Lately it seems like whenever she and I make plans, he calls her to invite her to lunch at that time. Or is constantly changing his plans, it seems, to coincide with what my daughter and I are doing and then my daughter has to change her schedule again.
Now, he's doing it with my son & me.(lol). My son just laughs and shrugs it off. I just let them be. I know it's their life.
But gads, what do you make of this? Do you think the boyfriend is trying to split us all up??
2006-10-23 07:32:21 · 10 answers · asked by hillaryc59bc 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The boyfriend does have alot of other friends besides my "two and only".
2006-10-23 07:34:54 · update #1
The guy's okay but even occasionally interfers with my husband's schedule at his business, when he wants them both to help him out. B/F HAS OTHER PLANS.
2006-10-23 07:38:29 · update #2
B/F is almost 10 years older than both kids.In his thirties.
2006-10-23 07:40:34 · update #3
Maybe. I hope not. Just try to keep the lines of communication open between you and your kids. Don't criticize the boyfriend, but try to SUBTLY point things out. Let your kids know that you support them in their relationships, because if you try to split them up, it will backfire! Trust me! My parents (I am now 39) tried to keep my first husband and I from getting married, and that pushed us closer together. If they had just left us alone, we might have split up. I know that what you are going through hurts, since my son's girlfriend controls his schedule, too. They have been going out for almost two years. I have supported him in everything he does, though, and he is starting to wise up on his own. Praise God!!
2006-10-23 07:38:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you think the boyfriend would want to split you guys up, especially you and your son? Is it possible that your son and daughter are just using him as a convinent excuse?
If you're with your daughter a lot and the boyfriend wants to be with her a lot as well, then you are going to have scheduling conflicts. My wife and her mom were "best friends" before we got married. Now you could say I'm my wife's best friend. She spends time with me that she used to spend with her mom. I don't know if her mom thought I was trying to "split" them up but the truth is there is only so much free time in the day. Since the amount of time in a week is fixed, if she's with the boyfriend she can't be with you.
What I suggested to my wife and what she does now is schedules "dates" with her mom and make sure she spends some time each week with her. We (my wife and I, her mom is not part of this) sit together on Sunday afternoons and plan the coming week. If my wife plans a "date" with her mom that's scheduled like any other meeting and I don't suggest she break the date. Perhaps you daughter could try that with her boyfriend.
2006-10-23 07:34:13 · answer #2 · answered by ScubaGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for you to step up and be the parent. If you and your daughter make plans then she needs to keep those. Don't let her boyfriend run your family.
2006-10-23 07:34:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how old he is...
As a dad, you should set the rules
Tell your kids that the schedule they have with you has got to be respected and set it a few days earlier at least.
Good luck ;)
2006-10-23 07:37:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well i think that because theyre your children you might be getting a bit paranoid. most parents dont want to feel like theyre losing their kids. but i definately think your reading to far into this and should let it be. hes close to the family. theres nothing wrong with that. now if the little booger starts threatening you then kick his ***
2006-10-23 07:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by fewchure/sex_ologist 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is also doing it with your son,i'd assume u are severely over acting,i think its just coincidential,no harm intended,when u have plans already ask 4 u all to go together,if he calls,and makes an invitation with plans that are already made! good luck!
2006-10-23 07:36:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently he's jealous of the position you hold in their lives. Just smile and keep on trying. That will work better than anything else. but he sounds like a jerk.
2006-10-23 07:34:32 · answer #7 · answered by a.rose19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is a control freak and wants to pull her away from people who love her. Maybe it's just coincidence
2006-10-23 07:36:55 · answer #8 · answered by sandy_in_bc 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be insecurity, but it's also the first sign of an abusive relationship. (isolate the victim)
2006-10-23 07:40:04 · answer #9 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were u i would jus make my daughter come through with the plans......................or kick the boyfriend's *** , let no u dont play nd to stop gettin in the way
2006-10-23 07:37:22 · answer #10 · answered by liciabonnie92 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋