I still love her with all my heart. She has been my best friend for years. We have to kids. She met him online and he live in another state. What do I do?
2006-10-23 09:44:23 · 10 answers · asked by skipper 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The internet has really ruined a lot of relationships. I am so sorry. Talk to her. Find out why after all these years she felt the need to cheat.
2006-10-23 09:47:31 · answer #1 · answered by gemone523 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You sound exactly like me. I found out my ex was cheating 17 years into our marriage. I tried to hold things together, but it was impossible. No matter what I tried, she simply behaved more psycho. It ended shortly after she disappeared while we were out with her sister and her husband on New Years Eve. Then, I found out she slept with my brother on her birthday. You can try to make it work, but I doubt you'll be married this time next year.
2006-10-23 16:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you've tried, and, sorry to say, lost. Now you have to move on. I don't know if you have the kids, you don't say if their grown? Get on with your life, join a group, they're out there for people like you. Once you've established yourself that your going to be single again, it might not be to bad, for now. Take time out, review your circumstances then take the plunge and start dating again, you might enjoy it. Forget her. Whatever happen, maybe she can't answer that. Someone with a good line, mid-life crises, change of life crises, who knows.
2006-10-23 16:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we have been married for 37 years and mine went wild and as far as I know, layed with at least 5-7 men who she met over the internet...There was no explanation, she just did it...I have been with her since 1957 and love her as you do yours...I went thru the most un-godly, unbearable, heart-breaking pain, I thought I wouldnt be able to live thru it...But...I couldnt give up the only one I've ever loved in my life, so despite people telling me to divorce her, I stuck in there...It's been about 7 years now and although I have forgiven her, I cannot ever forget...I'm sorry to hear about this cause I know exactly what your going thru....If you truly love her, stick with it until she tell's you different....
2006-10-23 16:53:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she physically cheat,or?Sounds as if she has lost interest in you greatly.Have you gotten lazy with trying to earn her love,has she gotten lazy the same way?Give her the benefit of the doubt,and let her go if she cant be honest with herself,how is she to be honest with you,and the kids?
2006-10-23 16:48:40 · answer #5 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You forgot to keep the it in the relationship. Women need to feel wanted and satisfied or they stray. Perhaps you took her for granted and slacked off on the intimate things. Being married a long time does not take away the need for attention. You need to put the it back in the relationship while there is still time. Show her the advantage of reality to the exploration of fantasies. She knows what you are like but only thinks she knows what he is like. Naturally he will explore her weakness but you have to use your strengths to keep her.
2006-10-23 16:51:21 · answer #6 · answered by mr conservative 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't love her UNCONDITIONALLY.
She needs to feel that you're a man not a door mat.
No one or thing can MAKE you happy. Each of us choose to be happy even during the crappy times.
Its not your job to make your wife happy. And if she really loves you she will not love you less for NOT putting up with her crap she might even love you more for it.
2006-10-23 17:27:06 · answer #7 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your junk is too small and she's always wanted to try the other side....you know what they say.....once you go...you never come back...
2006-10-23 16:49:18 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
wish her well and move on
2006-10-23 16:48:47 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce her...
2006-10-23 16:48:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋