Why do woman (and some men) keep stating that it's impossible to live off of one income? This is ridiculous! It is possible if you aren’t greedy. Now I’m not saying that it’s something that can happen automatically. Some people need to get an education first and then pay off debt. However, that should be the goal. To live off of one income if you are planning to marry or have kids. This question comes from the answers I’m receiving from my previous inquiry: “The Bible clearly states that young women should marry, have children, and keep the house and home...opinions?” The point being that living off of one income is completely possible. People just aren’t willing to sacrifice for a little bit.
2006-10-23 08:48:36 · 16 answers · asked by Julie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
(Example: I’ve been married to my husband for a little over a year. However we’ve been together for almost 5 years. We now have a 2-year plan in play that will allow us to get completely debt-free and able to survive off of his income solely. Trust me he doesn’t make that much at all and we do have a decent amount of debt from two cars, student loans and a credit card.) That’s why I’m completely baffled when people state that society or the economy won’t allow a one-income family. It’s not that it’s people insecurity or unwillingness to do so. One of the parents (in my opinion) needs to be at home to tend to the children. My real opinion is the woman needs to be at home as soon as possible, even before children, to take care of the house and her husband. I don’t understand why more women aren’t willing to do this. They state it’s due to finances but that’s not true. The finances will work out if you want them to and if you put your faith in God.
2006-10-23 08:49:02 · update #1
Also I know I’m going to hear from single moms on this issue and for the sake of this discussion question, this question is not aimed towards y’all. (Although, I do have an opinion about single moms that I will keep to myself for now). So I guess the question is why are so many people making up blatant excuses not to stay at home and take care of their family?
2006-10-23 08:49:20 · update #2
1. Because, today's woman doesnt want to stay at home. It's not 'rewarding/challanging' enough.
2. Both need to work to pay the credit card. It's simply a matter of choice, fueled by greed.
2006-10-23 09:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
My husband is a painter. I am a receptionist (and both of us have been with our present employers at least 10 years). Neither of us make enough to support the family on our own. I work to carry medical benefits for our family, as well as completing my husband's income so that our housenote and utilities may be paid. We don't eat out often, nor do we participate in things that cost a lot of money. Our children do not attend a private school, although if I could afford it, working would be WORTH IT to me. The very fact that you would call a reason "an excuse" when there is no way you could possibly know what it's like to live in someone else's shoes shows that you are being judgemental. You're not supposed to worry about the speck in another person's eye and not pay attention to the plank in yours. And, we ALL have a "plank", so none of us has right to judge another. But also, in the Bible, women sold clothing and worked in the fields.
As far as your comment about single moms, I am anxious to hear just what your opinion IS about moms who are raising their child alone. Whether they are single because of divorce, never having married, or death of spouse, I really want to know your opinion about "single moms".
If you can afford to stay home with your kids, good for you. But, you shouldn't sit up on your perch and judge those who cannot or don't for whatever reason. Enjoy that you can. If you cannot afford to stay home with your children, please don't let remarks like this make you feel bad. I used to do that and made myself miserable. Hold your head up and know that you are doing the best you can do!
2006-10-23 09:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by his_scarlett_ohara 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
living well and just getting by are not the same! Yes we could live on my husbands income alone but, it would not be living it would be surviving!. We would have to live in a one bedroom apartment with our 10.5 year, old 8.5 year old, our baby due in December. My children would get less healthy food. They would have only used clothes and toys. Our baby would have no pampers. I'm sorry if working moms offend you living in poverty watching my kids suffer offends me. We have no debt this way we go on vactions we own a home and a boat my children are feed well. As for the bible don't tell me your God wants my babies to do without proper housing and food. Why do without nice things? If my husband was a doctor made 100,000 a year i'ld love nothing more then to stay home.
2006-10-23 09:30:35 · answer #3 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife and I live off one income, have three children and do just fine. However, my wife has been at home with the kids for six years. She has just earned a degree and will be starting work very soon, not because she has to, but because she wants to. My point being: You may not be able to live a lavish lifestyle on one income, but your kids are better off if one parent can stay home. Now that the kids are all in school, she can work and still be there before and after school.
2006-10-23 09:17:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think it is very smug of you to assume that everyone has the financial security to stay at home. I am a mother of three boys, all under the age of six. I also work full time. I sepend ALL my time that I am not at work with my children. We do not live an extravagant life style, my husband and I both work hard to take care of our family. I don't think in any way my children are deprived emotionally or psychological, I was raised by two working parents who were both excellent role models and showed me the value of hard work and the dedication and sacrafice it takes to have a family.
2006-10-23 09:21:33 · answer #5 · answered by MaryAnn 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well with house payments being what they are and food and bills it does take two incomes if you want to have anything worth a darn. you know those were ozzie and harriet days when the wife would not have to work , I think women should work it gives them independance and they can support themselves should something happen to their husbands. OMg I cannot imagine not working in this day and age. Good Luck and god bless.
2006-10-23 09:09:36 · answer #6 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could stay home and be the soccer mom, but my ex husband is a jerk and does not pay the child support on time or regularly, how else should I raise my kids, I need to work, and there is no welfare here! Besides I am capable I don't need assistance.
2006-10-23 09:02:07 · answer #7 · answered by Marcie E 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People like you make me nuts. Mind your business. If I could be home with my kids I would and I don't need you or anyone else who attends Sunday services passing judgement on me. Ya know it's funny...everyone I know that runs around screaming from the roof tops about how Christian they are...are always the ones who think they have some right to pass judgement. Why? Did God say if you go to church and tell everyone including the milk mand and the mail man that your christian you have the same right to judge people as I do? I must have missed that in Sunday school. I do the best I can for my kids and guilt slingers like you make me sick.
2006-10-23 08:56:10 · answer #8 · answered by sasha 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've always felt that a woman staying home to take care of the children was very selfish. I understand that being a homemaker is difficult, but you are still at home which is still far less irritating then going to work for 40+ hours a week.
2006-10-23 08:54:05 · answer #9 · answered by QuestionWyrm 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
who says you can't take care of your family and work! give me a break! you can live off one income if that is your choice and you can also choose to have a career and still take care of your family and have happy well rounded kids
you sound like you just want an excuse
2006-10-23 08:52:52 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋