that lives in the storage buildings behind my job....everyday I see her and I feel awful for her. She always walks with 5 pairs of clothes on and her face down. I don't even know what her face looks like. But I feel like I should do something for her! I cannot offer her a job or a place to live, but I could give her some water or a sandwich or something. Another guy I work with offered her a bottle of water once, but she just ignored him. Being another female I wonder if she will respond differently to me....how do I approach the situation when I see her and what could I do for this woman???? There has to be SOMETHING!!! (serious answers only people)
2006-10-23 09:01:38 · 16 answers · asked by angiebaby 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Typically street people are NOT always alcoholics or drug users. Some are "borderline" mental patients that were released from minim security hospitals when Ronald Reagan was president and signed a bill that allowed them to be released on their own. They need to be on medications but too many of them found it was difficut to cope in the outside world and wound up loosing their jobs therefore loosing the insurance that came with the job making purchasing their overlypriced medications impossible. Some are ex Viet Nam war veterans who, because of the mental stress/guilt/agent orange they recieved during that war are unable to maintain a "normal" life capacity, they're not mentally unbalanced enough to have them committed to a mental hospital yet they are not balaned enough to hold down a job or maintain a "normal" lifestyle. Some are "throw away" children who's parents tossed them to the streets for whatever reasons (differences in lifestyles, sexual orientation, religious convictions) Some women are there because of their families. They were stay at home moms during their marriages, had no clue about their finances and then one day their husband up and leave them, with no employable skills and a family to raise. Later in life, the kids grown and on their own they are left with nothing. Then there are some who have ALLOWED their children to bring them down. The parents who continuesly bail their kids out of jail, putting their cars as well as homes and all of their assets up for colateral until there is nothing left and the kid leaves them high and dry. My advice is do not "approach" her, if she would not take a bottle of water from a man she won't take it from you. She may be in her own little world and doesn't even know you exist.
2006-10-23 09:30:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's really nice that a thought like this came across your mind. But dealing with such a person, you need to take a lot of things into consideration. What might the reason for her brooding be? Why is she homeless? Does she have a gory past? Is she an unfortunate soul affected by poverty? the list of questions is endless. I suggest you keep an eye on her and observe her behaviour continuously and analyse what sort of person she may be.
My general analysis is that she ignored the person who gave her water because she may have lived a life of dignity and suddenly been thrown into the streets. As a woman, you may however hav an advantage. The key is to observe and then build a desirable approach for her to feel comfortable and then see how you can help her
2006-10-23 09:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by Valia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there became an elderly lady I used to confirm roaming the streets in any respect hours. I as quickly as bumped into her outdoors a food market and struck up a communique. After talking along with her for slightly, i found out that she had dementia. She wasn't even particular what year it became. I pumped her slightly for documents, have been given her call and the place she generally stayed. Then I referred to as Social centers- branch of ageing to have her checked up on. They have been waiting to locate her and get her off the streets. seems her relatives had no thought she became so puzzled and that she had deserted her condominium.
2016-10-16 07:42:45 · answer #3 · answered by benner 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if I was you I would go up to her and ask if everything is OK and maybe try to be her friend and help her ...i guess you could like make some food and bring it to her or give her some of your old clothes u don't wear anymore or you could look in the phone book for a shelter who can help her get on her feet .I helped a lady once and I'm only 14!! what I did was look in our phone book and got a # and I gave it to her and me and her became friends.I would just try to help her try to think if you was in that situation and think what you would want people to do for you.Just try it .I hope everything works out!good luck and god bless you!!
2006-10-23 09:06:19 · answer #4 · answered by Chrissy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that your heart really has a burden for her. That you don't know what lead to her being homeless, maybe it was beyond her control. Tell her that you would really like to help her. maybe she is too proud to take handouts, but maybe she needs a friend? Maybe she just needs someone to talk to? Just approach her with tenderness and love in ur heart and maybe she will let you help her? Good luck! I am so proud of you for even wanting to help! Most people don't care.
2006-10-23 09:18:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you should try doing the same thing that the guy did, bring a sack lunch to her with some water, maybe an old blanket too. if she doesn't respond to you, just tell her that you will leave it next to her if she decides she wants it later. she may just not want to be seen taking charity. good luck! (and bless you for being such a good person!)
2006-10-23 09:06:28 · answer #6 · answered by LoriBeth 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She might be mentally ill ... a lot of homeless people are. Why don't you donate to the homeless shelter in town or volunteer your services with them. If the homeless really touch your heart, then you can help them in this way better.
2006-10-23 09:06:11 · answer #7 · answered by J.Z. 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just try talking to her first and see how that goes. Even though people on the street tend to be triggered easily, most of them just want someone to listen to them.
2006-10-23 09:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by tasgilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps you can gather some money around the office to buy her a jacket for the upcoming winter. Just love on her...
2006-10-23 09:04:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe u could leave it there for her an she will see it or maybe just try to strike up a convo with her an then ask her if she would like the rest of ur lunch cuase u couldnt finish it . maybe she just ignored him cuase he was a guy or maybe she is def?
2006-10-23 09:04:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋