Do u find that strange? I try to have eye contact with people but I find it hard to do for a prelonged amount of time. If I ever go on a date I don't want the guy to think I'm not interested just b/c I can't look at him the whole time.
I don't want self-esteem/confidence lectures. I know another gal who does this too.
2006-10-23 09:31:14 · 10 answers · asked by missgigglebunny 7 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Still I want no self esteem lectures. None of that crap okay.
In grade school I had a evil speech pathlogist who kept bugging me to have eye contact.
I ment can't not can when I was typing this question.
2006-10-23 09:44:21 · update #1
Don't worry about it so much. :) some people just can't and that is that. In some cultures, it's rude to make eye contact, especially with the elders.
Just like "1 Me" said, he has opposite problem, he gets hassels for making too MUCH eye contact.....mate you'll never please everyone! Just do what you do!
2006-10-23 10:01:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it hard to stare people in the eye too, depending on the situation. Sometimes I find that I can't look a person in the eye for a long time if I am either uninterested in what they have to say, or feel like they are lying about something. Eyes are the portals to the soul and some people have very ugly souls and thus are hard to look at. I have no problem maintaining eye contact with my close friends or guys I am genuinely attracted too. You probably won't either. Good luck.
2006-10-23 09:43:42 · answer #2 · answered by guitar4peace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kind of have the opposite problem. I maintain to much eye contact, which some people find intimidating or creepy, but nothing could be further for my intentions. If I maintain eye contact, it means that you have my undivided attention and I care about what you have to say. To manage my problem, I like to do something with my hands while I'm talking so that I can look at something else from time to time. In your case, I would recommend that you don't look people directly in the eyes but instead at the middle of their brow. Most people won't be able to tell the difference, unless they're really close to you, and you'll probably find it easier. If you want people to converse with you easier, look them in the eye, or at least look like you do, more when they are talking and less when you are talking. This gives off an impression of attentiveness and humility.
2006-10-23 09:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by Subconsciousless 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is fairly common and not strange at all. Often the reason you can't look someone in the eye for a long time is that it does make you self-conscious of something - you just don't know what that is. It is a reflective principal it's like looking for too long may mean they see too much, you feel confronted and look away.
Lots of people freak out looking into peoples eyes. Be courageous and find out why it freaks you out.
2006-10-23 09:47:54 · answer #4 · answered by Mercury 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, people don't expect you to keep eye contact the entire time, anyway. People find it creepy if you're staring at them. OK, you want it to look like you're holding eye contact? Try looking at a point in the center of their forehead just above their ebrows. It looks like you're looking them in the eye.
2006-10-23 09:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by Celt 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am the exact same way. I can keep looking at people, but never make eye contact. its just hella weird to me. I just look around the whole time, or at their eyes every once in a while.
2006-10-23 09:39:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, you need to look them right in the eye. I won't get into self-esteem, but I think anyone that can't look another person in the eye is a coward and admitting that she is a little girl and not a grown woman. I will also add, that you sound like you are a young girl and this is only natural that you can't look people in the eye. You lack confidence, but when you get older it will come to you
2006-10-23 09:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by dally d 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i have trouble maintaing eye contact too, especially with adults. i dont know why, but i just do. ive never been able to look someone in the eye for a long amount of time, unless theyre a boy--no joke
2006-10-23 12:56:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there isn't any longer something incorrect with that!basically approximately 0.5 of anybody will look you right now in the attention as they're chatting with you.Its no longer slightly unusual to sense such as you conversate greater suitable by no longer finding at as quickly as into anyones eyes.
2016-10-16 07:46:19 · answer #9 · answered by leong 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother always told me not to trust anybody that cannot look you in the eye when they are talking to you and Definatly not anybody with sweaty palms. So there have it wise wisdom from a wise woman.
2006-10-23 09:56:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋