I am 17 nearly 18 and have been in a relationship with my guy(22) for 3years we dont have sex all the time but no he rarely wants to have sex at all once a week/forghtnight i dont know what i have done wrong he just always turns away and falls asleep ive tried everything i can think of now i need help please.
2006-10-23 08:30:13 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
we did not have sex till i turned 16!!!! we are in the uk as well btw
2006-10-23 08:43:16 · update #1
If he rarely wants sex at 23 he is either having a problem to such things as over work(this 'll do it, as jobs can drain you. )he may be tired at night, but on weekends he should be wide open for sex with a 18 year old or any age for that matter.
Other alternative reasons are;
He's got a problem and hasn't confided in you with it.
The naivety of sex has ended and he wants to be a kid again.
He's impotent to some degree and does not know how to handle it.
He;s not a good a bed part net as you thought. Some men are less demanding in sex than others, It just doesn't take much to stiffly them.
He's getting sex elsewhere and you are being left out.
If you are not married/engaged and not obligated tell him you will not do with out..
Tell him you will not do with out if you are engaged, and mean it.
You can't live your life without sex and now is time to settle this.
ask him if there is a problem.
Dam I missed the age on that one. Heather h is right. He should be in jail not in a relationship with you.
Drop him fast. Any may who will have sex with a 14 year old you don't want to have children with.
He is a pedophile, and should be on every states child molestors list.
2006-10-23 08:40:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay let me break it down for you honey the first try to get sexy for him then if that dont work the first time maybe he is tired ok try this let him see u playing with urself or when he get out the shower try to give him some head I know ur young but I seem to think u've tried it a time or two anyway and if all this fails plaese dont take this thewrong way not here to hurt feelings BUT maybe he is not felling u any more u know as a woman we got thrw **** like that not me myself because even if that spark aint there he is alway going to want my sex cuz if dont get no better than this. ok over look that I dont want u to think thats right a man has to want u for more than just sex please keep that in mind. MAYBE he is gay maybe he has someone else or maybe he cant get it up these are things to keep in mind at all times get a dildo
2006-10-23 15:52:46 · answer #2 · answered by love k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you are a minor and it is statutory rape for him to sleep with you I shouldnt make any suggestions.
Maybe his sex driver has diminished because he realizes you are too young for him: You cant go out and drink and have fun. Sometimes though, I know I get stuck in a no sex rut too. Maybe try something new and different. Get a naughty outfit or buy some exotic lubes and massage oil. If he still rejects sex, maybe he is seeing another girl so he may feel guilty engaging in intercourse with you. Maybe the relationship is over. If it is.. then accept it and move on. You are young and there are a lot of men out there.. Goodluck.
2006-10-23 15:40:38 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let see. when you met you had lust, now the two of you are growing apart because heis figuring out in life that you are not exactly what he was looking for. There is no way at your ages that you could possibly know what you want in life. You weren't even old enough to do most things. When you started dating did you discuss your political views? Religious ones?
You were too young and he is moving on, you just haven't figured it out yet, cause you are still to inexperienced in life to realize it.
2006-10-23 16:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be tired, at 22 trying to hold down a job, pay bills, and play "husband" is alot to ask someone so young!
Give him some space, don't add more pressure to his problems. You have been together 3 years, life isn't always movie star sex!
2006-10-23 15:36:39 · answer #5 · answered by kat k 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
typical sigh of a married couple. happens to a lot of couples who have been together to long, does not means he loves you any less but he knows he can get you any time so sex is not that tempting any more. If you want to get some you have to create some interest for him to turn on more frequently
2006-10-23 17:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jinha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try turning him on wear something sexy, or experiment if you dont,but dont do something you think is nasty, make sure their are no signs that he is cheating on you, why dont you ask him what is going on and explain that it hurts you thinking that he dont love you anymore or feels like he dont find you attractive anymore see what he says
2006-10-23 16:00:08 · answer #7 · answered by Lisha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be that he is just not that interested in sex. There are people like that. Don't assume the worst first.
2006-10-23 17:35:28 · answer #8 · answered by George 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAybe you can give him a finger job, then warm it up by stick it in there. I think this might work
2006-10-23 15:33:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he's bored.. try some other approach.. like sexy lingerie or something
you dont have to have sex everynight anyway
2006-10-23 15:33:59 · answer #10 · answered by theMRS.asof11-25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋