My friend had called me before and told me things that my ex best friend had been saying about me. She had said that the girl who I will name Kelly was saying that my exboyfriend cheated on me with her and thats why he broke up with me. She says things about my exboyfirend hwen she insited that she liked him. She calls my friend Nicole names and is really mean to her. I don't understand why someone has nothing better to do then talk about people who have done nothing to her but been nice to her. I have to warn my friends tommorow of what she is saying. I am so mad at her? What should I do. Thanks in advance for your help.
2006-10-23 10:33:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Unfortunately, you will run into many people like this girl in your life. Some people are just born instigators- for some reason, either because they're jealous of you and the good things you have in your life, or because they're so insecure about themselves that they feel the only way to get people to like them is to say mean things about other people, or sometimes people just like the drama of it all. I'm sure many people have already told you to just ignore her, but I know how hard it can be to have to come face-to-face with someone who spreads hurtful names and rumors about you every single day. It doesn't sound like she's mature enough to have a grown-up conversation with you, but you could try to sit down with her someplace private and ask her why she's doing this. Just say it like this: "Lately I feel that you have had some sort of grudge against me and my friends. Is there something I did to you to make you angry at me?" Then she might open up and let you know what's bugging her and how you can help. (More likely, though, she'll say something snotty and immature, but you have to at least try to get through to her.) If that doesn't work, you might actually just have to ignore her, hard as that is. Your REAL friends will know that everything she's saying is 100% false anyway. Good luck!
2006-10-23 10:41:34 · answer #1 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age makes a big deal here. If you are over 16 just be way cool and tell anyone who cares that you don't care people can say and do what they want it is a free country (in a sweet and nice way). Your other friends from there on will be your voice if need be, they know you. You can say it is yesterdays news and you have already moved on. Do not let anyone know it bothers you. Keep that smile and the whole world will smile back (ok maybe not your x but thats thier problems) BE COOL:)
2006-10-23 10:42:10 · answer #2 · answered by laxthefacts 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-01 01:33:45 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
laugh it off and play it cool. Your friends will think thats really mature from you and follow your lead, soon, this Kelly girl will be left to playing her own barbie-soap opera stories on her own.
Don't warn your friends about her, just talk about her like you're bored of her-and keep the talk short. Mean it. You are bored of sh*t like that, right? Trust me, this will get the best responses. And hopefully you will all learn a grown-up lesson to leave childish games in middle school.
2006-10-23 10:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by kat...grrr... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, sounds like you "friend" is a Bi^ch. Stay away. Pay no mind to what she told you. Let your friends know that she called you saying really bad things about everyone. Don't start a big rumor. Because if you do, it will only get worse. Just let everyone in your CLICK, know that she is just jealous of your friend ship and really needs to grow up!
2006-10-23 10:38:07 · answer #5 · answered by Cali Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd sink to her level but only out of good to teach her a lesson. Hopefully she'll feel what you've been feeling and stop starting rumors. You never know until it happens to you. Some people need to be taught a lesson, of course you don't want to sink to her level, just sometimes you have to take matters into your own hands.
2006-10-23 10:59:42 · answer #6 · answered by Bebe760 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit your ex- best friend down, and let her know how childish she is being. Friends seem to get jealous when you start hangin' out with other friends...... All you could do is let her know how you feel, and that your not going to let anything she is saying bug you. And tell her if she has anything to say about you, come to you about it, not behind your back. and when she can seem to grow then come talk to you about things.......
2006-10-23 10:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by *Red Hotts* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um you are falling into a trap of even listening or being in the same group as your ex friend. That is how they have power over you.
2006-10-23 10:35:14 · answer #8 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even though it's hard, it's usually best to just ignore bad-mouthers. Eventually everyone realizes they're full of crap and if you haven't said anything back to her, you'll come out looking much better and more mature.
2006-10-23 10:37:03 · answer #9 · answered by Anna R 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do nothing!! As tempting as it might be to start saying bad things about her-don't do it! Don't stoop to her low level, the people she says things to already know she is being childish, so why make them think you are being childish to?
2006-10-23 10:36:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋