I had abuse in my relationships and i'm over it. It doesn't upset me anymore, and I have put it in the past. But some things have remained, I am afraid of everything, afraid to trust. I am quieter than I used to be. What should I be doing to start to move on?
2006-10-23 10:05:45 · 9 answers · asked by sleepyme 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I had abusive relationships in the past as well and I thought I had put them behind me for years, then during a difficult time all those old feelings came pouring back out. Its natural that you would change a little such as being quieter. But, being afraid of everything and unable to trust are signs that you really have not put it in the past even if you consciously think that you have. Talk to a therapist, get in a support group where you can share your feelings and experiences with others who have been through similar ones. You are likely going to find that you will never be the "same"....but you can learn ways to address your fears and trust issues and move on with a healthy life and relationship.
2006-10-23 10:33:51 · answer #1 · answered by Dust in the Wind 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well....I don't think love is going to work with a fear of spiders. lol I would say that fear can be overcome through understanding, and reason. I used to be afraid of the dark as a kid. The usual, demons, ghosts, spirits, boogieman type stuff. It would keep me up almost every night as I had an overactive imagination. Then as I began to get older, I looked into the subject, and found that it was all in my head. There is no such thing as any of these, and the only thing that says they are true are myths, and folklore. I even got myself to believe the bible was/is a lie. There is no one "watching me", my dead ancestors do not live around me. demons don't lurk the earth, and the Devil really isn't that bad of guy. The biggest fact I found is that no one has ever proved that any of these things exist. So, I guess intelligence conquers fear. After I had tossed out my fear of the dark, I came to embrace it. Now I spend most of my day in the dark. :)
2016-03-28 05:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BUY A GUN...... no seriously..... Fear in some cases is basically anger from having a lack of control. This lack of control makes you feel inadequate to protect yourself. If you don't want to buy one have a friend who has one teach you about them and take you to a firing range. Then go pop off a couple dozen rounds to vent your pent-up anger over the situation. You will come away realizing there are other forms of POWER in this world that you have control of, that can help substitute for what ever causes your fear. It's sort of the turbo charged version of taking a self defense class, you find that you do have options for protection even if you chose never to employ them. Plus self defense lessons cost too much for what a novice actually receives in a years time.... P.S.... bigger is better
2006-10-23 10:55:25 · answer #3 · answered by Chip S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very good question. There are groups out there that you can join and help you out. that way you can talk about it with others that have experienced the same. I hate that you or any other person has to go through a relationship like that. I wish you the best of luck
2006-10-23 10:11:30 · answer #4 · answered by soldierman69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to over come fear is to face it .
2006-10-23 10:24:37 · answer #5 · answered by monro15 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
every great life has a bitter past and you too had been through it and now, start a new chapter with full of cheers and smiles that will help you fight evil and be a courageous person.
2006-10-23 10:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become independent for a while.Dont ask for a mans help on anything if you can help it.Learn and grow with someone a little at a time.
2006-10-23 10:08:24 · answer #7 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hang out with girlfriends and get out a lttle. Don't date anyone for a while. Talk to a therapist and get help
2006-10-23 10:09:00 · answer #8 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing to fear, but fear itself
2006-10-23 10:09:04 · answer #9 · answered by acid tongue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋