What should i do?

Question

my relationship sucks, pretty much. We get in a stage where we just make each other more and more upset. How can I lighten it up or make it nice? sexy, loving, romantic, fun? he clings onto things that are wrong with us, even obsesses about little things, and there's no way to console him. if i talk about leaving, he breaks down and says he cant let go. I want to be with him, i want it to work, but we are both unhappy. He seems to like making me unhappy though. just as long as i stay.

Answer 1

This sounds unhealthy all the way around!
Do yourself a favor , and break it off ASAP!
This guy needs constant reassurance.Something must've been REALLY wrong at home when he was a kid.That's something that you're not going to be able to fix.He needs to do that himself.
It also sounds like you have a "mother-hen" thing goin' on,or else you wouldn't be stickin' around.That ain't cool either! That attitude is just gonna draw ya to guys that need their Momma! Do you wanna be Momma ? Or do you wanna be part of a real (ADULT) relationship?
Take some time to fix that and clear your head before you even THINK about gettin' with someone else!

Answer 2

I am going through somewhat the same thing right now with my boyfriend.

Tell him that if you guys are ever going to be happy together, that you need a break right now. If he respects you he will allow you to do this without making you feel guilty. You should both get counseling (not couple counseling...individual counseling) that way you can each know ways to keep your relationship healthy and fun. Counselors exist to help you see the big picture and help you to understand things in a broad perspective.

Tell him until you both get counseling for a while, you don't want to be with him. It will work if you both want it to and are open to new things!

Answer 3

A psychologist (which I'm not) would tell you your bf has a victim mentality. Or, if you want to go with "Games People Play," he is playing "kick me." Either way, he needs to grow up or find himself a new dominant mistress. Hopefully he will grow up. You could try a trial separation, maybe that would knock some sense into him.

Good luck.

Answer 4

if you really want to be with this men. maybe you to should plan a romatic vacation . tell him to forget the past and just enjoy this time.if after the vacation things dont work maybe you two should seek some type of counceling... if all else fail then its time to go. maybe he will miss you, when you are gone ,and he will strighten up...and you two can reconect better ten ever, later on down the time.

Answer 5

Go to couples counselling. Maybe he's suffering from depression, or something.............But if you want to be together, and make things work, then make it work. Counselling always helps. It may help him get over the issues, and let you know what is really going to be best for you.

Answer 6

I'm sorry, but it seems like you guys aren't working out. As kindly as you can, and even if he breaks down, I would tell him that you don't wish to contiue doing this anymore and that you would rather that the two of you just be friends.

Answer 7

the reason we DATE people is to find out if they are the person we want to spend our lives with. It is a wonderful opportunity to have fun and get to know one another without pressure... why on earth would you want to FIX something that is not fixalbe??

Answer 8

Try talking to him. Maybe this will settle some of your problems if it doesn't and u still want to let go, tell him incely but staight forwardly that you just, must go

Answer 9

i think u guys need a break...just stay aprt for a while may be few months....make up some vaction together...later on..or now...