My friends 13 and shes getting drunk and shes doing it alot help i want to stop it but still be her friend!???

Question

my friends 13 and shes getting pissed alot and i think shes doing it coz she thinks its cool and i dont like it coz she dusnt need to drink to have fun and its dangrouns at her age rite?? she meens da world to me n i dnt wana loose her b-coz of this but i want her to be safe any advice ??

Answer 1

You need to tell her parents, well first of all tell your parents and let them handle it. That is seriously messed up and if you truly are a friend you wont enable her to do that by keeping quiet. If having a talk with her one on one hasnt worked, time to go up the chain with it. Good luck.

Answer 2

who is she doing this with? Is there more of her other friends that are invloved in drinking with her? That is way to young to start drinking. Maybe to have tryed it but not to go out all the time and get drunk at that age. Set her aside and ask her why she is doing this to herself. Find out why she truns to the booze in the first place. Tell her how you feel about it, and if she could just put it off for another couple of years that would make you happy and as well could save her in the long run. Do things with her that dont involve drinking, show her that girls her age have fun without drinking. If it doesnt stop tell her parents about it, the need to know what is going on. And if you can tell them that they didnt hear it from you this way she wont get mad at you for telling. Parents have a lot more controll. So after you talk to your friend and she still doesnt listen, go to her parents asap. She might not like it but when she gets more older she will thank them and you for looking out for her.

Answer 3

As tough as a decision as this is.... you have to decide what
is more important....her health or her drinking. Chances are
that IF you tell someone then she will hate you for life, but it
may get her to stop drinking. If she keeps drinking she may kill herself (by accident).

Another thing you can do (which is hard, but may be your best option) tell her that she means the world to you, but that you can't handle her drinking and that if she keeps it up you will have
to walk away from your friendship. The friendship may end
or she may choose you.......either way.......as much as it will hurt you will have done what is best for YOU and really that is important. Also, this way you dont betray her confidence, but
you still make a stand!!!

I know that this is a hard thing for you, but remember at age 13 you life is just beginning and you have to learn to look out for you
as well as your friend. Chances are your friend is drinking...
not just because she thinks its cool, but because she is hurting
(something bad may have happened) and she wants to hide the hurt. Most people who drink alot (kids & adults) are hiding some ttype of emotional hurt.

You can always go to a counselor at school and talk to them about your concerns and let them know you wish for no one to know that you are the one who said something.

Answer 4

For starter, how about you both paying attention in school, if your spelling sucks I can only imagine how your drunken friend would spell. Secondly, let her know what it is like to be a "baby mama" without any child support at the age of 15. I am tried of paying my taxes for stupid immature teenagers who want to get pregnant, so that they can live comfortably on welfare FROM MY TAX DOLLARS..I WORK HARD!!!

That is where your 13 year old friend will end up..knocked up and myself and other hard working individuals will have to pay for her and her kid!!

I would suggest, get a good hobby!

Answer 5

don't tell her parents cuz then she'll get pissed but she'll get over it but always have her come over tell your parent's only if u can trust them not 2 tell but if u can't always keep her @ your house
hide the acohol @ your house where she can't find it say oh we ran out keep her busy @your house have fun with her and do stuff that she likes without liqour keep her busy where her minds not on acohol where is she getting it from if u tell her and your parents they will keep her away from her other friends that they can't trust except u cuz u told and all she won't do it again cuz u will be around and they won't let her go anywhere

DO WHAT U THINK IS RIGHT even if she mite get mad u r a good friend

Answer 6

have you asked her why she's doing it and what she 'gets' from it? She might just be upset or insecure about something, but you need to let her know that its not cool to get pissed and it doesnt make a girl look attractive. Maybe you get someone older (about 18) to tell her this so she realises that you don't need to drink to enjoy urself. Just be serious with her and let her no its because u care... she might get angry but she'll soon realise that its not fair on you xxx

Answer 7

Me and my mates drink as well but not all the time and we dont get totally pissed, im 13 as well, i think you should just tell her how you feel about her getting pissed all the time, tell her that your worried about her health and dont want her to ruin her life by getting totally pissed all the time hope it helps xx

Answer 8

You need to tell her mom or her parents some one because she need help. Because there is so much that can happen to her when she's drunk and if you really care about her you will tell. Don't feel like a snitch your doing this for her own good.

Answer 9

it is verry dangerous, especially at her age
you should definetly talk to her about what it can do to her body and health. Also talk to your parents or someone you trust. you might want to try to get her invovled in lots of extracurricular activities, that might make her stop just a little at least. If things don't get better, talk to her parents.
just remember that you are her friend. she might need to be reminded of that.

Answer 10

Just be there for her. Don't turn your back. You do need to talk to your parents and get their advice. Go from there and see where that leads. Hopefully everything will work out.