I have been married for the past two years and we have 5 months old baby me and my husband we both love each other but my husband is not a very talkative person at all, I notice when it's time to talk about his family he tries to change the subject or pretends he is busy that time, it seems like he doesn't want to talk at all about his family why is it so?? Is there something wrong in his family? tough I don't like his family at all because they people are very rude, mean and they don't care about others feeling. His family looks wierd to me. what is making him being less talkative about his family? any ideas?
2006-10-23 09:19:08 · 16 answers · asked by hondolkk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well no , but what can you do ...
2006-10-23 09:20:41 · answer #1 · answered by Milos K 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I can understand how you feel and I can assume he was this way when you dated. You tolerated it then and now he can't seem to understand what the issue is now. If you had an issue with this type of thing, you should of addressed it when you were dating, but any way. Ask your husband if he would be ok with you having male friends that you talk to on the phone, text and talk to on face-book. If he says yes, get one and have them call the house and talk to him while he is around. If he does not respond in a negative way, you might be able to assume that he really doesn't see anything wrong with it, and probably had many female friends or family members that he was the "big brother" to. He should however respect you as his wife and stop if it bothers you. Maybe you are not expressing your concern in a way that he takes seriously. Maybe you should write him a letter expressing how you feel as clear as possible and not super emotional. If you like add an ultimatum.
2016-05-22 02:03:23 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably because he is ashamed of his family or he didn't have a good "experience" growing up. Some people are really sensitive with issues like that. If he doesn't want to talk about his family, then let it go and move on to another subject.
2006-10-23 09:21:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people are very private people. I think its Clint Eastwood is a very quite person. If a reporter would ask him a question he doesn't want to answer he just doesn't say a word until the next question and when its only one reporter in an interview it gets awkward fast.
Some people you can't shut up about their family and others don't say a word. People are different.
2006-10-23 10:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well you said you don't like his family? If you have told him this or said negative things in the past, then maybe that is why he doesn't want to talk about them? Maybe he is just trying to keep down an argument? Maybe you should ask him why he doesnt want to talk about his family becaus he would know better than anyone else.
2006-10-23 09:35:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you said you don't like his family, they are rude and they look weird to you....
in that case why would he want to talk about them if it's all negative things that you will say.
im not a very talkative person either, but i don't have much trouble talking to my girl as long as there is a subject, coming up with something to talk about is not always easy for me
2006-10-23 09:23:24 · answer #6 · answered by jugglaman 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps he is not happy with his family either. Perhaps he has not had very good experiences in communicating on that level. I would suggest creating positive family experiences wherever you can and engage in conversations about them slowly and painlessly.
2006-10-23 09:23:07 · answer #7 · answered by Uncle Meat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well if he knows how you feel about his family, that could be why he doesn't talk about them.
the other reason is maybe something going on in his family that is embarrassing , so much so that he can not or will not talk about it.
2006-10-23 09:23:46 · answer #8 · answered by Brenda R 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he might get quiet because he probably knows his family is a little "off". he lived with them for a big part of his life so he knows things about them that you may never know... could be ashamed??
2006-10-23 09:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by clclc 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Give it some time. He may come out of his shell or he may be one of those "If you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all" people.
Don't pressure him or he'll withdraw.
And as Plato once said:
"Wise people talk because they have something to say; fools, because they have to say something."
2006-10-23 09:21:16 · answer #10 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe he doesn't want to argue since he knows how you feel about them so he tries to prevent it by not talking about them with you.
2006-10-23 09:28:52 · answer #11 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋