I told her that I would never cheat on her son,a fantastic lover.We got into a verbal battle and she called me a slut and slapped me.I didn't know what hit me.The scene itself must have beenfunny:I'm very tall.
I know she's very completely insane and possibly racist and stupid.But the worst part is that my boyfriend loves her and I'm not allowed criticize her.Nice.After breaking up twice and than getting back together with this man,now he wants to marry me.
I hate his family and they hate me.
2006-10-23 08:52:51 · 17 answers · asked by Amy Lee J 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
don't do it. That man is not going to leave his family for u! My mom is hated by my dad's family and she can't stand them. But he's not going to leave his family for my moms regardless of how much he loves her. Family is his main focus, he thinks family is everything, and if my moms wants to leave then it's up to her. And if someone says anything against her, he'll take their side. So don't put yourself in that kind of situation, it's not worth it. What if u two have kids??? Then you'll have to share them with his family and they will bad mouth you to the kids. It's not worthy your sanity, your dignity, or your pride. Get out quick and fast. Some other man and his family will love and treat u right.
2006-10-23 09:03:47 · answer #1 · answered by KryBaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not marry this man, until you get somethings straight. First, you are not a punching bag from his mother. If, you marry him, you never be the woman of the house, SHE WILL. She will always have a say in your relationship and even if you have children. Do you really want that type of DRAMA. You be going to counselor after 2 years of marriage. It is not OK, for her to criticize you, no matter what you look like. It also seems that if you and her get into a fight , he going to take her side. You are the one , he wants to marry not her. You first, ask him (what, if this happens... what would you do?). If he doesn't answers than you better rethink. You can always find a fantastic lover but it hard to have peace of mind.
2006-10-23 09:05:21 · answer #2 · answered by Tia Ann 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone--ALL of it. As painful as it will be, you do not want to be a part of this kind of unstable relationship. It sounds like you've not had a great relationship with the guy OR his family, so there is likely little you can do to "fix" this problem. IF that is the type of home he was raised in, it is likely the type of man he will be in a relationship-- likely the type of husband and father he would be. I'd walk away before things got worse, which is sure to happen if you bring this up. Good luck to you in this difficult situation.
2006-10-23 09:07:20 · answer #3 · answered by sm2f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it would be nice to say, "oh the relationship is about the two of you not his family!" But that is not entirely true. If he cares for his Mom that much, (which he should, like u prob do for your Mom) then I doubt you could ever change that. They will always be around and causing arguments between the two of you. Think of all the holidays alone that you will have to see them, but then if they come over at other times also- too much!!!!
My point is this~ My BF and me both see the faults in both of our parents and always sit and joke about the things they do that make you crazy, if he doesn't see any thing wrong with his family now, he probably never will. (and God knows we all have our own problems let alone family problems)
2006-10-23 09:06:08 · answer #4 · answered by CRAZYGIRL 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha Ha Ha, welcome to married bliss. They're gonna not like you, you're a threat. Some horrid foreign girl is stealing mamma's boy from her. Unfortunately sometimes things like this happen and it's up to you wether you want this aggro in your life. At the end of the day, it's him you're involved with not his mother, and if he seems worth it to you then hang on in there, after all egg nogs and dodgy jumpers from the in laws at Xmas isn't everything, but neither is having to keep struggling emotionally with your partner regarding you, him and "The Family" Hope you make the right choice, all the best.
2006-10-23 08:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by mizzsquitz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing's going to change with his family just because you've got a ring on your finger. It's 100% true, that when you get married, you not only marry your spouse, but your spouse's family. It will stress your relationship every single day. You may like this guy, you may madly love this guy, but that's not going to be enough to compensate for this wacky family. Don't do it.
2006-10-23 08:58:32 · answer #6 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him straight up like you did here. If he really loves you and is the man you deserve then he will step up and make it clear to his family that if they want him in his life there are rules and the first one is that they treat you proper and with respect. If he doesn't do this then he really isn't the right man for you.
2006-10-23 09:00:29 · answer #7 · answered by rkrell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have her arrested for assault.
Is this the price you really want to pay for the rest of your married life?
An abusive mother – in law?
What happens if you have kids?
Will she feel that it her right to abuse then too just because they are part you?
Think on this long and hard because he will never take your side against his family.
Do you need good loving that bad?
2006-10-23 08:58:14 · answer #8 · answered by Ryce Queen 13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why would you hesitate to tell him immediatley? Did you slap her back? If you are about to start "your family" with this man, you do not need to start out with "secrets". You nicely sit him down and say " I have something serious I need to talk to you about, and it has upset me extremely"...then you begin. Without getting defensive or attacking him..because after all ....HE is Not the one who Slapped You....and go from there.
2006-10-23 09:00:51 · answer #9 · answered by dalejrfan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry the man... and you end up marrying the family.. be careful about that decision. You should talk to him about what happened the other day and depending on the reaction it will pretty much tell you what you need to do.
2006-10-23 08:59:18 · answer #10 · answered by Virginia1228 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋