Is it wrong to have midnight msngr conv with you frnds husband.?

Question

We are not into any kinda reln, we very rarely talk like say once in 6 mnth talk about life and sometimes new stuff like in the VS store. We don't have any sexual reln and nor do we intend to. Sometimes my frnds husband discusses his sexual reln with wife, not something in detail, just the little bit like surprises she likes and stuff like that. We ended up talking about hair on the body sometime and were talking about convenient ways . it was a very healthy man to man frnd kinda discussion, only difference is that i am a girl. My frnd has go upset with all this and thinks what we did was wrong. I said we did not do anything wrong in discussing as we are frnds. but her words still haunt me an she made it sound as though we were having some sexual affair with each other. please help me. she is a very god frnd of mine and don't wanna lose her. how can i make her understand that my intention was never to give an impression that way. i have chatted with her husband purely on frndship leve

Answer 1

Maybe you intent was innocent. I can understand that. I have a lot deeper conversations with men than women. Unfortunately thats just the way it is. I dont have many girlfriends. But that being said, the answer to your question is, yes ! It is wrong. If your friend feels uncomfortable with you talking to her husband then thats all that matters. You had to have known that, that may be a possibility. Even though it might be innocent it suggests that you may be willing to keep other things a secret between you two. NOT GOOD! You should appologize to your friend and dont do it again if you want to save your relationship. If the husband tries to contact you I would just blow him off tell him that your busy and then let your friend know he's continuing. If you truely care about your friend thats what you should do.

Answer 2

Midnight conversations with a friend's husband are inappropriate, expecially the kind of conversations you have been having. No such thing as man-to-man discussions if it's man-to-girl. Get real. Apologize to your friend and tell her you meant no harm, that you thought of it as a friend to friend conversation, but now you realize how it made her feel and you will not engage in such conversations again. Tell her husband the same thing. It's not worth ruining a friendship even if you think you did nothing wrong. Respect your friend's feelings.

Answer 3

Why don't you just tell her exactly what happened and what you talked about. If you find that there are some things that you can't tell her then that means that it is something you shouldn't have been talking about and therefore you screwed up.

In the end you guys are adults and you should be able to work things out. It's not like you slept with him, BUT, intimate conversations should not be taking place with you and your "good" friend's husband. How can anything good come out of that??? I mean... really???!!! WRONG

Answer 4

You have to consider your friend's feelings. If she is upset about what you did, then that means she didn't like what you did. And you gotta respect that because she is the wife of the person you had a chat with and also, she is your friend. I suggest that you go talk to her and apologize telling her that you didn't mean anything bad but won't do it again. Reasssure her. She's your friend. :-)

Answer 5

What you did is great. Your friend is jealous. She might not feel very secure in her marriage.

One of my best friends was being playful with his then girlfriend and set up a tent in his den. I called him while they were in the tent. I spoke to my friend for five minutes and his girlfriend for over an hour. While my friend was a bit upset, he was more upset that his romantic idea got messed up for a while than that I was speaking to his girlfriend.

He later married her and was extremely happy when I told him that she is now one of my best friends just like he is. She and I have spoken on the phone for hours since then and both of us are married. My friend and I also speak on the phone for hours too.

Take care,
Troy

Answer 6

It could be very innocent, but if your friend is upset, you need to stop. Tell her your sorry (sounds like you already said that) and it was totally innocent but assure her that you will never do it again. Sometimes innocent conversations can turn into something more before you even know it.

Answer 7

I wouldve been uncomfortable if my bf/husband wouldve talked to my gf late 1 night. Even tho it looks innocent, it actually 'means' so much more... now, she prob worries about her husband and who else hes talking too. Its kinda odd to chat very late at nite...looks suspicious. I, too, wouldve been skeptical. Apologize to her, and to him...and just dont chat late at night again. Talk during the day; it's safer that way

Answer 8

just a bit inappropriate i would think simply because it is not like you told her about it :( and think if the tables were turned how would you feel if another woman friend or not was speaking on messenger with your spouse

try to make amends though if she is your friend give her time but don't lose your frienship with her if you can salvage it

Answer 9

It's completely inappropriate to be talking that way to a married man, much less your friend's husband.

Answer 10

it would all depend on the friend.. i have one friend that i wouldn't mind.. the rest i don't trust.. so obviously your friend doesn't either trust you or her husband.. do you ever IM him in the day or while she's awake.. i think the late night IM's are what is causing problems.. it looks like you are hiding something.. if she got upset i would def stop doing this if you want to continue your friendship..