the time i found out 1 month ago he left his wife he was 52 and i am 25 we seen each other everyday and things where great friday i told him i was take my kids out of town for the weekend he called me friday night and told me he loved me things where great then about1030 he called and i did not answer he left all kinds of crazy msg on my voice mail i seen he called and ignore him cause i was spend time with my children he called 17 times and filled my voice mail 2clock thenext day i find ou the was killed in a car wreck i fill so guilty what should i do do i go to the funeral do i call his family?
2006-10-23 10:18:59 · 19 answers · asked by allison b 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
That's terrible. I really feel u should stay out of it as u are not part of his family. If u want to visit him, do it after the funeral. Do not do it during. U don't need to add anymore grief to an otherwise tragic situation.
2006-10-23 10:35:23 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have to put reality to each point in your Question. Was he divorced from his wife if not then you should not go to the funeral or contact his family. They will more than likely side with the wife. If you feel you need to go to the funeral go as just a friend or just go to the grave site later on. About him calling you have nothing to feel guilty about if you were spending time with your kids that's nothing to feel guilty about nor is it anything to get mad about. He did wrong and maybe he was freaking out because he felt like karma was coming around to bite him on the but. Sorry for your loss.
2006-10-23 17:30:48 · answer #2 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
think a minute there is no 52 yr. old man needs to be going out with a 25 yr. old girl, what do you want a father figure?, Sorry about the loss, but a funeral is for a family and friends to grieve you are neither you were a younger lover for this man someone to make him feel important in front of his buddies thats it go on with your life and find someone your own age, hey i have a son 29yrs. old interested?
2006-10-23 17:31:08 · answer #3 · answered by connie m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would be best that you didn't go to his funeral unless the wify knew about you. Still it could not be very pretty. You didn't cause the accident. Don't feel guilty. But if you loved the man you should have taken his calls.
2006-10-23 17:23:00 · answer #4 · answered by :o) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. Some tale. It probably worked out for the best. Save his family from extra grief and skip the funeral. It's not your fault he's dead. Seek some counseling to get over it. Try not to bang married men any more, however delicious and forbidden they may be.
2006-10-23 17:22:22 · answer #5 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go, don't call. LEAVE IT ALONE!!!! You were having an affair with this guy for 3 months. All you will accomplish by making yourself known to them, is to tarnish his memory for his entire family. Just leave them alone, they are going through enough right now without adding the fact that he was cheating on his wife to the mix. At least this way they will have good memories of him. Stay away.
2006-10-23 17:24:49 · answer #6 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the F would you call his wife when he cheated with you for 3 months? So what if you were already in love with him.....he was married to someone else! I second the motion to stay away from married men. You should concentrate on your children and stay away from married men. They and their wives can create potentially dangerous situations and can effect your children and put them at risk.
2006-10-23 17:38:54 · answer #7 · answered by Raven 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would not call his family or go to the funeral, he left his family because of your presence in his marriage, and his poor wife has had enough grief, it's not your falt he had an accident,don't feel guilty about his death.show his family respect, your presence at the funeral would add to the wife's pain.
2006-10-23 17:25:45 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ending it once you found out he was married was the right thing to do, for yourself, your kids, and for his family. Let his family grieve for him in peace. Learning of your existence now will only cause more pain for them, and more feelings of guilt for you.
2006-10-23 17:25:58 · answer #9 · answered by Rayen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not feel guilty. I would not go to the funeral.
2006-10-23 17:34:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋