2006-10-23 07:48:06 · 20 answers · asked by buggy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
but his kids are8,9 and ive rased them as my own theres no other mom in their life
2006-10-23 08:02:33 · update #1
Fall in love with him.
2006-10-23 07:50:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find it really amazing how many of you women out there marry men you can't stand and then try to blame the marriage on the guy! I think to avoid your next marital failure you should look into yourself and evauate why YOU did choose such an irritant personality to live your life out with!
Typically I find many women who say the same thing you have said. It's always his fault, or at least someone elses fault but not you. Have you ever thought YOU might be the "common" denomenator?????
My advice is to get some counseling.
2006-10-23 14:58:16 · answer #2 · answered by hoyhoydc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not easy and yes, the best thing would be just to call it quits on the relationship and both of you move on. But I know from personal experience that it's not always that cut and dry. There could be kids involved, financial issues, whatever. Here's how I handled it...When he refused to leave the relationship, I just found myself in love with someone else. As my love for the someone else grew, my hubby got tired of getting the "cold shoulder" when it came to romance and got tired of receiving little or no affection. Finally, he got tired of it and moved on.
I'm not saying this is right or the best way to do it...but it's how I did it.
2006-10-23 14:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would you? love yourself first and then you will learn to love another, being there and you can't stand him is not good for his children seek counseling or leave
you can't take care of his kids if you aren't taking care of yourself first and being in a loveless relationship with someone you can't stand is damaging to you just as much as him and the kids
2006-10-23 15:22:03 · answer #4 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your living with a man as you say "you can't stand". You have serious ISSUES. Get HELP and get a LIFE.
2006-10-23 14:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deal with it and escape to fantasy land whenever you can. Thats what i've done for the past 18 years...lol.
2006-10-23 14:55:17 · answer #6 · answered by John S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't stand him leave him... As long as you with him you will be miserable because you can't stand him. Life is too short to be unhappy. you are not obligated to be him.
2006-10-23 15:39:53 · answer #7 · answered by Sue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to? Why would you allow it? No matter what the reasons, you put yourself and your children if any first. Grow up and move on.
2006-10-23 14:53:41 · answer #8 · answered by Allycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You learn and adjust so you can stand him...communication is the key here!
2006-10-23 14:54:33 · answer #9 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i did for 20 years it took me hat long to leave now i am happy as the ****
2006-10-23 14:50:46 · answer #10 · answered by bonkers13642 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋