I lost both my parents 2 years apart. I miss them terribly and am finding it hard to move on. Can anyone suggest some way to help me cope?
2006-10-23 09:45:05 · 14 answers · asked by lockerroomattendant 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sweetie, I am so sorry to hear this. I have not lost my parents, but my mother has. Her mother and father died a month from each other. You should try getting with a support group that deals with death. Their are tons of them. There should be some in your town or city. Try looking into that because you can get support and really bond with people that have actually lost both their parents also. My mother went to something like this to help cope. Family and friends were also a support. No matter how hard it gets and even when you feel like you can't get up and move on, remember that your mother and father are still with you in spirit. I think that your mother and father would want you to keep pressing on and to find happiness. Even though their not here in physical form, they are with you in spirit always. I sincerely hope that in due time you will get through this, and the weight of this lifts off of you. Take care.
2006-10-23 09:58:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry about your loss..
I'm sending you a big pat pat on your shoulder.. and a caress on your head..
remember that they've finally met all the other members of your ancient family.. and that they're in a beautiful place.. taking care of you whenever they can.. and obviously they always looked at you.. with their enormous love..
poor little girl: you'll have to be very strong in your life.. remember that you can make it! and that they'll remain your best fans! :)
I don't know you so here you have some possibilities:
1) I have thought about your family.. and your closest friend..
but maybe you've tried this during the last 2 years..
2) what about taking care of another living creature?
what do you think about a puppy?
I don't know if you love them but they're very good companions and if you can take care of them it is a very positive thing.
3) you can also go to look for other people that have lost their parents too to find out the best thing to help you cope..
4) you can start with voluntary social service.. to help people with problems.. it makes you feel better..
5) a new hobby.. that really interest you (something that your mother or your father were doing as a hobby for example)..
hoping to have helped you..
stay well and remind that you're a strong woman now..
take care of you and write something if you like it,
we're here! :)
a big hug..
2006-10-23 10:40:30 · answer #2 · answered by monica 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having lost both of my parents also, I was in my 20's. I know where your coming from. No one can tell you how to grieve. I'm 35 now & I still can't get over it. It will be with you for ever. I try to remember all the good times. There in a better place and you will see them again. Best wishes. I'm sorry for the loss of your parents.
2006-10-23 09:54:27 · answer #3 · answered by jenny 98243 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People cope with grief differently... I think that it would be beneficial to you to pray for them both and to talk to your friends. Hugs and cuddles from loved ones are some of the best kinds of support. Try to spend more time with the rest of your relatives, because they are undoubtedly feeling the same way. It is impossible to replace your parents, but maybe it would help if you found some alternative outlet for your love, such as other relatives and friends. :)
Amelia
2006-10-23 12:57:50 · answer #4 · answered by stratocaster lover 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would agree with the first poster about adopting someone. Find an elderly person that you can pour your love into and also that finds you of interest. Include them in all family activities that you can.
Nothing will replace your real birth parents you have lost, but it should help ease the pain.
2006-10-23 09:49:18 · answer #5 · answered by nordic_winds1969 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After I lost my mom here is h ow I did it. Take one day at a time. Cry if you need to cry. Get closer to other family members. I befriended and elderly lady at work. I Call her and do things for her. That has really helped. I also stay close to my parents friend. If I need motherly advice I call my mother's best friend. It is good to talk to her. If all else fails, get grief counseling. I hope I helped. I am praying for you. I care.
2006-10-23 09:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by robee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Try to realize that they are in a better place and that you have 2 perfect angels watching over you now.
2006-10-23 09:49:14 · answer #7 · answered by trueangel121301 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i lost my parents 3 months apart...it's difficult. i always wear a piece of my mother's jewerly and keep a small keepsake of my father in my purse. in my heart, they are alive. i know i will see them someday, and they are with me in spirit. sad fact of life..we bury our parents. a friend of mine has her parents, but she just burried her only child, age 19. that is something i could not deal with. God bless.
2006-10-23 09:55:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
So sorry for you loss. I think therapy will help you. Find someone you can connect with and work through your grief. It worked for me and my children after my husband died.
good luck
2006-10-23 09:49:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
sorry to hear of your lost. people deal with grief different. try talking to a counselor, or a friend. wissh you well.
2006-10-23 09:48:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋