About 3 years ago my best friends husband raped me... I told my friend first and all she wanted to know if I was going to press charges... And I did..We stopped talking and I really miss her being there when I needed her the most... I was thinking about looking her up just to see if there was a chance for a friendship.. I am just scared of what would happen.. I just wanna know if I am stupid to want to find her???
2006-10-23 06:55:49 · 19 answers · asked by sweetchic 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You're not stupid for wanting to find her at all. If it's what you really want then go for it! Just make sure you are prepared for what may happen. Maybe this is something better left where it is...in the past. Look forward, not back. Make new friends!
Slightly off-topic from this question, I've noticed from some of your questions you're in a long distance relationship. So am I and I know how hard it can be. So if you'd like someone to talk too, feel free to email me chucksbabygirl143@yahoo.co.uk
Good luck hun!
2006-10-23 07:10:55 · answer #1 · answered by ♥Sammi♥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not STUPID at all. You had a good friendship, until he
ruined everything. You were in the right and he was in the wrong.
I just don't understand people when they become in denial and
choose to stay with the rapist. That does not make any since at
all. If she can't see what her husband has done to you, then she
was not the person you thought she was. Go ahead and follow
your heart and see if thing have change, but just expect to be
rejected if she is still in denial. That's when you just walk away
and never look back, no matter how tempting it is. Hopefully
one day she'll snap out of the brain wash, because he has lots
to do with her action. Good Luck!! And if you have second
thoughts about all of this then, that's when you walk away.
2006-10-23 14:12:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You wanting to find your friend again is understandable, and she probably misses you also. But being confronted with each other again will prob reopen old wounds which she may not be able to tolerate. Would it not be better for you to leave this well alone and concentrate on meeting new friends and moving on, instead of contacting old friends and perhaps it setting you back?
2006-10-23 14:00:34 · answer #3 · answered by mizzsquitz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand you missing your friend, but she obviously was not that loyal to you. If I were her, and that situation happened, I wouldn't care a bit about my husband! I would have gone WITH you to press the charges. You do not need friends like that. You sound like a nice person, and you deserve nice friends. Please don't try to hook back up with her. Best wishes to you!
2006-10-23 13:59:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you still remembering her? that is a big surrrrrprizzzzzzzzzzzzze. are you human being? you pressed the charges, how do you expect her to be with you? even if she has brocken up with her hubby, (which does not seems so) a wall of seperation has been already created in her family life.
you better not revive those memories again. these wounds does not heal easily.
the answer to your question is: ofcourse you are wrong baby.
2006-10-23 14:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by Ashok Chavda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she didn't stand beside you shes not a real friend. It doesn't matter what they've been through she shouldn't condone rape no matter who does it. Go find you some friends who will be there for you when the going gets rough and let her live her life with that crazy man.
2006-10-23 14:20:16 · answer #6 · answered by a.rose19 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not, call her and maybe ask her to meet you for lunch. Tell her you miss her as a friend and would like to talk and resolve what happened. What her husband did isn't either of your faults. If she doesn't want to then you'll know for sure and not bother with it anymore.
2006-10-23 14:05:04 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since your best friend wasn't there for you when you needed her the most and since she wasn't loyal to you, I would let the friendship go. If I was your best friend, I would go with you to file charges against him for sexual assault and careless about him! She is DEAD wrong for standing by her man and leaving you standing alone. I know you're a sweet person, and you deserve to have friends who will be there for you. Let her go and move on with your life.
2006-10-23 14:08:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep. You are. sorry. You destroyed everything she held dear and now you want to make nice?
you ended the relationship when you pressed charges. I'm not saying you were wrong to press charges you were absolutly right in doing that. Unfortunatly your relationship with her became a casualty.
I'd move on and look for other friends.
2006-10-23 14:00:25 · answer #9 · answered by .... 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sorry that happened! But you will never know unless you try. Give it a shot, because the worst thing that she can do is tell you not to bother her again. You won't be in the wrong either way.
Good Luck & God Bless!
2006-10-23 14:00:08 · answer #10 · answered by The Mystic One 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋