All right. Here's the thing. I've just had a fight with my college roommate, the first one ever. I don't think we were ever friends in the first place. She thinks stuff about me that's untrue, and all I wanted to know was why she couldn't be more quieter on the phone the other night. Seriously, I'm at my wit's end here. What do you think I should do?
What I mean is: I wanted to be friends with her before & we've gotten along so good times before. Now I'm still slightly angry at her, even though we're getting along (forcefully) as if no fight ever occurred. What would you do if something like this happened to you & how should I act around her or get along with her easily so I won't be constantly reminded of the hurt she obliviously caused during the fight?
P.S. I'm a freshman in college so this is the first time I've ever dealt with a college roommate problem.
2006-10-23 10:13:49 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Just be nice.Kindness kills the other person you know. Besides life is too short to worry about such little things. Enjoy life and live it to the fullest it lasts once. Good luck. LL.
2006-10-23 10:19:17 · answer #1 · answered by italliansweety67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound like it was that big of a deal really. I mean yes she was rude for being loud on the phone but it sounds as if that problem was resolved. Roomates problems are the toughest even when you are friends let alone when you're not exactly friends. If it would make you feel any better maybe you should just sit down and have a talk with her to clear the air. If anything is bothering you such as her thinking stuff about you that isn't true maybe now would be a good time to bring this up. It's only October and to me there would be too much time left in the school year to have to deal with a bad roomate situation. As long as she's respectful to you and your things you don't have to be friends but if it gets to a point where you just feel too uncomfortable or she continues to be rude I would look into other living arrangements.
2006-10-23 10:28:36 · answer #2 · answered by redsoxxfan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some things you just have to let go for the sake of being able to sleep at night! If you start a war with her trust me... it can get down right ugly! Nothing is worse in your first year in college than a horrible room mate. So, you two should make up some rules when you're getting along better, about quiet time and things like that. Who knows, there may be something you did to annoy her that caused her to lash out by being loud on the phone. Ground rules are a necessary evil to surviving dorm life!
2006-10-23 10:17:24 · answer #3 · answered by Phaylynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all... get rid of the hurt feelings.......they are a waste of your engergies. Life will help you toughen up and not be so sensitive. Just because someone says something about you, doesn't mean it is true. If you can learn that, your life will be so much easier.
Go ahead and act like nothing happened. Two girls who never met are put in one small dorm room......I am suprised you haven't agrued more.
Be sure and put this argument behind you. - Your anger only hurts you. She is free from it . it is a consept that you will learn as you mature. And thanks to this girl you might learn it early on in life and live a more peaceful life free of carrying around so much garbage so it does n't suck the life out of you.
The stuff she thinks about you was probably just anger coming out in unapproiate words. Let go of them.
Maybe......and I mean maybe, because you know her better than I do. Maybe.........you can sit down with her sometime and discuss boundries and agreements concerning being being roomates, Then you both sign it. This might freek her out. so if you don't think it is a good idea then don't do it.
Treat her the way you would want to be treated.
Start each day new and fresh
2006-10-23 10:53:03 · answer #4 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember all roommates fight.... be it spouses, college roommates, or even if you lived with a friend. Tell her you would like to talk and sit her down and explain to her how you are feeling and WHY you are feeling that way. Tell her you would like to be more respectful of her, but repect is a two-way street.
Be mature. If she gets angry...take a deep breathe and stay calm. All that two mad people will do is to make more trouble.
If this doesnt work and you live in a dorm.... go to your dorm advisor. If you live off campus......find another roommate.
College is suppose to be a time to get an education and a time to make lifelong friends while learing about you and coming into yourself as an adult. How you handle this situation may affect the way you handle the rest of life.
Good Luck!!!
2006-10-23 10:21:38 · answer #5 · answered by Trish 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
advise she gets a fan. Heck, you may bypass to Wal-Mart and get a fan for $5-$10. you may continually nail the window close while she isn't there. haha The fan theory could in all probability be the terrific element. If she provides grief, only tell her that obtaining ill or a sore throat is plenty much less confusing with chilly air coming in the room.
2016-12-08 19:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up! Think of this as practice for marriage. You have to deal/compromise with someone you are living with, regardless if you are right or wrong, as you cannot control behavior from others. You can always just treat her curteously. Get over it. harboring anger in yourself is not good for YOU.
2006-10-23 10:23:55 · answer #7 · answered by mom_of_ndm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mann u r in a pickle if u ask me
but in my opinion u should just go str8 up 2 her and
ask her why she thinks things about u
let her know that shes not being so
great. . . .just let her know how u feel
anyways i hope it works out for u
i am a freshman in college 2 so i know where ure
coming from
2006-10-23 10:33:10 · answer #8 · answered by bellalinda576 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just have to let somethings go! Its hard living with someone you don't really know for the first time. but these things happen...just try to brush it off!!
2006-10-23 10:22:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋