I want to start taking birth control now because I'm getting married this summer. My fiance doesn't want me to go on birth control because he's worried about the side effects. I tried a sample of Nuva ring that my doctor gave me and I was depressed all month, crying every night and getting hurt feelings over silly little things. He's also worried about possible long term effects like infertility when we do want to start having kids and birth defects, etc. He admits that he's paranoid and he has little evidence supporting his fears, but he's still "scared shitless" about the whole thing. Is there anywhere I can go online (someplace with a good reputation and cited information) that would have concrete stats and evidence to help him get over his fears? I really want to start birth control soon so that it is effective by the time we get married and I don't like the feeling that his fears are essentially in control of my body.
2006-10-23 08:17:53 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
I know the risks are low. But me and my husband were the same way about birth control. I didn't take them cause of the thought of blood clots,stroke,heart attack etc scared me.. We had all our kids so he got fixed. Just use a condom and if he doesn't like that then you will have to use b/c..
2006-10-23 08:24:55 · answer #1 · answered by Alexis221 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe reader's digest or a page like that, tried good housekeeping? The new pills are not that bad about mood swings and weight control, so do not fret my friend. Injections are riskier than pills because the effect on the body lasts for a whole month, with pills, you can just quit. If you have mood swings it's maybe because you have little cysts in your ovaries (nothing major) and mess up your hormone balance. Taking birth control pill will actually help you with that, and one of the most frightening side effects is that after prolonged use chances are you might get pregnant with twins or triplets and so on. Take your fiance to your doctor and talk about this together.
2006-10-23 08:31:20 · answer #2 · answered by Becks 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are over 35 (and/or you smoke) that increase you risk for a stroke.
I would recommend the patch. Because it does not have to be filtered by your kidneys, the hormones go right into your system and they can use a much lower dose. That will help with those nasty hormonal side effects and reduce the chances of blood clots. Talk to your GYN about it.
2006-10-23 08:21:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your doctor about the different birth control options available. Just because the Nova Ring ring was a problem doesn't mean everything will be. Take him to the doctor with you so he can ask questions, too. Perhaps it will put his mind at ease. If all else fails, just tell him to use a condom. although, it sounds to me like he just needs to chill.
2006-10-23 08:36:01 · answer #4 · answered by Shelley L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask your doctor about the paragard IUD. it is hormone free. Lots of doctors recommend it for all paitents, some recommend it only for women who have had children. But ask about it. VERY effective and no hormones...and you can leave it in for up to 10 years.
2006-10-23 08:20:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I notice you didn't mention a condom.Ask him if he prefers birth control or abstinence, his choice. But he better be able to live with his choice!
2006-10-25 13:10:38 · answer #6 · answered by gussie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just use the pill? From what I've heard there are almost no side-effects.
2006-10-23 08:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by arbolito 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you just take him along to your dr apt with you..Then he can ask about all of his concerns and poof they will be answered
2006-10-23 08:20:36 · answer #8 · answered by Bo Beeta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him this.....'If you want to blow it in me, let me go on birth control!"
He will give in.
2006-10-23 08:20:03 · answer #9 · answered by Husker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋