my hsuband no longer wear his wedding ring. he said that he doesn't like having it on while he's working(maintenance and janitorial job) and i understood that. but he doesn't wear it when we go out either, but he's always very affectionate with me even when were in publicand he tells me he loves me all the time. but it still bothers me that he does not wear it. he used to though. should this bother me? or am i just being petty?
2006-10-23 07:07:27 · 16 answers · asked by gracie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband has a beautiful diamond wedding band, but was afraid to wear it at work, due to the fact that it could easily get broken in his line of work. We got him a plain gold band to wear at work. He wants everyone to know he's "taken". I don't understand how your husband feels. I'm not saying it's right or not. Ask him if it would bother him if you didn't wear yours. I wouldn't just stop wearing it. I would try to get him to see how it makes you feel by talking. I don't think you are being petty. You probably want him to be proud that he is married to you.
2006-10-23 07:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me start by saying that I'm married and I do wear my wedding ring.
A lot of guys hate wearing rings. Many guys wear a wedding ring and hate every minute of it. I wouldn't think a wife would want her husband to associate HATE with anything that has to do with the marriage, so if he hates wearing the ring I wouldn't complain too much if he doesn't wear it.
One thing you might do is really think about WHY you two got rings in the first place. If it was because, 'well, that's just what you do" then there is no real reason to worry about him not wearing it. If you got them because you think his wearing it will make him less attractive to other women, I'd suggest the opposite is true. Many guys will tell you that they get hit on MUCH more when they have their ring on. If you have another reason for the rings then maybe you talk to him about it, but remember YOUR reason might not be HIS and if you "talk him into" wearing the ring, or worse yet, "guilt" him into wearing it, he will have a constant NEGATIVE reminder on his hand, and I'm sure you don't want that.
You also shared with us that he treats you well and tell you he loves you all the time. Would you trade that for a guy who wears his wedding ring but is pissed about having to do so and so doesn't treat you well and doesn't tell you he loves you? I bet not.
2006-10-23 07:09:42 · answer #2 · answered by ScubaGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
any guy trying to find excuses not to wear a ring will like this one - i know of two people who lost their finger by wearing a wedding ring! if you work around machinery with moving parts, a ring can be dangerous, if it gets snagged on the machine, it will amputate the finger.
my father and grandfather have never worn rings and are happily married (30 and 58 years). my husband wears a ring, but has a desk job...so he's relatively safe :)
2006-10-23 08:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by my_princess1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be bothered if my husband didn't wear it! Its just a small ring....it shouldn't be SO bothersome that he can't wear it... and if he thinks its gonna get dinged up while hes working...who cares! it is important that he wears it. When it comes to your symbol of love and marriage, you are NOT being petty. I would talk to him about this. How would he feel if you didn't wear yours??
2006-10-23 07:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't wear mine and my husband gets pissed about it. I don't like to wear rings anyway, always found them annoying, but also I am a dental hygienist and have to wear gloves, and the rings can sometimes cut the gloves. So, the rings sit in the bathroom cabinet.
2006-10-23 07:09:55 · answer #5 · answered by Jennifer L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a right to be bothered by his not wearing his ring. It makes sense for him to not wear it if it interferes with work, but he should wear if it he knows how important it is to you. What's his problem? He's being insensitive and suspicious.
2006-10-23 13:24:35 · answer #6 · answered by Nose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, that would bother me. I don't think a lot of men think it's as big of a deal as women do, but It would bother me if my husband did that. Maybe it's to tight or too thick for him? Maybe you gusy should look for a different style of one. He needs to know this really bothers you and look for an alternative.
A tattoo-ed on wedding ring wouldn't bother him while he worked....... : )
2006-10-23 07:15:10 · answer #7 · answered by Holly N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband hardly wears his ring either. He can't wear it at work because he works with electricity, and he forgets to wear it at other times because he never has it on during the day. I have to remind him to wear it when we go out. :) Just chalk it up to forgetfulness. No reason to worry my dear.
2006-10-23 07:29:57 · answer #8 · answered by BeezKneez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand him not wearing the ring to work, but any other time he should wear it. It's a symbol of your commitment and should have sentimental meaning to him.
2006-10-23 07:14:50 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you trust him? That's the real question.
My hubby doesn't wear his ring either for the same reasons. He has a hard time getting it on now.
I don't have a problem with it.
2006-10-23 07:11:14 · answer #10 · answered by carsnmotorcycles 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋