I've cried for him to long and now that I'm finally moving on and I'm happy again he is asking how I am. He texted me today during class and I almost threw up I was so discusted. He ripped my heart out and stamped it in the ground for emphesice. I want to hate him so bad but I'm just not that way, but he is slowly making me break. Why does he bother asking how I am when he was the one that said he never wanted to talk to me again. He threw me away like I was trash. Is he just trying to keep me sad or does he actually give a damn about if I fall? I've never known a person that breaks so many promises besides him. What should I do about him cause I've ran out of ideas a long time past. I'm to my breaking point again and I just want to cry my eyes out, but I'm tired of crying cause of him. Any ideas of how to foget this jerk besides deleting his # and not calling him. I just need some release while I try to build my life back up from the ravages that he had so foundly turned it into
2006-10-23 08:08:54 · 20 answers · asked by Nilly 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Wow. You sound like my ex and for a second I thought you were her. Your name isn't Wendy is it? Anyways, I hurt my ex bad and just as soon as she started moving on with her life I would come back into her life and all it would do is confuse her. I didn't do it on purpose. I too was confused. We had many differences. She was a Pagan, I was a Christian. I loved her deeply but our differences were dividing us. Coming from a man's perspective I shut down and push people away when I'm scared. When the woman finally lets go and moves on with her life I realize I'm losing her and I want her back. You know the saying, you always want what you can't have? That's me. Wendy finally had enough after about the 5th time I did this to her and she left me for good and never even looked back. It sounds like you've already reached that point with this guy. As hard as it is it's best to show him that you are not going to take it anymore and cut him off for good or he himself will never let you go completely.
2006-10-23 08:26:59 · answer #1 · answered by redsoxxfan 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The biggest mistake you can make is continuing to maintain contact with him and consider being with him again. This boy--and he is a boy--hurt you and it's not that he cares about how you are, he's just trying to keep you at his beck and call so that you don't go to someone else. Change you number, yes, and just don't have anything else to do with him. You would get the same raw hurt again if you take up with him again. You take care of you and let that other mess go because it's not worth it. If he cared he wouldn't have hurt you in the first place. And he has shown that he doesn't respect you either. Don't look back there's nothing good there.
2006-10-23 15:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You like to be hurt - so you are letting him hurt you - loosing someone is painful (if you didn't really like him you wouldn't cry). Go home CRY hard for about 4 hours, get up, punch the pillows about 90 times (looking at his picture on it) put on a new face, some nice clothes and just cold call another BOY, and say hi! You'll get over it when you want to. He won't be the last boy in the whole entire world who wants to talk to you!!
2006-10-23 15:14:48 · answer #3 · answered by Danny C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't know it, but you just answered your own ?.
1. stop crying, because you want to
2. go ahead and delete his # and don't call him or take calls from
him.
3. before you do the second thing, either call him or tell him face to face that you are building your life back up from the ravages he had caused. and you do not want or need to hear from him again.
4. move on, it's time
2006-10-23 15:20:12 · answer #4 · answered by Brenda R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you need to find a hobbie or start hanging out with friends and if he is in your group of friends get a new group, start taking yoga or meditation classes those are awesome stress and tention releavers wich is alot of what your feeling i can tell i was in the same place you are a few years ago and these suggestions im giving you are exactly what i did and my mind has been free and clear since...... so find things you can do to keep your mind busy just chill and don't be so worried about him....... aight you'll make it
still dreaming in idaho
stacy day
2006-10-23 15:22:05 · answer #5 · answered by Stacy ` B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why haven't you deleted his number yet? Maybe you're really not ready to move on. You are giving WAY too much power. You have to remember; you are master of your own destiny. Keep in mind, the opposite of LOVE isn't HATE, it's APATHY. You need not to care to get over this. Good luck!
2006-10-23 15:14:19 · answer #6 · answered by FuzzyMojo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away from him right now and stay away. Don't take 5 steps forward and 10 steps back. He is not someone that will make you happy in the future. Think of yourself.
2006-10-23 15:13:04 · answer #7 · answered by june clever 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have enjoyed all the pain he has given you in the past then by all means talk back to him, other wise treat him like he does not exist in your life, and keep it that way, he sounds like a control freak and this is part of his plan for you to be in an endless tormented life
2006-10-23 15:14:20 · answer #8 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We've all been there i don't know about him but some guys may not want to be with you but they don't want you with someone else so they keep you dangling on a short string and continuously feed you false hope. I say move on and show him its his lost not yours.
2006-10-23 15:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by serenity86love 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can kiss ya soft lips gently just to mark a new u.
As they say......that guy is history. Get moving sis.. and what is trashed should lot.
2006-10-23 15:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by Dickson L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋