What would u do if your husband said that you are not creative enough during sex. We have always had great sex. Now he is hanging out with these new set of friends and he is all about "freaky' stuff. I feel upset and that he will go get it somewhere else. do u think that there is a reason for his new interest in different sex??It has been great for years now all a sudden he says he wants change???
2006-10-23 06:59:25 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry, but RED FLAGS abound with this question. There is something else going on. Either he wasn't happy for all of those years, or something has changed in his life. I don't necessarily think it's the new friends, as much as a new experience. There might be something going on with the friends, if you know where I'm going with this. They might be involved with each other !! Keep an eye and ear out. If you just watch closely, I think you will discover the answer.
2006-10-23 07:07:04 · answer #1 · answered by randband4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe it's been great for you, but less than great for him...that doesn't mean he has hated it, but anyone can get bored with something after a while and it's easy for couples to get into a sex rut...
Have you considered doing any of the things he wants to try, to help spice things up? Just because the tried and true is still fine with you, doesn't mean he's getting much out of it anymore...
Talk with him about this...think about things you'd like to try or would be willing to try...a couple's sex life has to be an area where they mesh for the relationship to stay solid...
OR could it be that he's already tried these new things with someone else? A sign that someone has cheated, is interest in new sexual "things" (toys, positions, etc).
Hopefully this is just a case of him being a little bored with the same old thing, and wanting to have new intimate experiences with you.
2006-10-23 14:05:59 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who said that it has been great for years ? You or Him? Has he ever complained before? Or maybe he didn't because he didn't know how to approach the subject. He is your husband what is the harm in trying something new with him, you need to keep the relationship interesting. I am not telling you to do something that you aren't comfortable with just try new and different things. There is nothing wrong with change and think about it this way at least he told you that he wanted something different instead of going out and cheating.
2006-10-23 14:10:43 · answer #3 · answered by juicie813 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! This is a tough one. Perhaps try to discuss the reasons why with him and work out compromises that you are both satisfied with. Sex therapy might be an area to explore also - the therapist might be able to 'redirect' some of his 'freaky' tendencies. He could be going through stressful times or just envious of stories his new 'friends' are telling him about their own 'sexcapades' (and we all know those must be true!).
Also, maybe try new things outside of the bedroom to try to feed his appetite for new things. New hobbies that aren't sex-related.
2006-10-23 14:06:32 · answer #4 · answered by greyrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being a little too sensitive and your imagination may be working overtime. I would love for my husband to say that I don't bring it up to him because of what you are thinking now. He could have just went to someone one else if that was the case. Give him credit and the benifit of the doubt for being honest and talking to you about it. He is your husband not someone off the street. I'll tell you like my husband says to me,"hey we are married and it's all legal." Sex may be great he just wants to spice it up a bit.
2006-10-23 14:16:18 · answer #5 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These new friends are probably making him feel younger and experience some feelings he probably has not had in a while or ever.
If you care about him your just going to have to "get freaky" with him! What can it hurt? He has talked to you about it so sounds to me like he just wants you to try it out with him. You might find stuff you both like!
Don't let curiosity kill your cat! Play with your man. Sounds fun! Get your freak on!
2006-10-23 14:12:00 · answer #6 · answered by Littlebit 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The friends gave him information and ideas to try something different and more spicy. Why not, if you don't try how you can judge?. Is nothing wrong better now then if he try with somebody else. You have nothing to loose only you can get "freaky" stuff is for everybody, you are not first or last - do it.
2006-10-23 14:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT???? He is hanging out with new friends and getting freaky with them and going out and having sex somewhere else? You say you are upset! I
BET THAT YOU ARE UPSET. You should be kicking his ***! What is he thinking? He is your husband - what does that mean to you or him? Can't you see that besides being unfaithful to you he is also abusing you mentally. He wants change? What does THAT mean? Does it mean he wants you to have freaky sex with him and his friends. In my opinion he does not love you and he is being unfaithful to you. Go talk to your minister or your doctor and see what they think about this this loser. Boot him out and change the locks on your doors and tell him that that you are going to divorce him! He wants change - how's that for change?
2006-10-23 14:21:11 · answer #8 · answered by misterbig356 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He could already be sleeping with someone who is freaky and its what he is use to now. Usually if one person isn't creative, the other person will suggest things to try...they do not normally say your not creative and leave it at that. Check him out...he may be creeping.
2006-10-23 14:02:41 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even though you guys have great sex, maybe he needs a new way to get off. people become more curious with more perverse or freakier tactics when the type of sex you've always had becomes bland.
maybe you should spice things up a bit, do your own little porn scenario for him or try one of those freaky things with him once to see if you'd potentially like it
2006-10-23 14:02:29 · answer #10 · answered by bubu~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋