2006-10-23 08:13:28 · 26 answers · asked by MOmMy LenE 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Kick him in the balls so he doesn't knock you up again.
2006-10-23 08:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by robtheman 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I am sort of going through the same thing, but I am 5 yrs older and my b/f is 21 yrs older then u and ur b/f. Anyway...as everyone else said he can not make this decision for you. You have to make it yourself and if you are this unsure then my advice is to not even think about it anymore. Don't do it. I know you said adoption wasn't an option for you either, but at the end of 9 months you may not be any better off and decide that there is a better life out there for your little one. You my dear would definitely not be the first 18 yr old to go through this and you will not be the last. He needs to man up and deal with the reality of the situation instead of hiding like a child. No you shouldn't have to go through this alone, but if that's your only choice then do it. Choosing between him and your unborn child shouldn't even be a factor. That should be an easy decision no matter what. You are the only protector of this baby from now until you are dead and gone. There won't be anyone else for the little one to turn to because obviously daddy isn't in that place yet and maybe he'll never get there. And don't listen to anyone who says your not experienced enough to be a mother! That is the biggest load of bull I have ever heard. Are any of us ever truly ready to be a mother? Whether you are 16 or 40. Life experience has nothing to do with being a mother. Being a mother is your only experience in that field. I have raised many kids since I was 16(nieces, nephews, ex's kids)...and let me tell you no 2 were alike. So experience or not you will get it by trial and error just as the rest of us will or have. Get urself into some kind of schooling, go talk to agencies who can help you, and yes if you have to leave him, and then try not to stress and enjoy the miracle that is taking place in your body. Sorry it's so long!
2016-05-22 01:47:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I would go through with the pregnancy. Even if you can't afford to keep it yourself, do not get an abortion. The baby didn't do anything wrong, and deserve to finish out the life you've started for it. There are thousands, upon thousands of people in the world who want to adopt babies, and if you go through with the pregnancy, not only will you be able to feel proud and accomplished that you brought a new life into the world, you will be able to make another family happy too.
If you can keep the baby, then do it. Sure the first few months, are tough, but it is definately worth it, to have someone in the world who loves you no matter what. Who will never stop loving you, and depends on you entirely. It's very empowering.
Whichever way you choose, just don't get an abortion. It is wrong and cruel. You wont be able to live with yourself. It comes along with many feelings of regret and depression. It is not something you want to do, especially if you have the choice (ie. it's not effecting your health, or putting you and a dangerous position of losing your life).
I know you may love your boyfriend, but he will either understand your decision and stick by you with it, or he will leave you, meaning he isn't the one for you anyways. A good boyfriend should be a man, who will live up to his responsibilities, and will stand by you through thick and thin. And if he doesn't stand by you now, then how will he stand up later in life. Either way, your baby's life should not be ended just because your boyfriend doesn't want to follow through with his responsibility. If he's responsible enough to have sex, he should be responsible enough to deal with the reprocussions of it.
Best of Luck, hopefully you will make the right decision, either keep the baby and raise it with love, or give it up for adoption so it can be raised in a loving family who might not be able to have kids, but really want a baby. Good Luck.
2006-10-23 08:22:48 · answer #3 · answered by Jade de Rhiannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that. Nobody can tell you what to do. If you are able to raise this child and will have support, i say keep him/her but if you do feel like you can not raise this child i would advice that you give him/her up for adoption. there are so many people who want a child but cant have one and would give your child a loving home. some adoptions allow you to have contact with the child or at least letters letting you know how your child is doing. there is also adoptions where you do not have any contact. I wish i could give u a hug right now. My sister went thru the same thing. she did an open adoption and her and the rest of family get to see the child (who is with a great family) and my sister gets to go to college. Good luck no matter what you do hun.
2006-10-23 08:21:06 · answer #4 · answered by carriec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you want the baby then have the baby, and your boyfriend is lisable to pay child support even if he doesn't want to be in the child's life. If you decide you don't want the baby, you can get an abortion, but do it sooner rather than later. I think they need to be done before 9 weeks. 18 is pretty young to have a baby. If you decide to abort, learn your lesson and use double the birth control because sometimes just using one thing won't work. Use the pill AND condoms and spermicide.
2006-10-23 08:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by stripedbook 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was 17 when I got pregnant with my first son, my boyfriend and I were in the process of splitzville. I refused to have an abortion and I had no family. I was in a different state than my mother. My mother had an abortion when she was young and never forgave herself. It was something she had to live with, regretting for the rest of her life. Needless to say I had my baby, I married his father only to divorce a year later and become a single mother, but I made it. Things somehow worked out, which I am sure will for you to, no matter what you decide, just make sure it's your decision and none else. You are the one who has to live with the choice you make. Make sure you make up your own mind and don't let him influence your decision. If you to are happy together, he will have no choice but to love the baby you created together. Good luck honey, I know how scared you must be.
2006-10-23 08:21:32 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle Lynn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my very good friends in High School was in the same situation. He made her decide between him and the baby. She had an abortion...a few months later her boyfriend dumped her. She regrets aborting her baby like nothing else. If you and him both decide you can't handle having a baby. Contact an adoption agency. There are so many out there, like my neighbour right now, who cannot have children and are looking for people just like you to adopt from. Check out the webistes below...and Good Luck!
2006-10-23 08:40:21 · answer #7 · answered by jamiasl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont worry about him any more any guy that doesnt want to take part in some thing he helped produce doesnt deserve to be on this earth. Your number one concern should be your self and your little baby!! you are young and i think you will be able to get it together for the both of you! Dont waist your time a baby doesnt make a realonship work , my younger sister just went through this its hard but its going to be worth it !
2006-10-23 08:27:44 · answer #8 · answered by lisamarie7901 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would sit down with my boyfriend and explain to him that it doesn't matter what he wants anymore it matters what is best for the child. I am pro life so I say the baby deserves to have a chance if you don't want it give it up for adoption, or take responsibility for your actions and raise the child yourself. Whatever you decide make sure it is the best decision for the child and not just convenient for you.
2006-10-23 08:30:06 · answer #9 · answered by pirategirls16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the most courageous thing you could do is give this baby a chance to grow up in a two parent home.... in other words give birth and give it up for adoption. I know this is probably not what you want to hear but you asked and that is what I believe you should do. Get in touch with an adoption agency and they can help you get support... good luck and I'm so sorry that your bf is such a bum.
2006-10-23 08:21:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of the boyfriend and give the baby up for adoption. Just make sure to get rid of the boyfriend. If he can't take care of his responsabilitys now, then will he ever? Oh ya by the way, you are part of his responsabilities right now, so if he wants to put you threw an abortion then he can f off then too. I had one once and will never forgive myself. It was horrible, and I regret it all the time.
2006-10-23 08:17:56 · answer #11 · answered by sr22racing 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋