There is this girl who.. everytime I didn't go out with my boyfriend she was always talkin to him, shootin pool, and wanting to hang around him, but when I do go out, she stays away from him. I told her that she can talk to him when i'm there also, and I asked her straight out if she liked him because it was just weird on how she was acting,, she said no that she didn't like him and they were just friends,, well in the back of my mind I knew she must have been lying, so I told her that I would let it go. 2 weeks later when of course i'm not at the bar with my boyfriend she runs up to him telling him that I was asking her if there was anything goin on between them,, she twisted everything I said and made my bf mad at me. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years and it sounds like to me she is tryin to come in between us. I trust my boyfriend, i'm 24 years old, and he's 27,, this girl is 22 and likes to cause drama. He says I don't have a right to be mad and that I should just drop it.
2006-10-23 07:39:17 · 49 answers · asked by Jen 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have told him that I trust him with all my heart it's just her I don't trust, and he doesn't get why i don't trust her.
2006-10-23 07:47:36 · update #1
Drama queens---sheesh! They are nothing but trouble.
I suggest possibly talking to one of your b/f's friends and asking them what they think about this little hussy's behavior. If his buddies think that she is way out of line, point this out to your man. Also point out to him that you have been with him for 2 years and if she is the only problem, then there is a simple solution to this--he needs to distance himself from her if he wants to keep things going strong with you. If he would rather deal with this little hussy than you, I'd say good riddance to him and you can do better. Also, if you say good riddance and he gets with her, it will be fun seeing if your instincts were right and they hook up. I would laugh when that happens because that would reinforce that you made the right decision in dumping him. Also, bimbos like that do not last. Stay strong and good luck.
2006-10-23 07:48:23 · answer #1 · answered by hopestar23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've been with this guy for 2 years. If this girl really bugs you, you should just tell your bf, and he should understand you. If he was a really great boyfriend, he would stop hanging out with her for you, because obviously, you mean a lot more than some little girl. Since he's not doing anything, you should just drop it. This probably isn't a big deal to him, and if she's going to be a child about this and twist your words and all of that, just be the bigger person and forget about all of this. Who cares if she's acting like a child and running around spreading false assumptions? You and your boyfriend should just forget about her silly little drama. Go on with your boyfriend, if he liked her, then he wouldn't be with you right now. But it's you that he loves, and not her. She's just a flirt, and you're the real deal here =)
2006-10-23 07:44:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, she likes him alright. And she is trying to come between you two. She has crossed the line from being a friend to your boyfriend. The fact that she doesn’t hang around the both of you is suspicious. The fact that he doesn’t seem to care about your feelings and tells you shouldn’t even be having those feelings says he’s an ******, I’m sorry. If anything he should be reassuring you that nothing is going on between them instead of getting all defensive. You have every right to be upset. Now what to do? I personally don’t like drama or expending mental energy on jealousy. This guy won’t even meet you half way. You may want to spell it out and give him one last chance to tell his little “friend” to get lost. If he refuses to, I would walk.
2006-10-23 07:55:32 · answer #3 · answered by inquiringmind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.
First of all, you are entitled to any emotions that you're feeling. Nobody should tell you that you don't have the "right to be mad".
This little girl seems to be causing problems intentionally. Now that you've let her know that you see a problem, she's playing off of it. Bad sign. When someone is trying to "move in" on your boyfriend, that's usually one of the first things they do.
You need to talk to your boyfriend and let him know how she's twisting things around, and that she's potentially interfering with your relationship.
The safest way for you to handle this is to have your boyfriend take care of it. If he's mature at all, he'll respect the way you're feeling and he'll put an end to it.
There's no reason for the little girl to be hanging out with your boyfriend only when you're not there. You've got to question the motives there.
Maybe you should show up out of the blue on occasion.
Good luck.
2006-10-23 07:48:47 · answer #4 · answered by andi b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm with you, why does she need to hang with him when your not around if she is only friends. Not sure if I like that either. You trust him you say, just go with that for now. I personally feel the same way you do. She might just being a trouble maker and figures she will try with him anyway. This is not healthy for any of you. Answer.... I don't know, talk to your bf and express this concern and ask what he thinks she is up to.
2006-10-23 07:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by flower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you must not trust your boyfriend or you wouldn't be jealous of this other girl. Jealousy comes from insecurity in a relationship. If you were certain that your boyfriend cared only for you and this other girl was just a friend, this situation wouldn't bother you. You must decide whether or not you truly trust your boyfriend, and if you do, then forget about this other girl. Another thought is ... keep your friends close, and your enemies closer. Translation: become friends with this other girl so you can keep tabs on her.
2006-10-23 07:47:25 · answer #6 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is your source for what is going on when you are not around? If the boyfriend tells you he is mad at you, but you have no right to be mad at him???? I am sorry I am just confused. Look, if you have been with your boyfriend for 2 years, he's 27 and he still goes out to the bars without you, its probably because he still looking. Drop him and find someone else.
2006-10-23 07:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by Kewl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very touchy subject. First of all you do have a right to be angry. Those are your emotions and he doesnt control them. Now it seems from what you have been saying that this other girl is moving in on your man. It is strange that when you are not around that he is hanging out with this other girl a lot. And this other girl should have the good sense and decency to tone it down a bunch. Also, keep in mind (comin from a gay boy), men are pigs every last one of em and dont let him fool ya.
2006-10-23 07:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by //// 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be all that upset. If your boyfriend is being honest with you about hanging out with her while you're not out with him, keep on trusting him. It just sounds like the girl likes your man, and is willing to try to break you guys apart. Next time you tell your guy you're not gonna go out...surprise him and show up. Then you can see what's going on. If there is a reason why can not go out, have a good friend of yours show up and and play pool or have a drink with him. See what the girl does next. Good Luck :-)
2006-10-23 07:44:11 · answer #9 · answered by blueeyeskenai 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know good and well he bout to be "hittin' it" if he hasn't already... She already got him right where she wants him... Just as soon as you say her name again, he's gonna drop your a** like a bad habbit... Tell him that you don't appreciate her lying on you and that you are going to confront her and let her know how you feel in front of her and watch what happens... "He is gonna get pissed and break up with you right quick,, because that is his intentions anyway...." They have been plotting, he is just not man enough to say he want to leave you for that SCAB... I tell ya what, since all yall hang out at the same place, get dolled up for about a week or two...Go get a professional hair do,, and get your face mad... Get a mani/pedi and get dressed... Be fly as hell... Drop the convo about her and make like it is all about you... Make the other guys pay attention to you... (HIm to...) Get freaky as hell in the bedroom... Straigh Blo'Jobs.... Porn Style....Don't let him have s*x with you mastribate.... Let him know you don't need him and watch his attitude change... Girl that boy is gonna be chasin' you so hard, and if she even walks in his direction, she gonna go the other way.... He will be crazy about you... (Spoken from experience)... Make sure you look like a "Movie Star" not a wanna be...
2006-10-23 07:48:30 · answer #10 · answered by Dani_n_keem 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋