i was at his hotel room alone and we were kissing this time he shirt was off and he took of mine and then he went into my skirt and was fingering me and his pants was off too then i tried to push back but he wouldnt stop i pushed back again and he stopped this time and i told him i wasnt ready. then he said when will u be!? i said "not today" softly. he said i had to go cause he was gonna hav company. but just to think about it.
but idk wat to do????? this is not his first time no stopping??????
wat would u do?
2006-10-23 09:28:59 · 21 answers · asked by Pretty in pink 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Obviously if your partner is not a virgin he is going to make you some way have sex with him.If you are not ready don't do it.Wait till you are ready.I am sure that you will find someone that will be worth it and respect your decision.
2006-10-23 09:33:07 · answer #1 · answered by Alexandria 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's not a virgin then he will probably do whatever he can to get you to have sex with him. If he can't respect your wishes, then he is not a good boyfriend. You should leave him bc this is not the first time he has tried to push you further than you want. A good guy would not want to make you do something you don't want to. If he will push you to do what he wants, then there is no telling what else he will try to make you do. If you are comfortable enough, you should tell your mom that he is pressuring you (you don't have to give her the in-depth details...that might be embarassing). Maybe she will give you some better advice as to how to leave him or what else to do. You main priority right now should be protecting yourself and insuring you have a good future. Caving into what your bf wants will only make you feel bad about yourself and you don't deserve that
2006-10-23 10:02:28 · answer #2 · answered by Chi1linVi1lain 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the one who decides whether or not to have sex is YOU and only YOU. No one has the right to force you, not even your boyfriend. The best advice I can give you is to have sex whenever you feel the time has come, when you'll be physical and mentally prepared. And when you'll be with a guy that you love and loves you back. Try to do it with a guy with whom you have a stable relationship. Where both of you are going to be responsible of your actions. If he pushes you, and you don't want to, that's not nice from him. If he really cares about you, he'll wait. Some guys are just for the sex. Make sure he's not one of those. And when you'll do it, use a condom or go under a pill.
take care and remember to think with your head, not your vagina!
2006-10-23 10:35:43 · answer #3 · answered by acbm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all, why would your bf kick you out of a hotel room cause he was having company?!?! What kind of company???
Secondly, tell him to respect the fact that you are not ready to have sex. I don't know how old you and your bf are, but it sounds like you are young. Wait for as long as you are ready. He really sounds like he's not the right one to lose your virginity to. Don't cave into his pressure cause you think you will lose him if you don't. If he doesn't comply, then kick him to the curb! There are lots of guys out there that will respect you and wait until you are ready!
2006-10-23 09:33:48 · answer #4 · answered by zoe and skylar's mommy 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If your not ready to have sex with him then you should leave him because he will find someone else to have sex with if your not and that is not good. Take your time - there are plenty of nice guys that will understand what you want in a relationship. Be careful!
2006-10-23 10:33:48 · answer #5 · answered by Lisa B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to have sex with a guy to keep him, then you don't need the jerk. Guys who want sex to stay around will probably end up dumping you anyway after you have sex with them. And, think about the way you feel about your bf not being a virgin. Will you want your future spouse feeling the same way about you if you are not a virgin? You can be like those other girls who have sex ANY day. But, they can NEVER be like you again. Save it for your husband. I wish I would have.
2006-10-23 09:58:54 · answer #6 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Honestly,
If he's not supportive of your decision to wait, then he's not worth your time. Good for you for standing up to the pressure.. but don't let someone make you do something you don't want to do. Stay strong and always be safe.
2006-10-23 09:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by InLoveandWar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend obviously isn't a virgin. If he's pressuring you into doing "it", then he ain't worth it. A boyfriend who truly cares about you will wait till you're ready.
2006-10-23 10:18:51 · answer #8 · answered by xxxshiningxstarxxx 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you are not ready don't let him push you, I waited almost or more than a year till my girlfriend was fully ready. I did show her my intentions that i wanted it but did not pressure her in any way
2006-10-23 09:38:53 · answer #9 · answered by Jinha 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dont have sex with him. He is just using you, and if you have sex with him, he will start to make you do it all the time. He will think, she did it once, she can so it again. I think you should break up with him, after you have sex with him, he will probably break up with you, because that is the only reason he is with you.
2006-10-23 10:44:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋