and if she is your blood then congratulations,..one more Christmas present to buy and a little half sister for your grandson to play with, good luck
2006-10-23 14:29:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has to compare his own baby photos with this baby first, can he see any of his features? If he thinks this baby is his then he should arrange to see her to see where the future stands. He could be letting himself in for a lot of heartache - it's no fun being pregnant and to opt to go it alone for no reason when he would have been there for her seems strange. Also tell him to make sure any arrangements are pay per view not him emptying his wallet every month for a child he never sees.
2006-10-23 17:42:35 · answer #2 · answered by Oldgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm confused, you mean your son went to meet the girl ONCE and she stopped contacting your son, and now claims she had a daughter with him? Is the timing right? I'd ask for a paternity test. I think there is something up with that girl.
2006-10-23 17:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by mom_of_ndm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have your son contact her and tell her that if the child is his he will gladly help support him/her financially but that she must first undergo a DNA test. There are lots of people out in cyberspace looking to prey on good lads like yours
2006-10-23 17:54:41 · answer #4 · answered by serrano_bill 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i'd tell him to stay well clear of a girl like that. only god knows how many fellas she has said that to.
its not like they were going out or anything it was basicly a cup of tea and a slice of qulilt. as far as i would go in a sutiation like that i would demand a test to prove that the child was his thenlet them talk.
there are monay grabers out there and if she could only get a few to think that the child was theirs then wouldn't she be getting handy money for nothing
2006-10-23 17:50:43 · answer #5 · answered by vexon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you have to buy an extra Christmas present Grandma
Don't condem the girl just yet if this child is his daughter then i am sure you would love to have your grand daughter as part of your lives..
2006-10-23 18:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is playing a trick on your son. but if she is serious, let them get a dna test.
2006-10-23 17:51:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Insist on a paternity test. See if she would be willing to marry him if he is the father.
2006-10-23 17:42:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
DNA the only way.
2006-10-23 18:02:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay out of it
2006-10-23 17:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by chass_lee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋