just separated from my husbad not divorced yet and he keeps on saying he is going to take the baby away when born what can hapen or what protection services can i get?
2006-10-23 09:47:52 · 16 answers · asked by lazybutt916 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he cheated on me with 3 girls that i noe of befor we got married and then after we got married he cheated again with 2 girls the same from last time and i came back from visiting my parent and found out by his little brother he cheated again so i left this just barely happened yesterday and i havent seen a lawyer for divorse bc i have no job yet
2006-10-23 09:59:09 · update #1
oh and he says he's not signing any divorce papers, im just too tired to go thru all of this bull ****, i can go on living with his lies
2006-10-23 10:02:30 · update #2
This is a tough one. You know, bringing a child into this world should be a wonderful time for you and it is not. I am sorry about that. He is really being a jerk. He was a jerk before you guys got married, he was a jerk when you guys were married and he and he is continuing to be a jerk to you now. If you stay with him, that will make for a very unhappy 9 months. When you are pregnant, you are vulnerable emotionally because of the hormones, and physically because of the baby. If you stay with him it will keep stress on you and also your unborn child. You deserve better than that. You child deserves better than that. What is more beautiful than a woman having a child? Not much, but all he can do is threaten and hurt you. He has already put your life in danger by sleeping with someone infected with HIV. Have you gotten tested? You should, it is the best thing you can do for you and your baby.
Think about this. I want you to sit down and write a letter. I want you to write a letter to your baby telling him/her why you can't be there for them. What would you say? I can't be here for you because you father did not care enough about us to stay faithful in our marriage. He ended up giving me AIDS which cut my life short and now you have to grow up without a mother and a father (because it will kill him too). I am going to have to leave you before you graduate school because of a very selfish person. Think of the things you would not be able to say or do with your child because your husband cannot show any self control and has no loyalty. Trust me, if you have a girl and she is raised around him, his actions will tell her that she can expect the same thing from the man she loves. If it is boy, your husband's actions will teach him to disrespect women. You don't want that. You don't want this man to be the roll model for your unborn child. You don’t want this man to keep stepping on your heart, which I am sure only wants to be his soft place to fall. Is he your soft place? Can you go to him when you are hurt or crying or is he the one always causing the hurt and the tears. Oh sweet beautiful person, you child of light. You deserve more than what he has given you and what he will give you in the future. Heartache. You deserve more than that. He cannot take your child from you and you can make sure that he takes responsibility and help you care for your child. The courts will not give him your child. If you stay with him, not only will he continue to take your joy, he might cause you to lose your unborn child. Don’t give him that chance. Stand up to him for the sake of your baby. You can get though this. You will get through this. I wish you health, love, happiness and wealth in your life. :)
2006-10-23 10:23:46 · answer #1 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust me sweetie, I was in the same boat as you when I split w/my husband...2 months pregnant and going through seperation and divorce is stressful enough as it is and then having to worry about his threats. The ONLY way he can take the baby from you is to prove you an unfit mother. It is very hard for a court of law to take a child from it's mother unless it is something very terrible. He sounds like a real jerk anyway. So, just let him threaten all he wants to. As long as you are a good person and good mother, you have nothing to worry about. I know this through experience. My daughter is 8 years old now and I am now married to a wonderful man that is ten times the man of my first husband. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-23 09:53:10 · answer #2 · answered by Christal L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to a lawyer. Don't let him threaten you. You may have to have joint custody eventually, but not until the baby is done nursing and Dad can reasonably and safely take care of it. He will have to pay child support. It's very unlikely a court would let him take the baby away. But take steps now to ensure this does not happen:
1. Be responsible
2. Get a job and stable home
3. Use the court system to protect you and the baby's rights
2006-10-23 09:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by Big Momma Carnivore 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's threatening you a lot, you can get a restraining order. It'll help out with your stress level if he can't be around you or contacting you. You have enough to worry about, for your baby's sake! In addition to everything else written here, make sure you're taking care of yourself properly...no drinking, drugs, anything unhealthy while you're pregnant. He'd use it against you in court. Don't give him an inch! You have to start proving NOW that you're a good mother. That includes taking care of yourself and having regular doctor visits. Those medical records from doctor's visits will be helpful if your OB can testify in your defense. Good luck!
2006-10-23 10:00:27 · answer #4 · answered by A W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he can just take the baby away when the baby is born. He has to prove you as a unfit mother and go through the courts. I feel for you and wish you best. Try not to stress because that's not good for you or the baby. Good luck!
2006-10-23 09:51:18 · answer #5 · answered by ilvtnt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are entitled to peace and security. He is just trying to make you feel weak and insecure. Find a lawyer and find out what your options are. No judge is going to give a newborn to its father - ever hear of the "tender years" rule? You can get divorced whether he wants to or not or whether he signs papers or not. I repeat - GET A LAWYER.
2006-10-23 10:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a lawyer and proof of his infidelity. It doesn't cost a dime to call around n find lawyers, you get one smart enough your husband will pay through his butt and it will never cost you a dime. Legally he has to support his child, you can fight for alimony too to keep you accustomed to the lifestyle for which you are used to. Good luck n don't take anymore bs from him. Time to take care of that baby!!!
2006-10-23 10:23:27 · answer #7 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming divorce will be in the works? Go to the court and get some sort of support order in place. Your husband can't "just" take your baby. You're separated, paternity still has to be established.!!!!
2006-10-23 09:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by hairstylist1970 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's taking the baby? he can't if if he can't prove the kid is unsafe with you. Talk to a DA or lawyer about this matter.
If you can't afford it get one fron the court house at least,
2006-10-23 10:05:14 · answer #9 · answered by Ms.Budonkadonk 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a good Lawyer.
2006-10-23 09:52:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋