how do i get over a 14 year relationship break up.?

Answer 1

why did u guys break up in the 1st place?
i suggest getting back wit him..

Answer 2

focus on you, be positive and plan a new future, i know you wont believe ths now but once you have adjusted to your single life, you'll be wondering what all the fuss was about, it's hard adjusting after 14 years, i was in a very long relationship too and it took me 6 months to get my head together, i have been single for over a year now and my life is just starting to come together, i am happy and i have my freedom, AND i am doing the things that i never did when i was with my ex, i do miss the male company, but thats only when am feeling a bit down, i miss the cosy nights in and the cuddles and hugs, it will get better, you just have to start doing different things instead of dewlling on the past, time is a great healer, it will get better, go out more, have your friends over, dont be alone, join college, you have to make it better in order to move on, i wish you the best of luck, x

Answer 3

I was with my ex for14 years and it was the worst time of my life after we split!
She was "seeing" someone else but it took 3 months before she told me,he was a" friend".
This is when every one feels the break up emotions,hurt, anger,disbelief,revenge,rage and you think it wont get any better.
The best advice i could give is:-
Take each day and fill it with friends and family,
keep yourself busy, take up a new hoby,
keep contact to a minimum,
dont have a rebound relationship
and most importantly forget any thoughts of revenge and very soon the pain will ease!
If you have a moment where you think of her/him and it's hard to shake off, just immagine them taking a dump,it really works!!

Answer 4

there is no quick fix for the break up of a long term relationship, you have to think of it like a death of a close family member, you will need time to go though the grieving period, it can be a very long process, depending on how much support you can get, you will need to learn to live on your own, sleep at night, and to like your own company, all this can happen, it will take a lot of time/willpower, also you will have to learn to totally let go, to the extent that if you see your "x" you don't react, also don't try to get even, or ever consider taking your x back, it will not work, and it will be horrendous 2nd time round

Answer 5

With a lot of hard work, get friends round and not to put the world to rights to have a good time complaining will just make you feel worse. Make plans for the wonderful future you will have as at the end of the day i am sure your a good person and you will need no one but you. Tie any loose ends away that will make it oray on your mind also.

Answer 6

hey!! i know this might sound like a cliche but it does get easier... believe me i know what its like.. 16 years down the drain, all for nothing, felt really low etc.. but then after the heartache, crying, anger, loneliness, total destruction of self worth i picked myself up and for the sake of my own life i went out there and done my thing. I realised i was a lovely person, attractive to other men and got attention. a few years later and after some 'me' time i met a man.. a man i love and cheris with all my heart... I now know what love really is!

email me if you want to chat ... im here for you hun xxxx

Answer 7

Its going to be really hard as you're so used to one another but keep in mind it ended for a reason and there is no point reminiscing as that's unrealistic cos it wasn't like that at the end !!

Be strong and good luck !!!

Answer 8

Time, keep yourself busy. Moving if possible. Start a new life.

Answer 9

one day at a time, dont make any quick decisions and keep yourself occupied with a hobby

Answer 10

take it slow and keep doing the things you enjoy whats going to happen will happen just dont rush it