1. I do not like abortion, I think it should be against the law in most cases. However the courts say its legal... My question is, should the father of the child have a say, I mean half the genes in that baby are his...keep in mind I am talking about a couple who had consentual sex, (not rape or anything like that.) The mother my not want the baby, but what if the father does, does he not have a say....Try and keep your feelings for or against abortion out of the answer, and look at the quesiton....Should the father have a say, if he wants to.
2. If a women can choose not to have a child, should the father be allowed to do the same. If a women can just say, I can't support this kid and has a abortion, why does the dad get forced to pay child support, why can't he say, nope I don't want to I can't.
Now just to keep the record clear, I don't like abortion, and I don't like dads who refuse to pay support, questions like this make for a good debate....your thoughts
2006-10-23 08:33:53 · 11 answers · asked by yetti 5 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
I am mostly talking about if a woman wants an abortion, and the father wants to keep the baby, does he get the choice....
and what you are saying is a woman can give up a child but a man can't....
2006-10-23 08:43:09 · update #1
What is very funny to me about some of these answers is, people are always talking about equal rights between men and women...however in this case, a women can choose not to have a child, why can't a man, a woman can choose to keep the child, why can't the man....If the dad wants to raise the child, why does he not get the chance....because the woman would have to carry the baby and go into labor....hey, she choose to have sex also...I seen several people say that the man choose to have sex...well he is not the only one who made that choice.....
2006-10-23 08:52:24 · update #2
Nordic....I like the idea, if the father wants the child and the mother does not, he should have to pay for the bills and such....also giveing both parents a deadline to sign away rights is a good idea also....but at the same time again
2006-10-23 09:06:36 · update #3
I think you make an excellent point. I am a woman, looking at my profile you would see that. So my perspective should be important.
The issue I take with a man insisting a woman give birth to this child is that there are several issues that come with pregnancy. You are not always able to do the same work load as you were able to prior to pregnancy. You have to take time off for having the baby, at least to deliver it and recover from delivery. You end up with doctor's bills that without insurance will break the bank. You lose your figure you had prior to having the child.
Keeping that in mind there is so much that a woman would have to put out to ensure this child is delivered.
I am not for abortion but I am not going to tell another woman she can not have one, as much as I want to.
I will now outline what would need to happen to have the father have a say in it all. Many things would need to change. The mother would have to sign away all rights to future claims to the child. The father would have to pay for the entire pregnancy/health care. When the mother can no longer work because of the pregnancy (due date/weeks) he must support the monther for that time. The father would have to take over duties with the child immediately after the birth of a child, just like the adopted parents would need to do in a similar situation. The mother should get about two weeks for a normal birth and longer if there are complications.
With all this being met, it should be their choice too!
But if a man does not want the child he should have the right before the child is born and not too late for an abortion, to sign away his rights and then she can not claim child support against him.
I would just hope that many would consider all the consequenses before having sex.
2006-10-23 09:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by nordic_winds1969 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow - questions like this make a great debate!
1. I think that since the father helped conceive the child, he should have a say. Difficult, though, what to do in cases where no one is certain who the father is... Is it fair to make a father lose a child he wants to raise? Is it fair to make a mother carry a child she does not want even if the father wants it? Very hard to answer.
2. VERY murky. If one parent thinks they can support the child on their own and wants to raise it, and the other parent says they want no part of it, could the parent who wants no part of it sign their obligation away (IE: the father would not have to pay child support) so that the other parent would be totally responsible for the child from birth...
I also don't like abortion, or parents who refuse to pay child support. Thank you for the most thought provoking question I have seen here today!
2006-10-23 08:41:50 · answer #2 · answered by Leah 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think first of all, if your going to be in a relationship you should discuss your opinions on abortion and get that straight, and I feel if you are comfortable enough to have sex with some one you should be able to make this decision together.
A father can give up all their rights to the child, then they don't have to pay child support, but it has to be documented and legally binding, he can't just stop being in the childs life legally if there is a court order for child support. But keep in mind there are cases where women have to pay child support.
2006-10-23 09:09:33 · answer #3 · answered by pink_drink_girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say yes. The mother is the one who has to carry the child, and there may be many reasons that aren't selfish that she may wish for an abortion. However, the father does have a right and an obligation to the life of the child. Unless the father is a blatnat idiot, then no. Or, if the father has no plans to be around or if the father would be a horrible father, or if the father raped the mother and that is how she got pregnant.
2006-10-23 08:48:55 · answer #4 · answered by Wookie on Water 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The father should not have a say in the matter either way. He is not the one who will carry the child and deliver it, or the one to undergo the procedure if the mother has an abortion.
As for child support if the mother keeps it, yes, he should pay. He had the choice to have sex or not, and now he should pay the consequences. It would be like someone who robs a gas station deciding later that he doesn't want to go to prison so he shouldn't have to.
2006-10-23 08:46:36 · answer #5 · answered by Mutt 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think that both parents should have to sign in order for an abortion to be performed. Actually, let's just get rid of abortion all together and make this easy. See, with adoption both parents have to either sign, show proof of the other's death, or be found to be unfit for parenting. Same should go for abortion. If the father is a crackhead, or in jail, then the mother shouldn't have to have the signature. However, if he is a fit parent, and wants the child, he should be granted custody (and pay all medical expenses for mother and baby during pregnancy).
2006-10-23 09:21:04 · answer #6 · answered by mandi_rach 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I am anti-abortion in all cases.
Now your answers:
1. No, the father gets no say.
2. No, the father should not be given "choice" to abort.
The man doesn't want to pay child support should avoid the sex. The way I look at it, if he consents to the sex, he is "consenting" to all the responsibilities of that act, including child support for 18 years if pregnancy occurs. I consider it an implied consent.
Also, the pro-choice argument of a woman's body is also relevant here. The man has no right to force a medical procedure on a healthy woman or child (or, frankly, any adult woman or child).
2006-10-23 08:40:25 · answer #7 · answered by kingstubborn 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I believe there are laws relevant to your precise question and are still being decided by our courts system. As far as my personal view..I do believe a father has an undeniable right to choose whether, his biological child lives or dies..but also
their are many considerations to be taken. The well being of said child, should and must be a priority, whether the child will be healthy, and how long into pregnancy the mother is...amongst other just as valid reasoning. Very good question..and this debate will and has gone on for some time. lol
2006-10-23 08:53:29 · answer #8 · answered by Bxrock 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You do have a good point, i personally am against abortion, however it does make sense. If you think of it that way it is kind of unfair to the father if the mother decides to get rid of the baby. But if in fact it was consensual sex then both parties should be adult enough to talk about there decisions and consider each others feelings. Besides my opinion is if your adult and mature enough to make a decision to have unprotected sex and not worry about the consequences. Then they should be adult and mature enough to discuss their future and that of there unborn child.
2006-10-23 08:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by h0n3y_l1ps_27 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES-- the father should have a say as it is also his offspring, if the mother does not want the child and the father does then all the more power to the dad.
2006-10-23 08:44:15 · answer #10 · answered by angelbaby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋