should I consider trying to contact an old love? If we ended on not so good terms a couple years ago...and try and make things right or just like by gones be by gones? Anyones opinion would be appreciated.
2006-10-23 08:48:59 · 13 answers · asked by oxygenO 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
it's over with...leave it alone
2006-10-23 08:50:11 · answer #1 · answered by Phil 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not? Give it a shot, who knows you might start the flame again. It does not hurt to try. As a matter of fact I encourage you to. You will always be wondering what if I did not try? At least this way you know you did. If he is involved with someone then drop it. If you do try and you succeed, I guarantee you the love making is going to be explosive. Been there done that! (lol)
2006-10-23 15:52:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it ended poorly, i'd say just let it go- if it was an ending that happened because of a move or it was a great relationship and ended for whatever reason- go for it! If you are looking to re-ignite the flame, you might want to consider what has happened and if you can trust this old love again?
2006-10-23 15:51:15 · answer #3 · answered by Earthy Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that the best thing for you to do is to just let the past stay in the past. You probably have enough problems in your life already. I don't believe that you truly want to conjour up any more. If it is meant for this past love to enter back into your life then that will happen. But if it has not already happen then you should just go on with your everyday life and don't force the issue.
Good Luck
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God Bless!
2006-10-23 15:57:30 · answer #4 · answered by bigred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly is the unfinished business you have with this person? (And don't bother trying to tell me you don't have any unfinished business, that's why you're wondering about it...) There's something you two need to clear up, or at least you feel this in your heart, or you wouldn't be asking.
You may feel as though you need to tell them something -- clear something up, apologize for something, whatever it is -- before you can really move on with your life. There's a lot of power in completing an old relationship and being free about it in your conscience and in your heart. And in my experience, things like this always open up something else in another area of my life, an area that I wasn't aware was being blocked.
Here's the thing -- if you do this, you can only apologize for your own role in whatever caused the bad feelings. You CAN'T make the other person apologize for THEIR role in whatever caused the bad feelings. And you can't say, "I'm sorry I flew off the handle when you were such a jerk to me, it was wrong of me even though you're a rotten piece of monkey-loving scum." Get the point?
So that's where to go about this: Decide whether there is an undelivered communication between you and your old love, and then think HARD about whether there is anything that YOU can be responsible for around clearing that up -- apologizing for something you did (and be sure to get clear on the difference between "apologize" and "justify" -- it won't get you anywhere to say "I'm sorry, but you made me so mad I had no choice."). And be clear that you have to be okay with it even if they don't reciprocate.
The other thing to get clear on before you talk to your old love is to think about what's at stake for you. That is, what do you stand to gain versus what do you stand to lose? A lot of the time, things like this end with nothing more than thinking, "Boy, I sure made the right decision when I dumped that loser." The outcome you want is to clear up bad feelings from your own past and be able to move ahead having learned something not only about relationships, but about yourself and what freedom and power comes from taking responsibility for your life. So be thinking about that as you set this up -- and think about what BIG parts of your life might be at stake, might open up for you if you take this on.
2006-10-23 16:08:11 · answer #5 · answered by Scott F 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ehh, I wouldn't go trying to start a relationship back up. Get in touch and have casual conversation, catch up, leave on good terms. It's always fun to do that.
2006-10-23 15:51:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what the bad terms were, and how much you liked the person before.
2006-10-23 15:50:48 · answer #7 · answered by Britni Gayle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's tempting. I think you should move on. You may rekindle what was previous, it won't end differently. I twill end again.
2006-10-23 15:52:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you thinking about them? Do you miss this person?
I would just let it go.
2006-10-23 15:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be nice to see each other again.
2006-10-23 15:50:23 · answer #10 · answered by Name one way your not Hitler 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you broke up for a reason, just leave it be
2006-10-23 15:50:40 · answer #11 · answered by this_could_kill_you 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋