i have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years.we have been through a lot of stuff a married couple would go through.yet everyone around me is getting married except me.i ask him and he says when the time is right and just to wait. i have been waiting he has bought me a 1 carat promise ring.he knows i do not believe in being engaged for years before marriage.so my question is why do i feel like my clock is ticking and need to get married soon?????.i am 26 will be done with my BA in 2 years...but it is still ticking....help
2006-10-23 09:13:57 · 16 answers · asked by Amry 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do NOT rush into marriage and don't force him into it either. you will regret it! marriage is HARD work.... Relax, what's the rush, finish school first.... Just because "everyone else is doing it" doesn't mean it's the right thing to do.
You're clock hasn't even started to wind up yet, let alone start to tick....at 26 you have nothing to worry about!
2006-10-23 09:35:04 · answer #1 · answered by favrd1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may or he may not come through and marry you. 4 years is the iffy stage when you can't really give him an ultimaturm yet. I'v known couples to be together 4 years or even 5 before theres talk of marriage. However, you need to find your own limit, because your clock IS ticking. I think 6 years with no marriage proposal is WAY too long, and maybe you need to have a date in your head whenyou will leave him if he hasnt' proposed to you. I stayed with a man for 7 years and he finally proposed because I bugged him so much at year 6. But I could tell he still wasn't really into it and was afraid to get married. We finally broke up because it was hard for me to be with him knowing he didn't really want to marry me. And guess what I didnt' get married until I was 35 and now my husband and I are having lots of troubles with having babies. LOTS! Don't waste too much longer with the wrong man, but give him a bit more time.
2006-10-23 09:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl ~ I was dating my husband for 11 years before we got married Last Oct so this weekend we will be married 1 year. It takes time guys unfortunately they are not mature at that age, Is he from a broken home? That is why it took me so long commit. I take marriage very serious. He might fell the same way? My husband was just not ready. If you know he is the one you will wait for the right time.I think my clock as been ticking for a while being 34.
2006-10-23 09:37:57 · answer #3 · answered by beaner 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Promise ring, schromise ring. Until you get an engagement ring you aren't getting married. 4 years you been together? He should know by now considering you're 26. Sh*t or get off the pot. If he's taking that long you migth want to look around if you want to get married. Seriously, at your age 4 years is more than enough time to figure out if he wants to spend the rest of his life with you.
2006-10-23 09:18:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 21:16:00 · answer #5 · answered by lavinia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your only 26 don't rush it. I've been married twice. Was with my second husband 7 yrs before we got married. Been married almost 3 yrs and I'm not happy with him. Maybe your guy is just making sure your the one.
2006-10-23 09:28:23 · answer #6 · answered by sassyone575 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my question to you is do you want to be married. Or do you want to be married to the man you are with.
If you love him you will wait for him, and you will plan your life together and it will be a great life. If you want to just be married, then you really dont love this man. I would say find what you truly want.
I would rather wait for the one I love and wait to be married to them. then to be in a hurry to get married and try spending my life with anyone.
2006-10-23 09:27:14 · answer #7 · answered by xxgq 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
26 my GOD there are people older than you and they have not gotten married till older so stop worring about you being a old maid and clock ticking nonsense
2006-10-23 09:22:58 · answer #8 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick his butt to the curb and try to get your own life together.....
You can be just as happy unmarried and alone...
There are lots of men out there - don't push him into marriage just so you can keep the ring!!!
2006-10-23 10:23:41 · answer #9 · answered by brenny_boo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful...pressuring him will most likely push him away!!! He may just not yet be ready. That isn't a bad thing, some people just take longer than others! Hang in there....I bet he will surprise you when you least expect it!
2006-10-23 09:17:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋