how do i get friends? i dont have any friends, like not any real good ones... i dont want to be miserible for the rest of my life..i need friends. how do i get a good relationship with some one and some how keep it??? my best friend is moving far far away and i'll never find another good friend.
do yall ever have good friends you can trust and you turn to and some who is like always there for you? well, imagine that they all just left you..just turned there back on you and never came back. and now you dont have anyone to turn to and no one is there for you... and if you NEED them they run away, leave you and hate you. they never talk to you and spread rumurs about you so it makes it even harder for you to make new good friends. now you just feel completely alone and worthless like no one cares. you feel unloved and alone in a room full of ppl...well thats exactly how i feel. i now all i can do is cry in my room, hopeing things will get better...but they never do..???
2006-10-23 07:32:47 · 24 answers · asked by davis chick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
There’s an old saying. To have a friend, be a friend. Do not despair, of course you will find friends. Do not force it. Think first of all about what you enjoy doing. Go do that. In doing what you enjoy, you will find similarly minded folks and become friends with them. Be patient and give it time. If you don’t make that special connection right away, don’t worry about it. In time it will come. Another thing you can do is to invite people out. To lunch, to movies, whatever. If you strike up conversations with people and you enjoy them let them know and offer to spend more time with them doing things that are fun. Accept invitations to parties. Be upbeat, friendly and helpful. This will win you loads of friends. And lastly, keep in touch with your friend who is moving far away. E-mail, snail mail, phone calls. Just because she's gone doesn't mean you can't maintain your friendship while you make new friends. Best of luck!
2006-10-23 07:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by inquiringmind 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoa take it easy there, first of all you say you don't have any friends then say your best friend is moving away and then you say all your friends have deserted you, sounds like self pity to me.
Also a best friend will stay in touch with you, through phone calls, letters, cards e-mail and so on. Make sure she has your correct mailing address and ask her to call you when she arrives at her new home, remember she will need to know she still has a friend she will be in a strange place.
People who talk about you aren't friends and just because you have a conversation with someone doesn't make them a friend. Don't give your friendship so easily people have to earn another's trust, obviously those who gossip about you cannot have that trust so don't tell them anything about you and ignore them, even if they try to fish out some information you now know why they want some more things to gossip about right?
Trust yourself and work on your self esteem you are just as wonderful as any other person and maybe not every person will see that but your true friends will. Good luck.
2006-10-23 07:41:21 · answer #2 · answered by Neptune2bsure 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to have a good friend is to BE a good friend.
I don't know how old you are, but the best way to meet people is to be involved in activities where you can meet people with similar interests. Whether you're in school or not you can join clubs and become involved. And VOLUNTEER. If you like animals, volunteer at your local animal shelter. If you like children, volunteer at a school. There are all kinds of churches, charity organizations etc that need help. Try www.volunteermatch.org
Not only will you meet people, but you'll feel good about what you're doing and that will make you a better and more likable person. Remember that complaining and feeling sorry for yourself will only run people off, so be upbeat and pleasant. Smile, even if you have to fake it, because sooner or later you start to believe it yourself...Good luck, my friend.
2006-10-23 07:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by Nasubi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best way to get a good friend is to BE A GOOD FRIEND. Help people out. Talk to people when you see they are in need of a shoulder to cry on. Most of all surround yourself with MANY friends and not just one. Once you do that, the bad ones will go away and the ones who stick around will be TRUE friends.
2006-10-23 07:37:59 · answer #4 · answered by xovenusxo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been there honey.Try not to set in your room all the time that is not good for you at all.I lost my best friend to another friend of hers.She gust dropped me like and hot dog out of an bun.Gust because she drove can you believe that one?I gave up and moved because I don't want to be around people that don't like me.Try and go to store that you don't go to.Or maybe the library and go on line there.You can find new friends there also.Maybe a boyfriend.So good luck and have a very nice day honey.Remember try not to sit in your room all day.
2006-10-23 07:47:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax and hang around with some groups at your school (if you go to school) don't depend on 1 person to make ur life happy. Im not saying ignore her or be mean but hang out with some groups and someone will eventually get closer to you and be your best friend. But remember to keep in touch with your friend.
2006-10-23 08:04:57 · answer #6 · answered by SuWizzle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something you're passionate about and then join a group. If you like reading, join a book club. If you like art, take some classes. Surrounding yourself with people who share similar interests is a good way to make new friends.
2006-10-23 07:37:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that the first thing you NEED to do, is to understand what a friend is. It's been stated that a 'true' friend would lay down thier
life for a friend. That's a true friend. Many of us use the term 'friend' far to loosely.
Second, get your mind in a positive state. Do things that will build your self-esteem.
2006-10-23 07:42:01 · answer #8 · answered by LifeRyder 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The main thing I see in all of that is TRUST. You wrote it here yourself. Trust is something you build with friends, relatives or lovers. It takes time and effort to build it. Then if somebody is not there for you when you ask for help, it erodes whatever has been built, then it has to be built back if you want it to be.
The true friends are the ones who are there when you are old crazy lonely, broke, in debt, whatever. Thats my test.
2006-10-23 07:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's with the crying in your room all the time?? Get out. Go volunteer somewhere and make yourself useful. You'll meet lots of people to be friends with. Stop feeling sorry for yourself.
2006-10-23 07:36:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋