Why do other womwn excite me and not my wife
2006-10-23 08:33:55 · 10 answers · asked by mrdjj 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's probably just the way she holds herself. I am assuming since she is your wife that at one point she turned you on. A few months ago, my husband told me that since I had our last child I really let myself go as far as taking time to get dressed, doing hair, and make up. I listened to him, and did nothing. Our sex life diminished. And although he never came out and said he wasn't turned on by me, I believe that it could be true. Well, a few weeks ago I decided to just get dressed up, do my hair the way he likes, do my make up, the way he likes, wear clothes that I know he likes and something happened. He wanted to be near me, he started kissing and holding me. And that night he didn't seem to have any problems getting turned on. So, maybe you need to think about what is that turns you off about your wife, and what she could do to turn you on, and bring it to her attention with sensitivity. Don't come out and call her names, and say you never do this or that. And don't tell her you're not turned on by her, and are by other women. You will just hurt her, and she may become defensive. Instead let her know what you would like from her. And see if that helps.
2006-10-23 09:01:26 · answer #1 · answered by smontez24 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This maybe horrible advise because I don't want you to hurt her feelings. But you really have to find a nice way to talk to her about this.
I don't know how long you guys have been married and sometimes when your wife has had a child or gained some weight or something I can see where you might not be attracted to her the same way you once were.
WITHOUT HURTING HER FEELINGS you have to talk about this and try to find something to "spice it up a bit".
Maybe she feels the same way and has some interesting ideas for the two of you.
Or maybe you will just have to close your eyes and fantasize about someone else for a while until the spark comes back.
2006-10-23 15:41:47 · answer #2 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your wife is not hot and sex and these other women maybe.
It could be that your wife constantly nags you and it has turned you off to her
Has she had a child recently and you were in for the delivery and now you wonder how you can handle a hole that a 7 -10 pound baby came out of
Could your wife have let herself go and now she looks like Elsie the cow and you want a hot young thang to give you back your groove
Did you marry your wife for the wrong reason pregnancy, to escape the gay lifestyle, etc
Any of these things may be the reason your wife is not looking so hot anymore
2006-10-23 15:38:46 · answer #3 · answered by Cherry Berry 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It sounds as though you don't desire your wife anymore if being around other women excites you...You need to get some pizazz back into your marriage.
2006-10-23 15:48:37 · answer #4 · answered by Miss J 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you need some counseling, and if that doesnt help then maybe you shouldnt be with your wife.
2006-10-23 16:30:15 · answer #5 · answered by snoop_dougie_doug04 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is called desiring something different. wanting the excitment back in your life an back into your sex! everyone goes thru this , it is just because you have grown bored in your own bedroom.
2006-10-23 16:06:10 · answer #6 · answered by ~just_jd~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way...don't listen to that one...never tell your wife that she doesn't turn you on...she will never get past that, just try new things, tell her you want to do that but never tell her it's her.
2006-10-23 15:46:20 · answer #7 · answered by sasha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does your wife come on to you and you still are having trouble????
2006-10-23 15:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Need more details to help you out. Is she fat & ugly? Is she a b*tch? How long you have you been together? Do you love her?
2006-10-23 15:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by Babyface 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to maried life. We have a club. Guess who's a member? EVERYBODY! Guess where we meet? AT THE BAR!!!
2006-10-23 16:18:09 · answer #10 · answered by jeff15116 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋