2006-10-23 09:16:51 · 34 answers · asked by moemoe p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Cheating on your spouse is a one way trip to hell.
2006-10-23 09:18:11 · answer #1 · answered by Demonsta 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
No! It is NEVER okay to cheat on your spouse, if you are unhappy then end it, you can't have both you wife and an affair, you have to chose. You can never go back and undo the things that are done so you must make you decisions carefully. If you don't care for your wife then leave her, you owe her that, it isn't right to just string people alone, give her the opportunity to find somebody who will care enough for her to treat her right. And if you really do care about your wife (which I guess you don't since you are even asking this question) and did have the affair how could you enjoy yourself knowing that you are betraying her and how hurt she would be if she found out. And she probably will find out but even if she doesn't it is something that you will have to live with for the rest of your life.
Also, I don't think that you realize the impact cheating will have on you. Your health may suffer: according to www.tesh.com a large percentage of heart attacks happen to an unfaithful spouse. But ignoring your health, how you will you ever be able to trust yourself or anyone else for that matter after you do something like that?
Just put a lot of thought into this before you do anything, think about all the possible consequence and if it's really worth it to you.
2006-10-23 09:37:52 · answer #2 · answered by Z ben 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its never okay to cheat. It could seem to make the relationship better, but it does not. The only reason you are happier, and will probably treat your spouse better is because you are getting it from somewhere else and that person you are cheating with is obviously making you happy. So you go home happy, and it turn that may seem to make your relationship better. But seriously, if you were to stop having an affair, tell me would you really be as happy? I don't think so. I am not a hypocrite. I have cheated before, yes it is wrong, but I will tell you what, it made me a heck of alot happier and I went home happier, because it was like I had an adventure a secret that nobody knew about. But as soon as that affair ended, I was back to my not so good marriage!
2006-10-23 09:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you want your cake and have it eat you too! I get the impression that your husband doesn't eat cake [//\\*o*//\\]. Talk over with him what you really like [and are getting from your affair] and do so in a non-judgemental, hypothetical manner. If he warms up to doing, performing those things you say you desire, then he is a keeper and then time and his actions will tell afterwards. If the outside lover posses somethings that appeal to a fetish you have that your husband cannot match in absolutely no possible way, then the affair will probably be your best bet for a while. However, ALL good things including affairs come to an end; so when you inevitably return to the home roost make sure you have worked on things there enough so it meets your expectations as well.
2006-10-23 09:39:18 · answer #4 · answered by Snakebite 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've gotta be kidding...right?the only way it could "make the relationship better" is if you were both sick, not ill but, sick. The institution of marriage is based on Fidelity, honesty and trust, along with a moral judgment that you don't seem to have. The only way she could be happier is if she were as sick as you so, maybe your on top something here but, for yourself, not in our society though.
Go back and check your values, look a little better at your spouse and see what's wrong, what have you missed that the "other" is giving you, that made you turn away. You'll find in the end you'll be sorry to continue in this manner, you can only love like the first time, once, it'll never be better.
2006-10-23 09:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating on a spouse behind their back can never be good for a relationship. It will hurt the other person and they eventually find out somehow.
If you are thinking of cheating then you need to take a good long look at your relationship to see what it's lacking in that you want to go outside of it to find.
2006-10-23 09:22:41 · answer #6 · answered by puggas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah, go with that. That'll go over fine when you're caught. You probably don't want to cheat but you'll do it for the sake of the relationship. You're doing your spouse a favor. Good for you! I'm sure your spouse will thank you for it.
Hey, maybe your spouse is doing a favor for you too (without you knowing). What you don't know doesn't hurt you either right?
2006-10-23 09:36:03 · answer #7 · answered by Simian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you know dog gone well it is not right to cheat on your spouse. You need to ask yourself what is really missing from your marriage that you need to go to another person to keep you happy. Also how is this making things happier between you and your spouse? From a christian stand point, you made vows and you need to stick by them. If you are not religious then you need to ask why get married then you guys could have just stayed dating instead of getting married. Right is right, and wrong is wrong. You don't want this to come back on you, believe me I have been there and Karma is a B%$&!
2006-10-23 09:21:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating doesnt make a relationship better...its sneaky and wrong! The best thing to do is 1) talk about the problems in your marriage then decide to work it out, separate or divorce.
DONT CHEAT! If youre caught, and do divorce, the other person can be brought into the divorce as a "home wrecker" and the divorce will get nasty. Trust me, thats what I did to my husband and his girlfriend
2006-10-23 09:20:27 · answer #9 · answered by da_nikkster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! It is honestly never ok to cheat. There are exceptions to certain circumstances because wen u truely love someone u can be forgiven for certain mistakese such as cheating. But it's not okay to do it especially on your spouse.
2006-10-23 09:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by MiSS RiCH & FamOUs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding? I can't believe anyone would ask such a selfish question and if you truly are serious, it will not be a better relationship and ALWAYS remember.....what you do in the dark will always come to light... Think of how much better the relationship will be when you get caught!! Won't that be great?
2006-10-23 09:20:00 · answer #11 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋