I told him Iw was pregnant this morning and he was just really weird about it, saying he doesnt want another baby and its putting pressure on him financially, and he doesnt know how we're going to cope.
I know I will be a good mother to this baby too and I'm really looking forward to it, but his attitude is getting me down, I tohught he would be excited about it.
He says he is definitely not going to leave me but just needs to think about it, hes confused.
So what should I do?
And how long will it take for him to come round?
2006-10-23 08:02:14 · 11 answers · asked by cigaro19 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well we talked about it and he didn't seem to have feelings one way or another, sometimes he would say how it would be nice having another baby, other times he would say it would be too much to cope with.
2006-10-23 08:06:42 · update #1
It wasn't a planned pregnancy.
2006-10-23 08:09:24 · update #2
I totally know how you are feeling. I got pregnant with our third child 3 months after having our second.
From what I understand, this is fairly normal for guys. They have to go through these thought processes. My husband got very quiet for several weeks before he would really talk about it to me. He had to "process" whatever he had to, however he had to. After that, he was still worried, but he was excited. Eventually, your partner will come around, but you just have to give him the time and space. If he is not ready to talk, don't push it. He will let you know when he is ready.
2006-10-25 09:54:28 · answer #1 · answered by Mum to 3 cute kids 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CONGRATS!!!
Well, he really needs to be supportive no matter if it was planned on not. He dosent need to put you down or make you feel pressured or guilty. Things will all be ok once the shock is over. Dont feel bad... be happy that you have a little baby a boy or girl growing in you right now!! If this baby wasnt in Jesus's plan 4 ya'll it would not have happened!
Once again, Good Luck Sweetie & Congrats!
2006-10-23 08:10:25 · answer #2 · answered by ® Juicy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We were in the exact same position as you are now. We tried for our second child for 2 years, dealing with fertility docs and drugs and tests, all the while watching friends and family accidently fall pregnant and having people say insensitive things. It is completely normal to feel this way, but becuase you already have one child and have been trying for only a short while people will be less sympathetic. Put your focus somewhere else for a while, don't pressure yourself.
2016-05-22 01:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should have known as a wife or a mother where you guys stand financially. how can you be a good moher if you can give everything your child needs,\. taking care of a child doesn't mean you can be a good mother. taking care of a child consists of everything. from mental, fianancial, spiritual and comfort. since you guys are not financially equipped you should have been careful of getting pregnant again. it's noce to say or dream sometimes of having a child bt it doesn't mean you make one. it's just a thought. as you know having kids with financial difficulties leads to separation. you shoould know that as a mom.
2006-10-23 09:05:17 · answer #4 · answered by K 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just relax because you dont need to be stressed at this time in your life. Give him some time. Take him to the first heartbeat appointment or even when you go to your ultra sound thats usually snaps them back and they relize thats something i made.
2006-10-23 08:13:02 · answer #5 · answered by Louisa F 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
One question, did you two talk about expanding your family before you got pregnant? Think about it. There's no room 4 confusion or second thoughts on your pregnancy.
2006-10-23 08:05:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont worry if he loves you u 2 will figure a way out of this mess with out harming ur relationship or the new baby you'll be fine
2006-10-23 08:06:24 · answer #7 · answered by paige brutal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He may be confused or upset now, but wait till your little bundle comes and he will melt all over again. Hang in there and be strong.
2006-10-23 08:12:04 · answer #8 · answered by Beth 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him everything happens for a reason and there is a reason that there is going to be anouther child in your life. Good luck!
2006-10-23 08:06:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
im sorry, but if your preg, then its a done deal. what the heck is there to think about.. dont let him pressure you into doing something stupid like giving up this baby. i say run as fast as you can!
2006-10-23 08:08:55 · answer #10 · answered by countrygalsline 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋