My husband and I are the envy of our friends and relatives because we have such a great relationship. I cheated on him for no reason. We had a baby 7 wks ago and the baby looks jut like the guy that I cheated with. Because it was just a one-day-fling with the cable man, I didn't keep his telephone #, don't know where he lives, don't know his last name, but I do know that he no loner works for the cable company. So I have no way of contacting him. My husband is so excited about our precious son. Should I tell him the truth? I'm so embarassed.
2006-10-23 10:16:02 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
YES! You are a horrible person! How could you do that if you are happily married!! Tell him and accept the fact that he will divorce you...as he should!
2006-10-23 10:20:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should feel a little bit more than just embarrassment. Y, if you are so happily married, would you sleep with the cable man?You have ****** up BIG time and your selfish decision is going to ruin the lives of many. (Guess you WON'T be the envy of friends and family members when it's a real possibility that you'll be going through an UGLY divorce!!) How could you hurt someone that you claim to love so much for no reason at all? What will you do if the kid is not your husband's? Will you be on all the talk shows askin' the host and the studio audience to help you find your "baby daddy"? You need to tell your husband what's going on and soon. The longer you wait, the more pain you'll end up causing.
2006-10-23 10:28:14 · answer #2 · answered by baybeegrl5 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my sister had the same problem. If you are happily married, and want to keep your husband, don't tell him, because he will grow a small hatred for the child 'not being his own'. Unless it is a bit too obvious...(ie.different skin colour)
Now its only the guilt and karma of what you have done that you will have to deal with. I know that honesty is a good thing, but sometimes, it isn't always the best way around things. As long as you know that what you did was wrong, that's the most important bit. Maybe down the line, you should open up, but now is too early, your baby is still young enough for your husband to abandon, as he's not yet that attached as he would be if he raised your son. I know its harsh, but keep the peace. Always the best option.
Think about the kid. The last thing he needs is to grow up without a loving father. . .
2006-10-23 10:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by kat...grrr... 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the people who say to get a paternity test first before spilling the beans. If the baby is his then you still deserve to feel guilty for cheating on your husband for no reason. If the baby is that of the cable guy then you need to tell him. You owe that to your husband who has been faithful to you and the to the baby so when the baby gets older they can know who their real father is, you have NO right to deny that baby of knowing who the parents are just because of a mistake you made. I understand we are not perfect, but don't start this babies life out on a lie just so you don't have to pay the price for your mistake!.
2006-10-23 10:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am disgusted....you need to confess to him. That is such a terrible thing to do to that man! If you really wanted you could locate that stranger. I think he should also know as well. Maybe could have a slight chance with a blood test it might be your husbands child. Think of the future.. what happens if your daughter needs a blood transfusion and your husband can not help because he is not the biological father. Have a heart tell the guy. LL.
2006-10-23 10:24:00 · answer #5 · answered by italliansweety67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ooh this sounds like some Jerry Springer stuff. You should definitely tell him although you're doing this with a risk. He deserves to know and even though this will end up hurting him it's better than to wait years on down the road then tell him. You might as well let him know what's going on because the truth will somehow unravel it's self and not only will you end up hurting your child but you husband. What you did was wrong. Best of luck cause you'll need it!!!!
2006-10-23 10:21:00 · answer #6 · answered by rebble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know just for the happiness and excitement of you husband. do not tell anybody, and why do you want to get in touch with this guy to spoil three lives now-your child, husband and this cable guy, you punishment should be that you should feel guilty & embarrased for the rest of your life without sharring your feelings with anybody. Good this child looks like the guy - will never let you forget that you cheated on your loving husband
2006-10-23 10:23:40 · answer #7 · answered by Jinha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You most certainly SHOULD tell him! How would you feel living the rest of your life thinking you have a child and really don't, or even worse, living your whole life believing someone's your dad when they really aren't??? This is one of the biggest events in someones life. You can't lie to someone about something like this. Plus, I guarantee you your conscious will eat you alive in a couple of years, even worse than it is now, and it will be much more hurtful to hear the truth then. Do you seriously think you can live the rest of your life carrying this lie around on your shoulders?
2006-10-23 10:31:59 · answer #8 · answered by Eliz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The question should be" why did I cheat if I were happily married". Honestly, I hate cheaters, been cheated on before, and it sucks. It will surely break his heart to find out, so I don't know what to tell you, just know it can't be worth some sex , over breaking your husbands heart. Think about it.
2006-10-23 10:23:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get some of his hair out of his hair brush and get a paternity test done on your child to be sure before you say anything. There's no reason for you to go crushing his love for this kid unnecessarily. But then you should tell him the truth about your affair. I'm curious. How does an Extremely Happily Married woman have an affair anyway?
2006-10-23 10:19:30 · answer #10 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Uh...YEAH tell him the truth.
If he went and impregnated your cable girl and he had a baby, wouldn't you want to know??
You need to tell him...Even if he does leave you, which he has no reason not to.
Your friends should not envy your relationship with your husband because obvoiusly there is something wrong with it that you feel like you should need to cheat.
2006-10-23 10:19:44 · answer #11 · answered by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋