he has cheated on her twice with me after the first time i thought he felt bad to not do it again but he did. now i dont know what to do cause he was talking about beig with me but i dontknow if he will cheat on me like he has with her.
2006-10-23 06:48:12 · 28 answers · asked by bbb h 1 in Social Science ➔ Sociology
Once a cheater always a cheater.
2006-10-23 06:50:11 · answer #1 · answered by Justina 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well, everyone would love to think that people change, blah blah blah. But from my experience, once a cheater, always a cheater. Once they realize how easy it is odds are they'll do it again. And even if they don't you obviously already question it. Not a very healthy relationship to start out in, constantly questioning, and already not trusting. I say, cut it off now while you still can, and don't look back. You're better than that, and no one deserves to be cheated on.
2006-10-23 13:52:32 · answer #2 · answered by rushorty417 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ever heard this: "When in doubt, you can live without" ?
What ever happened to emapthy?
How would you feel in his girlfriend's shoes? Would you respect him more or less than you do now? I ask this because he has already shown you his true colors.
And the fact that you accept him anyway, regardless of his lack of integrity, tells me that you are willing to make excuses for him. And he knows that. It gives him permission to be deceptive and dishonest. And since you don't require those things from him, he will cheat on you. Why not? You give him permission to be the way he is, by not holding him accountable.
Do you honeslty think that YOU will change him or make him see the "error of his ways"? Is that a challenge to you? If it is, you are fooling yourself. That's just like buying cute shoes that are three sizes to small (because they're so cute) and hoping they will fit someday. (Even of you did manage to squeeze into them, they will be excruciating).
In any new relationship, your body makes all kinds of chemicals that give you a "high" or a rush. These chemicals are good for about 36 monthe, then they dwindle and give way to chemicals that promote a long-term feeling of comfort, security, and accpetance.
If you already know this guy's a cheater, and you have condone his behavior by accepting that, then it is fooliish to become emotionally invested in him. You would be setting yourself up for pain and betrayal. Once those new relationship chemicals dwindle, he will cheat on you to experiene them with someone else. That is what serial daters, or players, do.
I would raise my standards in men if I were you. This guy clearly isn't worthy. You can do so much better, and you deserve better. Let others make excuses for him to keep being dishonest and deceptive.
You clearly know this. It is apparent on your uncertainty. When you find a guy who really loves and cares for you, you will be as certain of his feelings for you, as you are of your own first name. His behavior would be consistent with his words.
When those two things don't match, you are being played. (And your intelligence insulted, your feelings manipulated).
Wise up girl, and dump him before he hurts you (or gets you pregnant or gives you an STD). There are so many other better men out there just waiting for you to notice them.
Find a guy who is so good to you and consistent in his words and behavior, that you want to call all your friends and brag about him to them.
Find a guy who is sincere and has empathy.
Find a guy who does not ever cause you to question, wonder, and worry about how he feels about you.
Find a guy you don't have to figure out on yahoo answers.
2006-10-23 14:36:40 · answer #3 · answered by pandora the cat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think to understand why someone does something you must look at what motivates their actions. In a general sense I’ve know a lot of men who cheated on their girlfriend but do not cheat on their wives. How long has he been dating his girlfriend? Why does he date his current girlfriend, economic and social factors? Having said that you know that he is a liar to some degree and probably can’t be trusted to be a monogamous companion at this stage in his life.
2006-10-23 14:37:28 · answer #4 · answered by DAN D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, you best believe if he cheated on her with you, he will cheat on you with the next pretty face that strikes his fancy, he obviousy either has not control, has a tremendous lack of respect in his realtionship, does not value or respect his gilfriend. And you are the other women, now you want to be the women he cheats on. Really think about this, your not special to him, you were just the girl who was willing to deal with a man knowing he already had a girlfriend.Good luck, Wake up girlfriend, he is not worth having. God bless
2006-10-23 13:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Run do not walk away! If he cheated on her then there is a good chance that he will cheat on you as well. People who are unhappy in a relationship need to either work to make it good or move on. He has no respect for her or their relationship and somehow you think that will change for you?
People make choices in their lives just some don't learn from them.
2006-10-23 13:53:26 · answer #6 · answered by Subi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If I didn't think you were a dumb teenager, I'd call you some unprintable names. What's up with girls like you? huh? Why do you think it's ok? How do you just go break up someones relationship like that? Do you think if he gets with you, he won't ever cheat on you with some other girl on the side? I'd stay on 'yahoo answers' for a while. If you do get with him, his new girlfriend will be asking the same question you've just asked. Hopefully with much better grammar and punctuation though.
2006-10-23 13:52:51 · answer #7 · answered by monie0078 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That's easy. Once a cheater, always a cheater. Even if he never cheated on you, you will always remember he cheated on her with you and wonder if he's doing the same again. Bad news.
2006-10-23 13:51:18 · answer #8 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If he cheats with you, he will cheat on you
he might just be in to the thrill of sneaking around when he's with you
you're better than helping a guy cheat on his girl....
2006-10-23 13:52:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on his current girlfriend, do you really think he won't cheat on you? And why are you sleeping with another girl's man?
2006-10-23 14:15:37 · answer #10 · answered by sean_stout2001 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
cant say he will cheat on you but the fact that he can do that with you to her, means he is capable of doing it to you. But he cheated on her with you and he is now saying he wants to be with you why did he have to cheat on his girlfriend twice to realise that, almost like your playing second best. And him saying he wants to leave her and him leaving her are two different things.
2006-10-23 13:54:11 · answer #11 · answered by zvls 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋