What Can You Do Besides Quit?
2006-10-23 07:32:45 · 4 answers · asked by SAHM/Part Time Tutor 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
If you would really like to keep the job, your options are dictated by the status of your 'employer' at your place of employment.
Well-documented incidents, especially when witnessed by others, of bullying can be dealt with at a big company or govt. office, where the boss is just part of the chain of command and has to answer to others. You just go one boss up and ask for help in handling a problem you are having. You stress you, you, you in such a meeting, and ask for help, not as a victim, but an employee who wants to be part of the team and make things work. You then judge this person's reaction to your situation and decide if you accept what they're saying. Evaluate if you'll be getting help with the boss's behavior or if you're expected to take it. If it is a big organization, you can also place a call to human resources and your eap asking for advice.
If the bully is the owner of the company, there's little to do but try standing up for yourself and then quitting or being fired.
I mention standing up for yourself as a first option, and this would even be in a big organization where the bully is a name on a flow chart, not an owner, because many bullies only bully those who tolerate it.
Is the bullying verbal abuse or sexual harassment? That can be illegal.
If it's in occasional moments of stress that this bullying happens, just try being assertive - say - 'hey, what's up with the name calling?' or 'i'm happy to work hard here, but you'll have to learn my name. i can't answer to that.' or "Gee, Ms. Sullivan, my brain explodes when people talk to me that way - can you say that again for us constitutionally weak ones?" or some way where you state what you are not happy about, with a smile or joking manner - to let boss save face. if you can make a sure-fire, dead-on joke that doesn't put the boss down, you could do this is front of others. If not, keep it in private for a bully is a raging hurt baby inside.
If it's an on-going pattern of abuse, if it's just the owner's personality, If you have the courage, say - Ms/Mr. X, I like this, this and this about working here, I'm happy to do a good job and work hard, and I'm looking forward to these opportunities. I am not able to work well in an environment where I encounter yelling, name calling, or whatever. Is there something we can do about this?
stay very open to hearing what it is that you are doing that is provoking the reaction. even if you ultimately can't work with this person, you can learn things.
2006-10-23 07:51:51 · answer #1 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gently ask for a raise every time he is doing it, or find out something wrong with his company and inform secretly the authorities. I mean find something more important for him to take care of, if its include your vengeance in it better.
2006-10-23 14:42:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it to HR, unless your boss is really close with the people that work there.
2006-10-23 14:36:13 · answer #3 · answered by BAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call the labor board, discuss the issues, and let them tell you what to do
2006-10-23 14:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by Gabrielle 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋