Ok me and my boyfriend have been dating for two months but if you never count or last break up then it should be more or less a year...so what i wanted to ask is if i am pregnant should i keep the baby?? i am not sure yet but i am oing to get a pregnacy test today. he says that if i am pregnant that we will get married. so what should i do???? (keep in mind that i am only 16)
2006-10-23 09:16:05 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I think you should keep the baby, you could come to deeply regret another choice. My sister was 15 when she had her daughter and all turned out good. Kids are a bundle of joy you will enjoy to have!!
2006-10-23 09:19:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sabrina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, first of all do not get married. You are too young to know if this is the guy you want to spend the rest of your life with. And getting married because you are pregnant is a sure way to make sure your marriage fails. You have time to decide what you want to do. If over the next few months you decide to put the baby up for adoption, that's fine. If you decide to keep the baby, that's fine too. Whatever you decide, it's your choice, but I hope you can keep an open dialog going with your boyfriend, but tell him that you need him to be mature. Make a list of pros and cons about keeping the baby or putting it up for adoption. If you decide to keep the baby and stay a couple, that's fine. See if you can stay together into adulthood and then if you are still in love, get married at that point, your chances of having a successful marriage will be much greater if you wait. If you end up breaking up before you are both adults, then you will be thankful that you didn't marry him, it's easier to break-up than get divorced. Whatever you do, please stay in school, find a way to make it work. And I hope you go to college too. And please, no more sex after you have the baby, wait until you are completely grown before putting yourself in this situation again. Do the same if the test turns out to be negative, leave sex alone for awhile. If a guy is worth it, he will wait until you are ready for sex again. Good Luck to you.
2006-10-23 09:30:47 · answer #2 · answered by nimo22 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Touchy situation...sounds like your relationship is a tad bit rocky right now, so maybe rushing into marriage isn't such a good idea, regardless of whether or not you are pregnant. I think you can raise your baby together and not be married. On the abortion question. Personally, not for me, but at your age...that's tough. You are still very young, not that you can't do it or make it work, but it will be hard. I think that you should talk with someone that is outside of your situation (ie: a teacher, counselor) but my recommendation is someone that will be willing to go over all of your options, if you were to keep it, how would your life change, if you had an abortion-what are the procedures and the emotional effects of such an invasive procedure, and adoption and it's emotional toll on a mother. This is a tough situation and not an easy decision, I hope you do what is right in YOUR HEART, but please educate yourself first. I would hate for you to have an abortion and then spend years of guilt and anguish coping with any decision you make, or keep the baby and end up alone, depressed, and resentful for all the stress that comes with being a parent. My heart goes out to you...good luck and for your sake, I hope you aren't pregnant. If you aren't, please go to a clinic and use birth control for your protection, and make sure your boyfriend is using a back up method for protection of not only pregnancy, but STD's.
2006-10-23 09:56:38 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want my opinion, I say give the baby up for adoption because at 16 years old, you have a lot of growing up to do. Wait to raise a baby until you have finished high school, hopefully gone to college, gotten a good job, and have a stable marriage to a good man and a place of your own to live.
And PLEASE don't marry this jerk. You said you two have broken up before and that he is cheating on his current girlfriend with you. He is not marriage material, and I think he will make you very unhappy. Having a baby together is not a good reason to get married. Why didn't you use protection?
Please Wait until you are older to get married (at least 21 years old) because you will change in many ways over the coming years and you don't want to get stuck with what a 16-year-old would pick.
2006-10-23 09:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by EmLa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you need to do some serious thinking about if you are ready to raise a child. If you are ready to have the responsibility of raising a child for at least the next 18 yrs go for it. Dont get married just because you are pregnant either, Make sure its what you both want, Its very hard to raise a child and a lot of work to make a good marriage. If you always remember to put your child first before anything of anybody you will do good. When the bad days roll around(and they will) always remember that the baby didnt choose you,,,you chose the baby. Good luck..and if you arent pregnant maybe this will get you thinking about what you want to do with your life.
2006-10-23 09:21:24 · answer #5 · answered by Kelli C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are very young to take on such responsibilities as marriage and parenthood. You should think twice about both. I was sure that boy I was with at 16 was the one I would spend the rest of my life with. As we matured and became adults we definitely changed. He was not the one for me and I am so glad that I didn't get pregnant or marry him. You should consider adoption if you are pregnant. You can choose a closed or open adoption. Or maybe a family member would be willing to take the baby. Good luck and be smart!!
2006-10-23 09:47:19 · answer #6 · answered by msjsjm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a emotional decision. It is very easy for ppl to just say "keep the baby" and in a lot of cases this is the best choice however, you need to sit down anddiscuss this with your boyfriend andyour parents. I think that you will do what is right for you, but do not take yourdecision lightly, Either way it will change your life. You need to do some soul searching. By your question, I am assuming that you do not know if you are pregnant yet.
2006-10-23 09:28:33 · answer #7 · answered by corinne_29_ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless your heart. You are really going thru a tough time at your age. I know how you feel as I got pregnant at your age as well. Honey, if it is possible I would carry this baby and give it up for adoption and make a couple happy that cant conceive. Think of how it would make you feel years down the road. If you aborted......which is your choice.......you would waste a poor little baby and all the love that the baby deserves. Honey.........DO NOT....DO NOT....get married. You have a full life ahead of you........I feel that you are a very, very bright young woman just by asking this question. Realize that you have a life ahead of you. Next time however.......when ALL is said and DONE......please be careful and protect yourself :) I wish you Luck and please.....make the right choice.
2006-10-23 09:23:52 · answer #8 · answered by DERLANDSON 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get the pregnancy test, and then if you are pregnant you need to look at what you've done to your future very closely....you will now have 18-20 years with another person attached to you...and they will be depending on you for most of that time...and they deserve their life as much as you deserve yours...BUT YOU WILL BE THE PARENT!!!!!
IF YOU aren't pregnant....it's time u broke up with the boy and thought about the rest of your life, education first, Birth control after you're 18-21...don't be put on your back just because it feels good....you are not ready!!
2006-10-23 09:31:51 · answer #9 · answered by tincre 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love this guy and he wants to get married if you are pregnant, do it. You don't find many guys that want to stick around with a baby coming. Hopefully you both will make the right decision. I hope that everything works out for you.
2006-10-23 09:20:49 · answer #10 · answered by Manna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off..please dont get married JUST because you are pregnant...make sure its really what you want...that you really truly love him..and that you are really ready to get married...I wont say that you are too young..because I think that age is just a number...I know people who got married young and have wonderful marriages...if you decide not to get married, are you ready to raise this baby on your own? You'll have to get a job and support it...which is hard...but definately doable...people do it all the time...I'm Pro life..someone else responded saying that there are plenty of people out there who cannot have babies and would love to adopt one...please keep that in mind...it's definately YOUR decision though...no one elses...dont let others sway you to do what they want...do whats best for you..
2006-10-23 09:33:08 · answer #11 · answered by Amy B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋