If you had a 3 1/2 year old, 22 month old, and a 2 1/2 month old (all of which were planned) and you found out you were pregnant (not planned and while on birth control). What would you do? Especially if you had decided to wait 3 years before having another? Would you totally freak out? Or would you be happy and deal? Has anyone had this happen before? How do you deal with having two preschoolers and then two babies only 11 months apart? This is only hypothetical since nothing is confirmed yet...I'm just wondering? How can you get out when you have to carry both babies and still keep control of the older ones?
2006-10-23 06:57:39 · 18 answers · asked by mommyem 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I don't think that butterfliesRfree read your comment correctly and I hate it when people are too stupid to look at the real meaning behind someones post...
First off, this is always tricky when you just have a baby and you start taking your BC again, this can do all kinds of weird things to your hormones. Your menstrual cycle is probably not back to normal yet and with the addition of your BC, I would just talk to your OB/GYN about the possibility of you being pregnant so soon (It not impossible, just not probable.)
Secondly, if it turns out that you are in fact preggers again, you would be completely justified in freaking out!!! Not over having another baby (you mentioned that more kids were potentially in your future) but just for the fact that you will have so many little ones under foot at the same time!!! As for it being something that you would be happy about, how did you feel about the other children? I bet you were happy when you found out about them and once the initial shock of having back to back babies wears off, you will be happy about a 4th baby too.
As for getting out of the house, I had twins and I tell you what--I went everywhere!! Here is a suggestion--Get a twin stroller for the 22 month old and the 2 1/2 month old. Get a Snuggli for the newborn and keep him/her on you while the 3 1/2 year old can walk next to the stroller. It may seem a bit daunting but trust me, you find a way. Good luck with the family! And remember that God only gives you what He knows you can handle.
2006-10-23 07:19:09 · answer #1 · answered by hopestar23 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sound like a lot of work, from the sounds of it though you seem to like children. I would have the 4th one and find alternative ways to get out of the house. Obviously you will need a 2 or 3 seat stroller. I would also look into daycare, even if its 1-3 days a week for a couple of hours - at least you'll be free to keep your sanity!! I would also look into a babysitter and/ or a nanny to help you through the days with such young children!! Good luck and if you are pregnant and on birth control, I would ask the doctor about the best prevention for the future!
2006-10-23 07:05:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ash 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-09-01 01:27:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This would be why Motherhood is the most under rated job in the world. I have NO idea how you could deal with the scenario presented. I'm a guy and would be crying in the corner trying to deal with that many kids. ;)
As to conceiving so soon and while on birth control, I think that's telling you the baby is meant to be. :)
Maybe you could hire a nanny part time? I know money would be tight in your situation, but some help could be a great boon. Relatives? Grandmas usually love to help out with the kids (so long as you don't mind). Good Luck!
2006-10-23 07:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by Scotsman 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm kind of in your situation and yes I freaked out! Our oldest is 5, the next is 4, the next is 2, and we had a miscarriage with our son in Jan. and we're now pregnant again. We had decided to wait until this time next year to attempt another pregnancy. I'm 9 weeks and like I said still totally freaked out!!!!! But it'll be okay, there's a reason for everything and your new baby will fit into your family perfectly just like the planned ones. Good luck and congrats to you!!
2006-10-23 07:02:47 · answer #5 · answered by justwondering 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't go out without help.... and even at home make sure to close and lock all doors. I knew of a Mom whose daughter wandered off down the street, because she thought she could just take off... and Mom was too busy to notice. The police brought the child back home. Another time, I witnessed a lady with lots of kids looking very panicky while running around looking for one of her kids in the zoo. We tried to help her. Others got involved including zoo security. I wonder how long it took to find her, because I had to leave. Then again, even with just one child if you don't pay attention a child can just disappear, too. One child got caught pretending to be the Croc Hunter inside a crocodile enclosure- this one was an only child.
2006-10-23 07:12:32 · answer #6 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are pregnant, why freak out. You can't change what is already done. Consider this, if you have done everything in your power to not get pregnant and yet you find out that you are, God must think this child is a pretty important gift to give you. I say that if you are pregnant, embrace it! Make the best of it, for a child is a blessing, no matter how you look at it.
Good luck to you!
2006-10-23 07:01:37 · answer #7 · answered by Semi-charmed 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Oh wow. Well, I truly believe that everything happens for a reason, so if this does become a reality then I would say be happy, and it sounds like you've got things really under control as it is, so you would probably transition really well. But if you both don't want anymore kids after this one, then maybe a surgical procedure is in order (tubes tied, etc)?
2006-10-23 07:02:48 · answer #8 · answered by ts 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you needed to keep "going out" then you should not have planned the kids. If you planned on staying home to be a mommy or had a plan to go back to work -- that's one thing. If you have a supportive husband then THAT is how you can "get out" of the house if you need to -- friends/family (if they are around). If your husband isn't supportive enough to help you, you shouldn't have had the kids in the first place. Yes, I would freak out but I also would no personally have chosen that many children. Glad you are rich enough to take care of them though. That's great!!
2006-10-23 07:01:01 · answer #9 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Oh, honey, I don't even know how you do it with 3, much less a possible 4th. I think you either have to wait until you can take someone with you to help out, or wait until daddy is home and escape quickly by yourself or with just the baby.
2006-10-23 07:00:56 · answer #10 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋