2006-10-23 07:46:11 · 9 answers · asked by jamale f 1 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Music
Out of 4 boyfriends in my life, 3 of them cheated on me. 2 of which I gave a second chance to and was cheated on again and again.
Basically, when the 3rd cheated on me, he was gone and never thought of again. With this 4th one, we are now engaged and I don't even think of him cheating. He's too honest about things, so I'm sure if he did cheat, his rearend would be sitting on the curb and he knows it.
DO NOT give people a second chance. Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater.
2006-10-23 07:50:40 · answer #1 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO NO NO NO NO NO NO...... Human beings are jealous creatures, some more than other but all generally a bit jealous. Now why on earth would you even consider taking someone back who cheated on you?? That person without hesitation took your relationship and made a complete mockery of it. As for fairness....according to whom?? They cheated and you didn't already the playing ground is way uneven. Let's say you do consider taking them back now will you ever truly trust them?? This is where jealousy comes into play....Just imagine the mental pictures you will have of them with the other person. The questions that will fog your mind that you think you want complete details on but know will drive you insane. I obviously have very strong feelings towards monogomy and have made up my mind that if someone ventures that will not be the last time and that they ventured for a reason and that is because they wanted out but were to chicken s**t to break up with you first!!! Honestly if you love yourself you will never take back a cheater......
2006-10-23 15:07:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in that situation more than once. After the first one cheated and was given a second chance and then cheated again I said I wouldn't make that mistake again. Then the second one cheated and guess what? I gave him another chance too. He cheated again also. Would I give my current boyfriend another chance if he cheated? I would like to think I've learned my lesson about that and wouldn't, but it's hard to let go of a relationship and you always want to save it if you can, so I don't know what I would do. I would probably save myself additional heartache and just walk away after the first time, but hopefully I won't have to find out!!!
2006-10-23 15:00:26 · answer #3 · answered by Tallulah 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, when I was married-to a man I really truly loved-he cheated on me with a much younger lady. He even left me for her. But, when that didn't work out because she broke it off, he came running back to me. Because I wanted our marriage to work, and the fact that I still loved him, I decided to try again. I wanted our marriage to work. At one time, we had such a strong relationship and I wasn't ready to give up on it.
However, it just didn't work. Before that happened, I trusted him completely. He had the weekly guys night out and so forth and it never had bothered me before. He also had a night stand that he kept his "stuff" in and I never looked through it. But when he came back, I found myself looking for any clue that he was cheating again. I looked in his wallet, his night stand, and I checked every credit card statement.
Finally, I just decided that I didn't like the person I had become. I was a jealous and insecure person and I didn't like that. That just wasn't who I really was. In the end, I divorced him. What is so bad is that I proceeded with the divorce even though it broke my heart. I did it because I couldn't live my life full of distrust.
Some people can come back from that kind of thing and have a loving, faithful relationship, but I wasn't capable of that.
2006-10-23 14:54:39 · answer #4 · answered by Hestia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would find it hard to give them a second chance, regaining trust after your heart's been broken ( I'm assuming your heart has been broken) is near impossible. Your relationship would be tarnished because you'd be questioning their every move, unless you're some kind of saint
2006-10-23 14:56:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. i dont know. no one ever really knows if they would or not until it happens. they would say no way and then it happens to those people and they are back with them. In any case, if it happened to me in the relationship i'm in, i would take a long break awayfrom the person and if they wanted me back i would think about it. after at least 3 months. prolly longer.
2006-10-23 14:55:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, and I wouldn't ask for one either. The explanation is "If you want something else you can have that, but you won't have me anymore". you know about having the cake and eating it too...
2006-10-23 14:55:25 · answer #7 · answered by Deep Thought 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no
Because there are people who wont . You deserve better.
2006-10-23 14:57:44 · answer #8 · answered by vh1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, only fair
2006-10-23 14:53:22 · answer #9 · answered by anitababy.brainwash 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋