and she hasn;t called me since. She wasn;t happy as she is of the idea that children should have absolutely everything they desire. I am not rich but my kids always have what they need and an overabundance of love. I am upset that she isn;t calling me, I even emailed her asking her to give me a call because I had good news. That was two days ago.
I can;t call her because my phone card has run out of minutes and I can';t put anymore on quite yet. She is aware of this.
The fact that she won;t even talk to me is really affecting me, what can I do? I am 4 1/2 weeks along, my third and my hubbies 1st
2006-10-23 08:41:56 · 12 answers · asked by ? 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
minutes on my phone card are not that important to me, if i wanted to put them on I could. Being rich is not important to me, being happy is. I can do that with not much money. My kids don;t need to be spoiled and grow up to be rotten human beings that expect everybody to do things for them. I have 3 kids not 4, unless you want to count the one who died in utero. I have 2 from one man, never married him because he was an ***, oops oh well, i got two beautiful daughters out of him, I will have one with this man because I love him, and will not be divorcing him.
Am I poor, maybe, but i have a full belly and a roof over my head, with clothes on my back...thats all any self respecting human being needs to survive in this world, isn;t it?
2006-10-23 09:02:23 · update #1
Just give her time, parents are funny about things like that. They have this idea of what THEY want for YOUR life and if it doesn't go that way it throws them for a loop. Calm down and let it pass. I know it's hard, but she'll stop acting like this and love this baby just like she does the other two. Congrats to you by the way!
2006-10-23 08:45:18 · answer #1 · answered by justwondering 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i might permit him understand that the toddler has been born and then, as quickly as you have been discharged, invite him for a visit and set up for certainly one of your loved ones to be present. Take it an afternoon at a time. i might re-examine your decision to apply the two names, because it form of feels that he won't have lots touch with the toddler. it is not acceptable for you and the toddler to be separated for greater suitable than an hour or 2, so do no longer capitulate to tension for in one day or weekend visits. while you're breastfeeding, there will be even much less question approximately it. If he does decide for to make certain the toddler, it may be interior the toddler's customary ecosystem-your place-for a functional length of time (6 months or greater). in my view, i think of you need to coach for raising this toddler on your man or woman. He would not look that involved.
2016-10-02 21:14:33 · answer #2 · answered by lavinia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say give her some time, if she still doesn't come around ask her what is going on if she is mad the fact that you are having another blessing then tell her you are disappointed in her and that she should be happy for you cause you are happy, If she is still mad then do what she is doing and eventually she will come around, don't stress though I am sure things will turn out good.
2006-10-23 08:46:57 · answer #3 · answered by Lisha 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may just be concerned that 3 children will be difficult for you to care for - not necessarily YOU, but anyone. She's a mom & she wants your life to be PERFECT so she doesn't want anything to be "difficult" for you. I agree with someone else who said give her a little time. I'm sure she'll love this baby just as much as the other two. Good luck to you!
2006-10-23 09:16:27 · answer #4 · answered by dmommab@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why she is not calling you is because she sees you making the same mistakes as before. You'll have a couple of kids with this dude, then you'll get divorced again and be a single mom with 4 kids from two different dads.
You can't call your mother because the minutes on your phone card have run out. Perfect evidence that you are poor and can not afford another child.
2006-10-23 08:54:11 · answer #5 · answered by murkglider 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I'm sorry your mother seems to have such superficial values. Children who get everything they want end up spoiled rotten brats that don't appreciate what they have. All you can do is wait and hope she comes around. Good luck.
2006-10-23 09:32:37 · answer #6 · answered by Miriam Z 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your children are your business. The decisions you make for them are yours, and not your mother's.
You mom needs to realize that she doesn't have any say over your life. Maybe you shouldn't be willing to take her emotional blackmail--because this silent act is exactly that.
Tell your Mom, the next time she deigns to call, that you love her. And you want her to stay involved in your life. But you can't let her run it.
2006-10-23 09:00:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
give it a little while an then call her again or if you can go over do i think it has been a shock but hey she is your mum and loves you she will be ok with it when she herself gets her head round it maybe she is just worried congratulations an good luck in your future
2006-10-23 09:50:40 · answer #8 · answered by kitten 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she knows you can't afford another child and she probably feels bad. As long as you don't ask her for money then she will probably come around to talking to you. It's hard when a mom see a child ruin their life and we can't do a darn thing.
2006-10-23 08:52:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
well if she will not call you then forget about it. soon she will not be able to stand it and call you. good luck with this baby. and as long as you are happy and full of love your children have all they will ever need.
2006-10-23 08:50:35 · answer #10 · answered by littleluvkitty 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋