My recently found out that my GF doesn't trust me. We have been together for 4+ years, and have a 3 year old daughter. During the first month of us dating I was still seeing another girl. But is ended shortly there after. When she found this out, after we had been together almost a year, she stopped trusting me. How long should it take her to get over this? What can I do to prove to her that I am not, and will not cheat on her? And why can't girls let stuff like this go?
2006-10-23 09:30:59 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
She can't let it go because it's more fun to keep punishing you and forcing you to feel bad so you'll keep trying to "make it up to her". She likes controlling you and holding onto this silly, immature grudge means she can be moody and demanding and refuse sex and push you away as and when she wishes, blaming you for something that happened years ago.
And when you finally get fed up and leave, she'll get all the sympathy because she "knew she couldn't trust you" anyway.
She'll never get over it because it's working for her!
2006-10-23 09:39:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust truly is a lifelong endeavor. It can take years to build up, but only a split second to lose. Trust is something that should never, NEVER be taken lightly. Once you have the trust of a person, you should always keep that in the forefront of your mind, so as to tread lightly and not do something that may have the effect of damaging it. Although you may have temporarily lost the trust of your gf, with enough time and devotion on your part you may be able to get back to pre-trust breaking levels. It will take some time and work, proabably must more than in the first place, but it can be done. Do not give up now. Good luck!
2006-10-23 09:35:08 · answer #2 · answered by Justin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Women that are "cheated" on will for the most part forever hold a grudge. They will always have it in the back of their minds...what is he doing...who is he talking to....where is he going? The only way for it to reconcile is if she does it herself. She has to WAKE UP and see that the past is the past. We are supposed to forgive and forget. It is easier to forgive than it is to forget. There also is that saying...once a cheater always a cheater. You might not fall into that, especially since you may not have been monogamous at that time. I think you need to have a heart to heart talk with her. Tell her that you love her. Tell her she is the most important woman in the world in your eyes and you wouldn't know what you would do without her. Maybe even do it over a special dinner. Something has to shake her up and see that you aren't that same person. Good luck and God bless.
2006-10-23 09:45:24 · answer #3 · answered by hard rock girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was the 1st month as you state and it was not stated that the 2 of you were monogamous then she should not have a gripe and she should trust you completely. After 4 years you would think you would trust one another.
2006-10-23 09:34:27 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once trust is broken I dont feel it ever comes back to where it was before. Why cant girls get over it ?? How would you feel if she was dating someone when you thought she was only with you ? Wouldn't bother you ?? And you cheated on the other girl when you met this one....what says you wont do it again ?
2006-10-23 09:35:51 · answer #5 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes a long time to 4give somebody for breaking your hart so she will not 4give u until she feels right and we cant let tings go tha easy b/c yall need to put the other shoe on the other foot
2006-10-23 09:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by Gina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends. someone would tried all their life and build only a little. on the other hand, ppl who had just met for about 1 week, they can totally trust each other. it depends on the relationship
2006-10-23 09:34:02 · answer #7 · answered by mi2z_myst3ry 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its gonna take a long time i bet. and its hard for her to let it go because you betrayed her you dumb jackass.
2006-10-23 09:34:43 · answer #8 · answered by thinkofmealwayslver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋