Babies having babies?

Question

I guess I just don't get it. What is wrong with our society that we allow babies to HAVE babies! At 12 I didn't want anything to do with sex much less the though of having a child. This makes me very sad. I have three daughters of my own and the more posts I see on here about girls so young, it scares me to death. I know I will be one of those mothers who's daughters hate them because I will without a shadow of a doubt pull them out of a party by their hair if need be. What's happening to children?

I totally agree that lack of parenting is a big part of the problem. I dont' want my girls to hate me, but they will know right from wrong and as long as I'm able I will enforce that.

Answer 1

I remember when I was 12, I had my first boyfriend. We were together from the end of 6th grade to the end of 7th grade. He dumped me because I wouldn't hold hands with him and I didn't kiss him. LOL

I agree with you. I can't imagine any child wanting to have babies or wanting to have sex and such an early age. Kids now-a-days are in such a hurry to grow up. They don't realize that these are the years that they should be having fun and having no worries about sex or if they're pregnant or not. I do wonder where their parents are in these situations. Their parents are lacking responsibility of their children; therefore, when their kids are faced with these situations, they make bad decisions. They don't know who to turn to so they go to their friends who also don't know what they're doing. It's really sad.

Answer 2

In the first place, I don't believe most of those posts. People often post such questions and stories, just to see the response.

Secondly, this society does not "allow" 12 year olds to have babies. Many things are in place to help prevent such things from happening, the two most influential being the care of parents and guardians, and the law.

The problem is that no amount of monitoring, short of literal imprisonment of our children, can prevent all such cases. And this phenomena is nothing new. It has been happening as long as there have been humans.

Remember, in more primitive times, the proper child bearing age for a female was when the body was able to create life. Our culture has chosen to extend "childhood" to a much later age than has nature. I feel this is a good thing in that by giving a person more time to learn and mature, that person should enter adulthood much more prepared for the very different world, much changed from those more primitive times.

Still, there will be curious children experimenting, older children and adults taking advantage of the younger ones, and babies will still be having babies.

We can only do the best we can to protect them. We can also provide childeren with the tools to protect themselves. I include, among these tools, the suggestion that some form of sex education be taught in schools from a very early age. Age appropriate information should be mandatory EVERY year of a child's schooling. And the older they get, the more specific and, if necessary, more graphic it should be. By the time a child reaches physical puberty, he/she should be well aware of the possible consequences of sexual contact.

If the "mystery" is gone, the curiosity is diminished. If the consequences are known, the victimization abated.

In other words, if a child knows more about WHY she or he should not get into a car with, or to follow a stranger, the less likely she or he will take that chance.

Answer 3

It's actually called freedom. We HAVE to allow them to do what they want. We can educate them all we want but people do what they want. Yes I agree it is sad because most of the time they have no idea what they are getting into. I'm 25 years old with a 5 month old in a stable relationship and am very happy but there are days when I feel overwhelmed. I couldn't imagine being 12 trying to juggle school and a baby. Sex is just SO "available" now. You see it everywhere. And it's not just sex violence if common on tv and have you heard the language now? You have to monitor EVERYTHING these days.

Almost doesn't seem far to our kids does it?

Answer 4

Maybe if every child had to go through morning sickness as a class...they would stop and think. I am 24 happily married for a year and a half and this baby has been wanted since we got married. Now that I am going through the changes and morning sickness...(guess some have it worse than others of course) but if they knew what went into it? Instead of media glam...they might just take a step back and think. Of course, they may not. What a sad world it is, they just don't understand do they. The response about God being taken out of our lives...I think that sums it up pretty well. So God Bless the children of our nation!

Answer 5

It is very sad for kids to have kids. I often wonder the same thing. My cousin had a baby at 16 but was pregnant at fifteen. Sometimes you wonder if its the parents fault, but I believe that kids make mistakes very big mistakes, but things happen for a reason and it could be prevented if they were put on birth control, but being that young it would be hard to even have a clue that they were thinking of doing things of that nature. I hope they know what they are getting theirselves into BEFORE they get pregnant.

Answer 6

i was a baby having a baby at 16. my excuse, laqck of parental supervision. my parents were never home and when they were, my father was always high. it was learned behavior for me. i learned how to do drugs from my father and learned how to get what i wanted from men by using sex. i am now a proud mother of 6 beautiful children and having them, made me grow up and learn how to act like a normal person in society. i understand where you are coming from though, seeing these children with bellies out to the moon kills me, they think what a cute little baby. they don't think of all the responsibility that comes along with that little bundle. some do become great mothers, others should giv those babies up to families that would love them

Answer 7

As someone from the younger generation I thoroughly agree. I am 12 years old and I look very old for my age, but still I was in Ireland a grown man grabbed my butt. The society today is crazy, but I can't blame it all on the teenagers. Parental control is huge, also teachers at school are really overlooking things. Anyway I hope my input helped

Answer 8

Unfortunitly its been going on for a long time. 12 is unbeliveable....It really depends on how you raise your children. I got pregnant at 15, and I would have to say it had a lot to do with my home life!! When there is disfunction in the home, and parents neglecting there childs emotional needs and when the parents needs are met before the childs needs, there is alot of "reasons" why those things happen!

Answer 9

It's just the depreciation of a society! All you can do is your best to raise your children better than average. I was pregnant at 19, which I considered horribly young lol, but exactly, these 12 year olds asking? Where are the parents I wonder. Me and my husband are praying we do better!

Answer 10

I know what you mean. I just responded to that post. It's quite scary considering the boy who made her pregnant is probably much older.
I remember hearing about 14 year olds getting pregnant but a 12 year old! It's sick! I mean they're not even developed at that age! The whole thing makes me ill!!