We have had an on again off again for a couple years. this past summer when we had been apart, he began lavishing me with gifts. I had not even spoken to him and did not want to. He sent me roses everyday and one day it was with a diamond bracelet. He had a whole set of furniture delivered to my home with a plasma TV. At this point I began talking to him and believing that he had changed (he is addicted to vicodin). He even bought me an engargement ring. However when I realized he was still the same person. i ended our relationship. Now he is saying he wants everything back. He says he is going to take me to court. I realize that the engagement ring should be returned but the rest of the items where gifts. Do I need to be concerned with his continual threats. He text me 37 times yesterday.
2006-10-23 09:58:38 · 34 answers · asked by jackie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First of all, it's good to know that he had been texting you. Your ex is a fool. Keep it as he just provided you with ammo to use against him.
Second, gifts may be returnable only at the discretion of the receiver, in this case you. My advice is, keep it. It's yours. By law, anything that you received voluntary and from a legit source, is yours. You can start singing Obladi-Oblada!! ha! ha!
2006-10-23 10:06:17 · answer #1 · answered by Liwayway 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't thin you need to be concerned about having to give the gifts back, if you do indeed plan on returning the engagement ring...a judge will probably let you keep the gifts as you weren't even together when he was lavishing you with them.
I would be more concerned with his stalking you - and that is what he has been and continues to be doing. I would let the authorities know about the constant text messages, and show them to them as well. I would ask him to not contact you anymore, ever.
Trust me...to heck with the "stuff"...this guy has a drug problem and is stalking you. Let the police handle this psycho.
2006-10-23 10:02:21 · answer #2 · answered by nottashygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually the courts say that if he broke off the engagement you can keep the ring, but it is best to give it back. As far as him wanting gifts back, tell him to take you to court, because no judge will rule for you to give back a gift. A gift is a gift now a loan is something entirely different! He is just probably trying to hurt you anyways! He is probably dishing out empty threats! Good luck!
2006-10-23 10:04:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the stuff. It will make up for the aggravation this guy is going to be giving you. Tell him you will have no choice but to get a restraining order on him if he does not stop bothering you. He sounds obsessed and you need to make sure he doesn't turn into a full blown stalker. He already sounds like the posterchild for a stalker in training. Drug addictions and threats are good indicators of a guy who is very disturbed. Get a restraining order if he won't let you be. And, again, keep the stuff. You should not have to give back a gift. Tell him not to be an indian giver.
2006-10-23 10:03:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When ever I watch the court tv shows....they say that if it is a gift the person gets to keep it. Now he might say different. Those people always seem to have text messages or something from that person saying "how did you like that". In other words...they try to prove that it was a gift. I never heard of someone getting what you got...good luck girl!
2006-10-23 10:04:13 · answer #5 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things:
1. You need to tell the police and get a restraining order against him. He is psychotic and may do something bad. Explain to the guy that you do not want him contacting you any more in any way. Change your phone number and e-mail accounts.
2. Gifts are gifts. They belong to you once you receive them. You are under no obligation to return anything, including the engagement ring.
2006-10-23 10:02:50 · answer #6 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Return the ring as is customary, but the other gifts are yours to keep. He can take you to court all he wants, but unless he can prove those gifts were purchased with the understanding that they will be placed in the house you would have shared as a married couple and not just as a "no strings" gift, he will just be wasting his money. The matter is "civil" and not "criminal" anyway.
The constant harassing is a criminal problem, the police can help you with that.
2006-10-23 10:03:55 · answer #7 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A gift is a gift unless you signed something stating you would give them back. You do not have to give them back. He just wants to impress some other girl by giving HER what he gave you. Tell him to sue.l But do remind him if he loses HE gets to pay all court cost including YOUR lawyer. And I can almost guarantee he will lose. I would suggest that if he has a key to your house you get the locks changed immediately!!!!!!!! Don't give them back.
2016-05-22 02:07:40 · answer #8 · answered by Ann 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep the texts, and return the ring, but KEEP the rest. They were a GIFT. If you have ever watched any of the court shows then you know that you are to keep the gifts. Tell him , it is his loss, that he picked the drug habit over you. And don't forget to bring up why you two can't be together. (because of his little drug habit)
2006-10-23 10:02:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not have taken these gifts if you were not together.
Thinking someone changed because they lavish you with gifts is
materialistic. Personally, I think it would be in your best interest
to just give him back everything. It sounds like he was trying to buy your love and you let him for awhile.
If he is texting you 37+ times a day.........cut all ties. Give him
back everything and call it a day.
2006-10-23 10:02:21 · answer #10 · answered by Trish 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋