what goes through a husbands mind when he is used to his wife calling crying for him to come back its been one week now i havent called neither did he, but i usually am the first one to call what is gonna go through his mind knowing i dont call this time for a while , i dont know if he has someone else and i want to give him some time to think does he really want a divorce, or not before i would push him with tears to come back this time i dont know if its really over . if it is that he has someone else will i ever get a call back from him? am i doing the right thing by giving him what he wants or wha? i didnt hear him say divorce all i know is he says i love u but dont want to live with u nomore will he have his fun then come back should i give him a chance or run please help i need a mans point of view if ur used to wifey calling but then she doesnt any more what goes through your mind please be honest!!!!!!!!! it kills me but i have to know
2006-10-23 08:57:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
get a grip woman. he has moved on. the others are right. he knows you are going to beg him to come back, which is the power he needs to keep you asking. just move on, i know it hurts ,but you are strong person .god bless you and good luck.
2006-10-23 09:21:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are the one that normally calls and gives in, but are not doing it this time, it is killing him. Right now, he is pacing and looking at the phone every five minutes wondering if you are going to call. You should not call him at all, make him call you. If he does not call, then you need to make plans to move on without him. I can promise you that he thinks 100% sure that you are sitting there waiting for him to call or come home and that no matter what he does or how long he does it, you will take him back. As you have said in your question above, you always give in and he has no fear that you will leave and he can have his cake and eat it too.
Change the locks on the doors, have a consultation with a lawyer about your options and make sure that shows up in the check book that you went ot see a lawyer and make him worry. Don't be the victim and weak one any longer, you need to start calling the shots and make him come home on your terms or not at all.
2006-10-23 09:23:04 · answer #2 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Chances are he's trying to say it's over without hurting you. Girl I went through this almost a year ago. It hurts trust me, but if he doesn't call, then accept that it is over and move on. It took me about 3 months, but I finally accepted that it was time to move on. Through all the pain and tears, I did make it. And honestly I am happy that it happened, I lost a lot of weight and found a guy that treats me the way I feel I'm supposed to be treated. Things happen for a reason. The heartache of losing someone will pass. Time is the best healer. Good luck Girl! I wish you the best! And hopefully you pull through like I did! I know you will, women are strong!
2006-10-23 09:11:56 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Amanda♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all I am sorry you are going through this with your husband, secondly he's doing this because he already know you will call him back, give him sometime, you guys also might want to try marriage counseling, and if that doesn't work divorce him, you gave him too many chances. I pray that you guys will work it out. Good Luck!
2006-10-23 09:06:55 · answer #4 · answered by lildemon78 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is pobably thinking "thank god she quit calling"
here is why... you are too clingy and needy in this time of the relationship. Your pain is justifiable but your actions are not. Let him go and don't look back, unless you did something like cheat or he has begged you to meet one of his needs and you flat out said no. Take a good looking guy out for coffee and enjoy a man who wants you. If your ex should see and become more interested... then I would for sure not take him back.
2006-10-23 09:03:57 · answer #5 · answered by Big_D_4fun 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He might be thinking that you're serious about splitting up this time and (a) will use this to move on with his life, or (b) wonder if you have someone else now, and that's why you haven't called, or (c) really doesn't care anymore and will go and do (a).
Sorry you're stuck in this purgator, maybe you should just go and move on yourself!!
Good Luck!
Aloha!
2006-10-23 09:14:53 · answer #6 · answered by gabriel_demus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds similar to what i went through 10 months ago- i was holding on hoping he was going to want it to work and it never wound up happening. Give him the break- give him time, if he wants it to work AND you want it to work- it WILL work. If after so long though he doesnt mention anything about wanting it to work, its time to move on and allow the divorce to happen.
2006-10-23 09:03:44 · answer #7 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you're seeing someone else, or at least that you're thinking about it. If he gets real interested real quick, then you know he still cares. If not, he doesn't care.
Regarding your actual question. he's either playing a game and trying to win, or he truly doesn't care. Do as I say above and see what happens.
2006-10-23 10:17:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, he is probably relieved that you have stopped pestering him. It sounds like he is ready to move on. This will be a tough time for you, but you should move on as well. You tested him by not calling, and he failed the test.
2006-10-23 09:10:14 · answer #9 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED A SPINE IF A MAN TELL YOU HE LOVES YOU BUT DONT WANT TO LIVE WITH YOU HELLO HE DONT WANT YOU PLAIN AND SIMPLE HE DONT WANT YOU HE HAS MOVE ON AND SO SHOULD YOU WHEN YOU GO CRYING YOU MAKE ALL WOMENS LOOK BAD STOP BEGGING THE MAN HOLD YOUR HEAD UP AND MOVE ON
2006-10-23 09:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋