suppose your loved one hurt you - said something he shouldn't have?

Question

does it hurt them if you keep ignoring them and let's say this has been going on for a year (i wont go into all the detail)

i'm just wondering

thanx

Answer 1

If they care about you it should bother them. But they should have felt bad for hurting you to begin with,not because they're being ignored.

Answer 2

I think that by ignoring someone for saying something hurtful, you are trying to "teach them a lesson"...unfortunately, after a year, I think you go from teaching them a lesson to simply causing an irreversible rift in the relationship. You know how somtimes when you look back on something that has happened a year or two, or ten ago, you sometime don't remember all the details? Well, chances are, this person doesn't even really remember exactly what they did to make you so angry. Patch things up and move on...that's the healthies thing for you to do for your OWN well being. Don't harbor these feelings any longer.

Answer 3

Well because you are asking this question....I would assume that it is bothering...if not hurting you. So....who are you really hurting? Ignoring someone for a year is a little strange. Personally if what they had said is that bad I would just let it go. By that I don't mean start having a relationship with them again on the same level as before....but let it go as far as your feels are concerned. If after a year they have not made amends to you....then I don't think they are going to and by you holding onto this you are only hurting you not them.
Best of luck

Answer 4

If they hurt you and know so, they should be kissing your ***. I'm assuming they are.......since your ignoring them. But let it go, ever hear that saying there's a fine line between love and hate? Look at those who say they love eachother treat eachother?

They hurt you, and are still paying for it. If they are trying to talk to you, and make it up still, a year later, forgive the poor bastard. You are damaging what's left of the relationship more than you'll ever know. Sit down, finally talk it all out, and find the forgiveness in your heart.
I'm sure what my guy said to me was alot worse, and I forgave him. If you want the details, or to talk more, e-mail me, [e-mail]

Answer 5

as a married couple you guys need to learn the fine art of communication. This means that he needs to learn to say things more tactfully and that you need to learn to tell him how hurtful he's being without it blowing up into an argument that goes on for a year or so! You can't go on hurting each other, that is no kind of life to live. Sometimes you need to just forgive the ones you love in order to move on and continue your relationship. You cannot always live in the past. I think you two should seek counseling, that is, if you still love each other.

Answer 6

Ignoring him wont solve the problem it will only make it worse. We all make mistakes probably he meant no harm when he said what he said. so, find a place in your heart to forgive him then you too should talk about it and let him know that you didn't like the statement he made so he doesn't repeat it in future.

Answer 7

You are being abused. Verbal abuse is just a dangerous as physical abuse. Now is the time to decide if you want to continue living like you are. Get some help from someone that is qualified or talk to a trusted friend. Good Luck!

Answer 8

it might hurt them a little but i have found the best way to get back at some one and make them change is to do them the same way. say they called u a name u hated, well call them a name they hate and when they get pissed tell them now u know how it feels. and if it doesnt work the first time trust me it will eventually.

Answer 9

quit playing games

Answer 10

why try to hurt him. forgive and forget