I just found out that im pregnant and i don't know what to do. Im terrified to tell my parents. What should I do?
2006-10-23 08:23:41 · 46 answers · asked by curlyque08 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Congratulations. You need to tell your parents.
They will be upset at first but will come around.
We have a 17 year old girl on our chat board, maybe
she can help you.
2006-10-23 08:26:04 · answer #1 · answered by Ontario_Mom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first baby at 16. It was tough. There were a lot of things that I couldn't do. Prom, for instance, I never went to prom. My boyfriend at the time wasn't ready to be a father, he really wanted me to have an abortion. He even told me if I didn't abort it, he would beat me until I miscarried. Well I risked it. I went on to have the most beautiful baby boy who brings me nothing but happiness. I met a guy right before my son turned 1 and he was ok with the fact that I had a child. We got engaged and then pregnant, and when I was 18, I was 6 months pregnant at my wedding. We now have a 3 year old, a 14 month old and another one on the way. We're very happy.
My parents were pissed. When I told them I was pregnant the first time, my daddy said he never wanted to look at me again. I was a daddy's girl and they are strict catholics. I got kicked out of my catholic school, so I finished high school living at my aunt's house going to a public school. Things were hard, but manageable. I had to sacrafice a lot, but which parent doesn't.
I wish you all the best, a healthy pregnancy, understanding parents, and all the happiness in the world. If you want to talk, my email is kalliea923@yahoo.com. I'll be glad to talk you through this and if you have any questions, no matter how dumb they may be (I had some pretty dumb ones...like 'how do you change a diaper?") I'll be more than glad to answer them the best I can.
2006-10-23 08:36:25 · answer #2 · answered by Kallie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok...I was 16 when I found out I was pregnant with my first child. I was scared to death, especially to tell my mom. I told my dad and he gave me two weeks to tell my mom before he did. I let the two weeks go by and he told my mom. She was so pissed and angry at me. I think she didn't talk to me for about a week. Everything died down quickly and my mom wanted to do everything. They gave me the option of adoption but I knew that wasn't for me. I ended up having the baby and it was a girl. She is 5 now. My parents are the best grandparents ever and they love her so much! So basically your parents will be upset no matter what but if you decide to have the baby they will be there for you. PLUS don't let anyone tell you that you can't go to college or finish high school. I DID IT! I have a couple friends who did it. It can be done. I was told that when I was pregnant and I knew I had to prove everyone wrong. Of coarse it will take a little longer but it will be done. I am 22 now with 3 kids and am now married. I got my Associate's Degree and am currently working toward my Bachelor's. YOU CAN DO IT!!! Just think long and hard because it is a life long decision.
2006-10-23 08:32:24 · answer #3 · answered by mizzladyariel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents. It's terrifying, but most parents are supportive and will be there for you (mine were when I unexpectantly became pregnant). I don't suggest abortion, although I'm sure it will be heard. If you don't want to raise the baby (which at 16 is understandable), put the baby up for adoption. There are many, many parents out there wanting to adopt. There are all sorts of different avenues with that, especially about being able to see the baby.
2006-10-23 08:26:59 · answer #4 · answered by kaikhor 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your parents, YOU must do that!
Your parents are going to be the ones to help with the baby. IF you are too afraid call this number 1-800-848-LOVE and I am sure you will feel better.
Your parents LOVE you, they may be angry, disappointed, scared, feel guilty like they did something wrong BUT that is the natural emotions that all parents, the good ones anyway, go through when they are faced with a teen being pregnant.
DO NOT have an abortion, no matter what http://www.abortionno.org
Lotts of hugs and best wishes!
2006-10-23 08:33:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are in a very scary situation. One many girls have found themselves in. Your parents are the best ones to talk to. You are their child & your child is their grandchild. If talking to them seems too hard go to your school councillor. They can help you talk to them, if you need. There are many options open to you but you need to know those options. You need medical attention soon. Still having a baby is not an evil thing. You need some peace right now. You need a solution that will let you go on in school. That is big time for your future. Good Luck.
2006-10-23 08:45:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suppose I would be terrified too if I was pregnant at 16. Simply because I would be confused whether anyone, particularly my parents would understand.
I'm much older now, with 2 kids of my own. I think if anyone of them were to get pregnant at 16, I would want them to come to me for help, after all I'm the one who should love them unconditionally, and be there for them no matter what.
My dear please go to your mom, ask her to first "activate" her unconditional love for you and tell her all about your problem. After all she is your mom no matter what.
Good luck and may God be with you.
2006-10-23 08:30:37 · answer #7 · answered by Mirage 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there are namy options that you have. I suggest telling your parents though. This needs to be done. You can't do much without there help. But make sure that they understand what you want. After all this is your body and your baby. I do not recomend getting abortions. This makes for regrets in the future, but there is adoption. This is a great thing if you don't want your baby. good luck, and just blirt it out. It workd=s great
2006-10-23 08:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should definetly tell your parents they might be more understanding than you think.if you need ideas, planned parenthood is awesome and they can give you all kinds of information. and remember you have choices! Its your baby do what YOU feel is right. i know girls your age who have had babys and done just fine. But theres always adoption and abortion is an option.dont let anyone decide for you!But remember whatever you do will affect the rest of your life so proceed with your choice very carefully. GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-10-23 08:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by ♥mama♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well your best bet is to just be honest and tell ur parents as soon as possible if youare going to keep the baby then they will get over the hole fact that you are only 16 and having this baby and they will help you...Talk to them they will help you threw this, they are all understanding and tehy might get really upset but they all get over it sooner or later..
and make sure u tell the father..if he doesn't already know...
2006-10-23 08:33:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not an adult yet, you are a young lady still under the care of your parents.. This is a situation that you are going to need a lot of love and support I would tell them immediately and go from there!
2006-10-23 08:31:31 · answer #11 · answered by HH72 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋