im getting a divorce and i think i will not find love real love agian
2006-10-23 07:34:45 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Most likely you will and will probably find greater love.
2006-10-23 07:36:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was divorced after 18 years of marriage and 4 children. I am very happily remarried. We have been married for 5 1/2 years. I very much believe in love after divorce.
2006-10-23 07:40:51 · answer #2 · answered by papershadows 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was divorce happy that I did
proud that I had the courage to walk away with 3 children on my own
and Lucky that I have found the greatest love of my life
my advise is
finding Love again should no be a priority when one is getting a Di
getting to know oneself should be the priority
Love should come as a surprise
if you start looking for it then you will not find it
So take your time & take care of yourself
2006-10-23 07:44:21 · answer #3 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I felt that way too when I first separated from my ex-husband and do now from time to time now that I am officially divorced. I was with this guy from the time that I was 16 (and was married at 18) to our now present state which is divorced at 23. The question that you have already answered for youself is that 'can there be love in a bad marriage and seeing that you are going through a divorce, you can see that the answer is no'. Did you love him? I am sure that you did or else you wouldnt be entertaining the idea that love is no longer possible for you. However, what you fail to realize is that you are still hurting from the pain that was caused in your marriage and that it can sometimes be hard to see a bright future when ur blinded by a dark and painful past. The thing that you need to see (and trust me I hate it because it was the last thing that I wanted to hear when first being separated and going through the divorce process with my now ex) is that time WILL heal all wounds. You have to allow yourself the time to heal and get over the emotional turmoil ur relationship with this person and divorce are causing you right now and the last thing on your mind should be getting involved in another relationship, at least not yet. Your main concern should be with yourself and finding happiness on your own and independent of any person on a romantic level. Being in love should not be a necessity but a gift that two people share because they really care for one and another. You should be focusing on healing and getting your mind off of the stress and pain that divorce brings, I suggest trying to pursue old interests that might have been put to a halt because of your responsibilities in the marriage or whatever caused them to stop or to find new ones such as taking a course at a local college, going to the gym (exercise is a great way to give yourself more energy and get rid of stress), join a bookclub or some other group to broaden your social horizon, and/or do whatever activities or things will make you feel more centered and happy. It never hurts to have some friends and family members to vent out ur emotions too but if they are few and far between (and even if they are there for you all of the time), try writing in a journal. As time passes, things will get easier and you will even learn to appreciate being solo again by embracing your independence by doing things for you and bc of this you will also find that you are in a better place and are capable of finding love again with someone who will reciprocate all of the respect and emotions and life experiences that you are willing to offer. Its been about 7 months since my ex and I were separated and about a lil over a month since our divorce was finalized and I must say that although I do sometimes feel lonely (everyone does from time to time despite whether or not they are in a relationship), I am at a better and happier place then I was being doomed in a marriage with him. I have met quite a few guys and dated some of them and although nothing really great came out of them, it shows me that I dont need to find my happiness in someone else and it provides me the hope and faith that when Im completely ready, the right one will come my way. Until then life is too short to dwell on the past or worry about the future, the only thing that we can do to make a change in our lives is in the present and I know as hard as it can feel right now (and believe me, I know), allow yourself to grieve over your losses but dont allow them to be an excuse from your finding happiness in the future. Take care and good luck:)
2006-10-23 08:23:18 · answer #4 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh man...honestly the grass is greener on the other side. Life after divorce can be bliss if you learn from your mistakes and apply them to your new relationships. Sometimes you have to mess up to get things right. Think about it as a practice round and now you are ready for the real game! Enjoy and don't stress about it :)
2006-10-23 07:40:59 · answer #5 · answered by Gonzo 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, I thought nobody would want a divorced Mom with three kids either. Today is my 22 yr anniversary!! Don't give up so easily! It gets better! You may find REAL LOVE for the first time!! Best wishes!!
2006-10-23 07:37:57 · answer #6 · answered by wish I were 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG, don't think like that please. I felt the same thing when I was getting my divorce and boy was I wrong. I thought no one would ever want me after being married and I let it get to me for so long but luckily I had a lot of friends that got me through that depression. Go have fun and live life to the fullest. Good luck!!!
2006-10-23 07:38:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust me sweetie it does happen. I got a divorce and thought the same. I am now engaged to the sweetest man ever. Just heal yourself then the good guys will come. Best of luck.
2006-10-23 07:55:07 · answer #8 · answered by tpurtygrl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that's what we all think after every break-up, marriage or not. I understand that a bond that you develop with the one you are married to is special, but look at it as if it was a habit, something that you got used to.
You will love again, and you will love stronger than before, love as if you have never been hurt, for sure.
2006-10-23 07:45:33 · answer #9 · answered by gala 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are getting a divorce, then you probably have not experienced real love. Because real love only happens when love is returned as well as given
2006-10-23 07:42:45 · answer #10 · answered by rkilburn410 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well honey, I'm probably getting a divorce too, and I dont think I want love from a guy again. Im definetely not going to look for it anyway.
2006-10-23 07:41:01 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋