I want her back plain & simple.
I know some other bastard is txting her & that she txtx back.
We have 5 kids together.
She told me that she told him that she is back with her hubby.She is wearing our rings again.She kisses me holds my hand down the street & we have been intimate.
BUT i still have this nagging feeling that she may not be telling me the complete truth.I wont loook at her txts as i find that distasteful & shows a lack of trust on my behalf when I want to reconcile.
We have been looking at new houses as a fresh start.
I have been having meals up there we laugh we talk together.
How do i continue to attempt to woo back my wife when a 3rd party in my opinion is doing the same thing??
2006-10-23 08:21:23 · 17 answers · asked by 69frustrated69 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
TRUST is the big issue in your relationship with your wife, I say you continue to woo her back show her your love and compassion and devotion to her, show her that you are her prince and that she is your queen. Good Luck
2006-10-23 08:31:32 · answer #1 · answered by krazydavina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the honorable man and just leave it be. Keep doing what you're doing. If your wife has a monster in her closet a-rearin' to go, it's only a matter of time before the problem reveals itself. Hopefully that is not the case, as she seems to be trying to do right by you as well, but if the worst case scenario crash lands in your lap, you can brush it off your thighs, stand with square shoulders and chin high and know that you did the best you could. The worst thing you could do when your relationship with your wife is in such a fragile state is to start being domineering and paranoid.
PS; if she's looking into co-habitating with you, that's a SERIOUS commitment, and she's most likely been honest with you about telling this man she's taken. What's she going to do, leave you and invite the other guy over to your collaborative home for champagne and chocolate?
Best of luck to you both.
2006-10-23 15:27:12 · answer #2 · answered by Leena Rosen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally I would tell you that old relationships are like old tax returns....it's better not to open them again....but with five kids and a huge whopping child support payment I guess that's a hell of a good incentive.....You do need to set boundaries with your ex......if she boning you then she needs to let go of the interloper ...she might be playing both of you....having a good time with the other guy while keeping you on the string for the eventual get back together...it's hard to say...you need to set the boundaries with her and move in to a positive directio with the marriage...or cut her loose...she can't have it both ways..some women do but it's not right though.....
good luck, you are walking a fine line between getting back together and getting used/abused.
2006-10-23 15:41:04 · answer #3 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself she loved you once and if the flame is still lit she'll love you again. Don't try to compete with this other jerk. You have 5 kids with your wife so theres a chance that things will work out for the good. Be patient flatter her with flowers on no special occasion just because. You know what she likes and don't like so you have the advantage. Just go with the flow. Good luck I hope happiness with your wife finds you again.
2006-10-23 15:28:02 · answer #4 · answered by Brenda H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't believe her b/c you lost that trust you had for her. The only thing you can do is try trusting her again if you can. It will take a long time and she will have to give you no reasons not to trust again but it want be easy. If you can't do that then I would say you need to get out. You must have trust if it is going to work. If she said she was going to the store would you trust her? It will take time if you have it.
2006-10-23 15:26:38 · answer #5 · answered by tenndadof2 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of attracting someone is to happy.
Another part is to have a life they want to be apart of.
And be willing to share that life with them.
1) Be happy - fake it till to make it
2) Talk of a future together and the past that you've had. You have history the man doesn't
3) Sharing is inviting and treating with respect, but don't forget to treat her as a lover too and woo her.
2006-10-23 16:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to woo her...but you going to have to confront your wife about the text's. The sooner the better, because you have your whole heart laying on the palm of your hand holding it out to her. You don't deserved to be toyed around with. You deserve the whole truth and she should give it to you.
2006-10-23 15:27:22 · answer #7 · answered by blueeyeskenai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hire a detective, like on cheaters. Maybe you can be asure if your wife is cheating on you or not, but then again it can be hard to tell rather she is having an afair with you. The best of luck, may god bless you.
2006-10-23 15:25:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's an ex for a reason. I would be leary about getting back together - the best thing is to move on.
2006-10-23 15:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell her that in order for things to work you both have to be completely honest and ready to make it work. You are doing your part, now she must do hers. Tell her of your insecurities and that you love her and want to make your life with her work, but it can only work if both of your hearts are in it. If she is still talking to another man, then she may not be ready for that.
2006-10-23 15:26:03 · answer #10 · answered by stacye5398 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋